Girls, Female Masturbation?

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This is primarily for women and girls within the age range of 18-25 who masturbate.

For religious as well as personal reasons, I intend to remain a virgin until marriage. However, I am a hormonal girl with certain urges and needs, and have resorted to fantasies and masturbation to keep these feelings at bay and satisfy myself. The thing is, in my religion its still technically sin to masturbate (some of my also-religious friends don't follow this rule, some do, so I don't really know what to believe) but I figured it would be better to masturbate, with no lasting effect, than actually engage in premarital sex and lose my virginity, which I can't get back. Opinions? (Preferably from someone who is religious or follows a religion with similar views)

Also, I want to know A) whether masturbation desensitizes you as time goes on, or even worse desensitizes you to sex with a partner, and B) how many times a week is normal to masturbate.
A) I started out using my own hand, then recently upgraded to a vibrator (not focused on the clitoris, but also non-penetrative). I'm a bit afraid that upgrading to a vibrator, or even just masturbating regularly, will make me less able to enjoy sex, or make it harder to orgasm. Anyone with experience ever have this issue?
B) I masturbate typically 1-3 times a week. I would say the most I've ever done is five MAX, and that is extremely rare. 1-2 is most common, sometimes 3, but rarely more than that. Is that normal? I feel from looking at some articles online that most women don't masturbate that much, but I'm a college student, and being surrounded by attractive guys and people screwing like rabbits... it makes it a little harder to stay level-headed, I guess.

I'm sorry if this is TMI, but I'm really curious and desperate for an answer. I have a lot of female relatives but don't feel comfortable about talking to them, or my friends, about this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Mylovely · Accepted Answer

Im going to comment on the religious aspect that you brought up. Im Catholic, and like you intend to stay a virgin until marriage. Masturbation is actually a really hot topic right now with a lot of Catholic speakers - primarily directed to youth. Which from my experience has been that women are completely not phased by masturbation and men are completely addicted... which is a hugely false accusation to make!
However, what is clear by the Church is that masturbation is sin simply because one is engaging in a form of sex outside of marriage.
I can absoluetly understand your perspective about choosing masturbation over having sex, which is a permanent choice... What I suggest you do is to look up speakers like Matt Fradd or Jason and Christina Everet... they can help a lot to help understand some of the theology behind anything. Even if yoir not Christian, theyre a very engaging group of people and you spund like someone who can benefit from some of the answers they have.
This response is kind of all over the place - but I've worked in Youth Ministry with my church for a number of years and have experience doing talks like this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's rare for a person to permanently desensitize their clitoris. You'd have to be masturbating excessively for long periods of time to do that, and from what described, your habits are average. It's more common for people to temporarily desensitize themselves, but just taking a break for a little while usually helps that. It sounds like nothing to worry about for you though. Your masturbation habits sound extremely common. I've read before that over 80% of women masturbate, and most of them do it 2-4 times per week.

Band_freak · Answer

Masturbating can desensitize you but I'm pretty Sure, taking a break for like a month can help with that 😊

toogoodatgoodbyes · Answer

Its fine to masturbate cos its normal to do it, our body actually need/ crave for it, and its healthy

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