Women fake because culturally, no one is taught the actual mechanisms of female orgasm, and a lot of men get really mad (some women too) when you tell them how the anatomy actually works. You like your boyfriend, but you know, he's never going to be willing to give your orgasm the same priority he gives his own, he (and you maybe) thinks you're broken for not orgasming the way they do it in porn, you may not even know what you like, and everywhere you turn for answers you hear wives tails, factual errors, people are too vague or the illustrations are even labeled wrong. We have a HUGE problem in Western society with this essential conspiracy to rob women of pleasure, but still huge pressure to "say" we are pleasured, because when we say that we aren't, it usually starts more fights than it's worth. A lot of men just simply are not at all prepared for the truth, and really don't want it in many cases, and we may not even have the vocabulary and knowledge of sex techniques and anatomy to even help the poor guy pleasure us if we could tell the truth.
Women who know what they want and how to get it in bed are often shamed as whores, sluts, persecuted for being feminist or even just sounding a little feminist, called liars even when we can produce the scientific data... you name it.
So, really, why on God's green Earth would you expect women NOT to fake? Our sex-obsessed yet ultra uptight culture virtually guarantees it.
And no, I don't blame men for being bummed when it happens and they find out.
The whole phenomena is sick, sex-negative, and hurtful to relationships.
Best response on this thread. It pretty much sums up every reason why a woman fakes it 👌👌
Typical feminist playing the victim, as always.
@HandsomeGuy500 He he he. You just proved my point.
I did it at the very start of our sexual relationship. We were both 16, we were both virgins, neither of us had any real experience with that kind of stuff and we were both awkward. I had never really masturbated either so I wasn't even actually sure I could cum, I knew that a lot of women said they couldn't. So, the first couple of times, I was upset but unsurprising that I wasn't having orgasms, I assumed that either I couldn't, or I was doing something wrong. I didn't want to tell him that I wasn't because obviously it was all new to him too and it was still enjoyable and I didn't want to damage his confidence or make him feel bad. So I faked it, partly out of fear something was wrong with me, resignation that it just wasn't gonna work and reluctance to say something to hurt him. I felt that they were pretty good reasons at the time. Obviously, then he actually did make me cum, like on the third time or something and I was like 'holy shit' and had to admit to him that I'd been lying, he was pissed 'cause obviously lying about that is stupid, it's way better to just be honest and constructive and then things improve rapidly, as I found out. So yeah, I know now that faking it is dumb as balls but, back then, I felt that I had a good number of reasons as to why I should and I assume they're similar reasons for other women.
I don't do it because I've never felt the need to - if I'm not 100% into it or if I feel it won't happen, I'll let him know. Either it happens or it doesn't. I'd rather be honest and let him know so that he won't keep doing things that obviously do nothing for me. Because that's the sort of hole you're digging for yourself if you fake it, your man will think certain things feel good to you even though they don't. So he won't feel the need to do anything different because he thinks you're already happy with what you're getting.
From what I can tell, girls fake because:
- They don't want to hurt their partner's feelings by telling them they're doing something wrong. (But in the long run this is only harmful to the relationship... and if your partner can't take some criticism in bed then their ego is wayyyy too fragile)
- They're shy about their sexuality and would rather pretend everything is good than have an open discussion about what works and what doesn't (totally understandable since girls get shamed for their sexuality all. the. time.)
- Sometimes the sex is ok but not like mind-blowingly good so they'd rather get it over with than have a whole discussion about their sex life.
- Maybe they're used to having bad sex and think that that's just what it's supposed to be like.
I usually don't do that. Like.. 99.9% of the time, my orgasms are completely legit.
Once in a blue moon I might act more into the session than I truly am that particular time because I know my boyfriend is super keen to get me off at least once each time. Even if I let him know that I just don't think it'll happen (because of stress/fatigue and whatnot), he insists on continuing to try and make it happen. So.. I don't feign orgasm but will pretend like I'm closer to climax than I really am. &hey, sometimes an actual orgasm will catch me by surprise, too.
It's the age old issue. Females will just try to give us the excuse that they don't want to "hurt our ego" and all that, but no man ever feels that faking does his ego any service. Then they try to say guts get mad if you tell them they're doing it wrong. I doubt most men get upset if you take his hand and show him and say, "Like this."
Faking Os is ultimately a woman's lack of courage in communication laced with psychological excuses.
Damn. Well said.
@Pegases I keep it real.
Just go KILL THA FUCKIN BITCH KILL the BITCH and AND walked away don't FO GETS THA evince what u killed HER WITH
I would know a girl faking because when a girl orgasms her vaginal walls swell up immensely around your penis and throb, you can't fake that! Its an involuntary reaction to a real orgasm. So if there is no swell then she's faking. But, its not rocket science dudes, just be a giver and dont expect her to climax as fast as you, you selfish lover... lol
Thats pretty much how i see it as well and besides if she doesn't get off and i do than give me a min and ill make sure u get what u want haha that hasn't happened to me yet but i honestly woulf love it bc then i get off 2 times and usually the girls get to get off multiple times and not us guys
@Mattjb83 yes yes yes
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Sometimes you feel bad about telling your SO it ain't happening. Especially if you are one of those who just cannot no matter what during intercourse and your partner is really trying.
HOWEVER this is not really a excuse. My ex whom was last person I was with knew this and understood my body so I always climaxed before intercourse so there was never expectations which made things much easier. And if I couldnt even climax from foreplay then I would also just say I am not in right headspace. He knew I was just honest so it wasn't a issue but I couldnt help but notice he would look like his ego was hurt when I did say I couldnt.
Your comment sounds so near-reality. I would always wish that the girl gets even more pleasure from sex than me. I guess I have a similar issue and I would need to talk with my (nonexistent) Girl about me feelings, my wishes and so forth to find a way with her to deal with it.
The reason I’ve faked it because it was my last resort. If the guy won’t listen to me about what I like or shit at taking directions, I fake it to be over so I can get the fuck outta there. 😂
to make your man feel better about himself
Women fake it because they're never taught what it's actually supposed to feel like, only what they are supposed to look like when they're "having one." A lot of women aren't really sure they are having one, and this leads to insecurity on both ends.
You know the adage that you're not supposed to tell someone you love them for the first time during/ right after climax (for men)? asking a women "did you orgasm" right after a man climaxes is a similar situation. It would kinda hurt if someone said, well I don't or I know... Honestly, It would most likely kill the guys mood. That's why most girls don't speak up, because silence in this situation is better than outright "rejection." Many guys expect validation when they ask her if she got off, and if they don't get it, they react accordingly. It's a biased scenario, where the only "acceptable" answer is really yes.
If she is honest and says no, its assumed that there's something wrong with the girl , and/or she can be "fixed" in the future. No one likes feeling like their bodies are used to feel like an achievement... that the ability to make her biologically orgasm is more important than focusing on the emotional experience of sex. If men are less concerned with "anatomy" and actual skill and appropriate timing, then they will most likely get genuine feedback. For example, why is the male ego too fragile to handle penis size jokes? Breast size don't make someone better at sex, and neither does penis size. But its completely acceptable for men to prefer certain size breasts but not women to prefer certain size penis?
You're contradicting yourself at the end there. You're saying sizes doesn't matter, but then defending people's right to have bias for size?
Do you prefer certain eye colours/ body types? Everyone has preferences. And I’m not saying people limit their pool to just these preferences. But if a friend was trying to hook you up with someone, they’ll take certain things into account. I’m bisexual and prefer women with smaller boobs and i prefer men with average penis. Obviously the second I can’t know until I’m in bed With him. Heaven forbid, that someone can accept that they’re a “normal” guy and not some great Porno stud. Worse off, if someone is below average and he ask if he’s big, I have found “no” to be followed by huge insecurities that I don’t want to deal with... and I don’t.
I feel you now, well said.
Just plain stupid. TELL me, you're struggling to get there! I want that information. You think you won't cum if I lift you up and play you like a banjo? Alright well challenge accepted, let's find out!
I refuse to believe the orgasm won't come, and I'll be damned if I'll accept defeat in less than 2 hours!!! Just give me time, we'll blow this little kitty up, mark my words see 😏
But, honestly, if it's someone I don't care about? Knock yourself out, I don't care... Once you cum (or fake cum) I'm not stopping until I do, so buckle up
At times ok, since it gets us climax but we do feel for her.. want her to climax too
Girl on top works all the time? I've never finished while riding and when you fake it your really just cheating yourself
I believe this is true! My current girl only has orgasmed while on top.
But I never have so it's obviously not true for all women
I need to be very relaxed to be able to have an orgasim and I'm not when I'm riding
Well, if it were to happen and I knew of it I would most likely feel like I just wasn't good enough in bed or maybe like I had gone about things incorrectly. I would also feel sad for my mate that I couldn't give her the experience of achieving a climax and I would beat myself up about it but, I also would try to work with her to find a way to help her to get the fulfillment that she needs as well by doing research and trying new things. We wouldn't give up. Where there's a will there's a way.
A to the men.
I've only done that once, when a guy was so concerned with whether I was close yet that it stressed me out. He asked me like 4 times. He was just super insecure about it. Like if I didn't have an orgasm after 10 min. He wasn't a real man. I had to stop seeing him.
I kind of feel like it's only needed for insecure guys. It's pretty well known that women differ when it comes to ease of orgasm and often take longer or require a lot more stimulation in a larger variety of ways. If it doesn't work out every time then it should not make a guy feel like a failure and most women wouldn't present it that way either unless he clearly isn't trying. She should be working with him to give him the best chance of getting her there if he's not quite doing it for her. If that means involving toys, for example, then he should be okay with doing that.
It's worth mentioning that this is not exclusively a problem for females. There can be times where a guy might struggle to get there too and the same things apply in reverse. Guys are more likely to be able to cum but there are still those cases where they might not. We can't fake it as easily so we don't tend to even try.
1. I really really want to O
2. if it's not going to happen this time and even lube won't prevent chaffing, then why not act out an O to end it IF he's been satisfied but not going to stop when asked?
Plenty of time to discuss all that later for real.
I feel you ma :)
Because you lie. And if he ever finds out it hurts even more. I can accept if my girl isn't in the mood but lying to me to get over with it is just damn cruel.
Oh, he finds out later b/c we both want ti to happen = the only way to make it happen is feedback... it worked/works, pal unless the guy is some patsy cry baby
I have never done this... I just tell the guy the truth. Its usually due to things other than him.
I’ve done it before because I didn’t want them to feel bad or like they weren’t good enough.. or maybe the sex was so bad you want it over with.
Yup thrice. I just wanted the guy to stop bc I already to him what to do still wasn’t doing it right and I was bored.
As a guy who values honesty I don't like if my lady fakes orgasm. It's essential that she enjoys it too, her orgasm is as important as mine, it doesn't make me feel more of a man if she fakes it. A couple together can learn what and how to do... As for why women do it? Dunno, insecurities perhaps... For me if my lady has an orgasm I am happy, if she doesn't, we try everything we can to make it happen, if still it's a dud, than... Next time perhaps... Learning takes time.
Because a man’s ego is fragile
This one killed me 😂😂😂😂
You are only ruining your own sex life by faking it, the guy is still getting off, and you are lying there unsatisfied, and it's your own fault.
Don't fake it. If a guy needs improvement let him know. We can't get better if we don't know anything is wrong.
Sometimes, try as I can, I can’t.
My partner has a much shorter fuse than me; we’re talking under 5 minutes.
I know he likes it when I climax so when I can’t I will just sort of pretend to please him. But most of the time he knows it was too quick for me and he’s too out of it to go for round two.
Good job I’m like a sex camel.
So - would help you: Foreplay, slow-motion, more interruptions where he can reload his timespan and more oral stimulation - or what else would you need to orgasm?
I've done it when I was younger. The guys on here all say that they want the truth, but some guys take it personally. The fact of the matter is the reason for the orgasm gap is that a good chunk of men do not know how to get a woman off. It isn't something their taught and it isn't something they are even told to particularly care about. The female orgasm isn't that elusive, it just takes a bit more effor then the male. And some women can't get there through penetration alone. Faking it only sucks for the faker but I get why some people feel the need to do it.
Sometimes you kinda have to do it because it's rude not to
What makes it rude?
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