sounds like the spark is gone. could be some performance anxiety or some emotional baggage between you, but if the guy is cumming early and then stops participating entirely, they are being a bit selfish.
see if you can't help him learn how to make you come in interesting ways. blow him like a pornstar when he is finished to try and get him back into the game. and try a long kissing session before sex to try and get the mental juices flowing. open mouth, tongue, hands wandering. use your imagination.0 0 0 0you guys need to spice up your sex life, and you that is only possible, if your boyfriend is also willing to do it, but it sounds like, that he's not willing to do that. Maybe he's very tired and thats why he acts that way,. you should try doing that, when he has a day off from work, and he's not tired
1 0 0 0I’ve been trying for months! i think he’s just got really lazy
hmm, well then he did got really lazy. But if he really loves you and cares about you, then you should try to talk to him, by being a little emotional, You getting what im trying to say? get some tears in your eyes, and say "I really want to have sex with you, but it seems like you dont care about me anymore, etc"
U think that would work? worth a go
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dont get down too quickly. you guys may be tired from having the baby. the first few years of child rearing sometimes aren't very sexy. if its just been a few months i wouldn't freak out, that may cause anxiety and make it worse.
0 0 0 0Our child is nearly one lol
learning to walk, still in bottles, draining everyones mental and emotional energy... i would not freak out...
Yeah still doesn’t always sleep though the night!! either but it’s me dealing with that because he’s got work
Just tell him exactly what you told us. But you guts could be exhausted cause of baby.
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1 20My advice would be to tell him how you feel and to explain to him that you loved the way it used to be before.
If it's feasible, I would suggest planning a little road trip for a day or two just to rekindle the spark.
There are plenty of local hotels and Airbnb's everywhere that can provide you two with alone time in a nice romantic and new setting :)
I wish you two the best of luck!0 0 0 0Since you have a kid together, it's important that both of fix this, especially since you say you love him. Is there anyone that can watch the kids while you get away for a few days together?
Try to be positive about getting him to do something different, rather than it being complaining on your part. It sounds like he may be stressed out.0 0 0 0We don’t have anyone to watch the kids for a few days at the minute. Yeah I think that’s the hardest part finding out how to bring the situation up with out hurting his feelings, nagging, knocking his confidence etc
take this post that you just wrote and tell him exactly that whole thing it will get the point across, honest communication. also it sounds like the problem is more on his end he just doesn't try any more
0 1 0 0I discuss this with many people. In most cases, it's a behaviour or action of his woman that kills it for men. Yes contraceptives not only prevent pregnancy, but kills the craving for sex in women. You should try to find out from him what turned him off and accept his answer.
0 0 1 0So u think I could be the problem?
Not necessarily, I'm just pointing out a possibility. But from my research it is a common factor. Its down to you both being able to communicate your true feelings. Try to identify the cause instead of the effect.
Yeah good point
How about a threesome. Add another cock to the equation.
0 0 1 1Haha!! no I think that would just create a whole load of insecurity issues
Sounds to me like he is the problem, might not really understand the problem.
0 0 0 0Wow so many duchebags here...
I'd say tell him and think of a solution, after all its a relationship and both your needs are important and I suggest that u leave other people out of it, I mean three ways and things like that, they'll ruin your love and from what you said its like love is really important to you.
Though u can make it more special with making it less frequent but more romantic u know? Play some smooth jazz... I don't know.1 1 0 0Oh that sucks and very sorry to hear that. You sound amazing and have def gone all out and did your part to keep things going. That is so sweet. It sounds like he’s got issues or no longer interested? Cheating? Might want to try counseling? Do you talk? Does he still want to be together?
0 0 0 0You should let him know that you need more passion and he needs to care about your needs. Have a discussion with him as soon as you can
0 0 0 0It's because you have a baby, probably.
0 0 0 0You need to be honest with him, tell him you both need to rev it up. Communication is key 😁
0 1 0 0Welcome to married life. Even though you are not married, this is what happens after you have been together for a while, have kids, and other life responsibilities. To break the funk try taking a trip or even just a date night at a hotel room just the 2 of you.
0 0 0 0Yeah that would be nice
Does it get better?
Sometimes it does... other times we had to do more to spice things up in our bed.
Try new. positions if ur body allows
0 0 0 0I know if you love each other it will work out. I want to illustrate something i think very important you said. You need to kiss passionately... he probably does too. And about the selfish stereotypical man. If thats really true I am sorry, some ideas...
1) masturbate more, and make him part of it.
2) men can also be trained to not enjoy sex without their partners equal satisfaction. Its like law.
3) wake up early slowly together... the best sex advice for mom and dad's without sitters...0 0 0 0Talk to him about cuckolding, and require it.
0 0 1 0Lol.
Huh?
dont you think you bored with same dick? time to do more sex with new dicks, its practical solution.
0 0 0 4I like ur thinking. but I’d rather have sex with the same dick in different ways! i won’t stray we either fix it or I walk away
thousands of girls frustrated because of that, the same issue as yours, less sex no attraction. having sex with the choice is always good, your story sounds you went too far, nearly into frustration phase.
Passion waxes and wanes no matter how much you love someone. If you focus on your feelings for him and maybe try some new things, the passion will come back. kids don't help the freaky factor either.
0 1 0 0Be honest about your needs
start taking care of yourself.
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0 0 0 4Have you gained weight? That turns us off at times, maybe it’s the fact it’s in the same place, maybe change areas, go away somewhere, do it in the car or some place while hiking or beach
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