Have you ever had a threesome with?

In regards to our sex life, my girlfriend and I are pretty adventurous and we have done some pretty wild sexual things. The most recent thing we did was have public sex at a swingers club during Halloween, which was pretty fun.

When we discussed our sexual fantasies, she mentioned that she would like to try a threesome one day (she wants to do a MMF threesome). I mentioned to her that I would like to try a MFF threesome). If you are not up to date with terminology MMF = 2 males and 1 female and MFF = 1 male and 2 females. Anyway, we both mentioned that we would not jump into this right away, but we will make it happen in the near future.

My birthday is in 4 months, and I am heavily thinking about carrying out this threesome idea, because it seems wild and she seems really into it also and tells me she likes women as well. However, to make the threesome easier, I was thinking it would be a good idea if she invited a female friend of hers for the threesome. I actually don't know her friends, but she said she would need to feel comfortable with the female before we engage in a threesome... so why not a friend of hers?

So, this leads to my question. Have you ladies or men ever had a threesome with your significant other and their friend? What was it like? Did it ruin their friendship? Did it ruin your friendship?
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  • I've had threesomes with most of the women I've dated. Never has the threesome itself ruined the relationship, what I noticed is it actually prolonged the relationship, they so far have all failed in the end.

    My piece of advice, which WILL cause problems is not saying or respecting redlines. If someone says for example that they are unhappy with you doing something with the other woman, things start heating up, don't start doing stuff with the other woman. If she feels more comfortable than she expected, let it happen the next time. Also, setup a signal or code word prior between the two of you in case something that you don't think will effect each other, when actually in the act does bother the other person, and respect that request.

    Friends can be weird, especially after, but regardless let her control who the woman is, if you pick you will be giving the impression that you just want to sleep with the other woman, not a good impression to give. It can be fun to look online together, if that's a route you take, but her comfort is paramount.

    Last piece of advice, in the MFF scenario, don't have outside contact with the other woman, the level of jealously that will be more than you could imagine, same concept in the MMF, she should avoid contact with the other male.

    Good luck and have fun.

  • I had a FFM 3some in my Junior year at college. My girlfriend had a hot roommate who asked her if she could join us. My girlfriend was a bit hesitant buy I obviously thought it was a great idea. Log story short all of us spent an afternoon and evening/night naked having a lot of sex. Yes we took breaks for pizza, beer and a shower. But there were a lot of orgasms for all of us. The next day I was kinda sore but I had a big smile. It never happened again but it was fun. Both girls were on the pill which helped so we did not worry about condoms.

    • Sounds awesome

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  • I'm planning on having a threesome with my boyfriend and my bff soon, but I'm into it cuz it's my idea. I would probably get mad at him If he suggested it. Girl logic hahahahha
    Also, a few nights ago we played this one gane where we blindfolded him and each of us took turn sucking his dick and he had to guess who did it. I was completely into it so yeah. Myb just talk to her about it first and don't suggest it, ask her like this: "How would you like to do this? What's your suggestion? Would you be more comfortable if it was one of your friends?". That's my advice

    • Oh and also, talk about some rules and once you establish rules, don't break them obvs hahaha

    • Oh, I really liked you game of blindfolding him and each of you taking turns sucking his cock and he had to guess who did it first. I was just thinking how hot that would be if it was you and another guy taking turns sucking his cock and he had to guess who did it first. Or, a contest to see who did it better! Or a contest where each person took turns sucking his cock for 30 seconds at a time. The idea is to see who's mouth he's going to cum in. As to the question you raised, If it's going to be a threesome with 2 women, it might be better if it was with someone you don't know. That way you two wouldn't feel weird the next day. Or, that way he wouldn't have her number, only you. That way, if you wanted to do it again, YOU would be in charge of calling her and asking her over to do it again.

  • Don’t do it. I had one with one of my friends and her boyfriend. She didn’t want to involve a stranger and asked me. There were all kinds of ground rules and he wasn’t supposed to penetrate me. I agreed to it because I thought it would be fun to try. Well it didn’t go as planned. He put it in me and started having sex. It was awkward because how do you stop a guy once he’s started? She didn’t object or anything, so I let him finish. Later she was furious with me and our friendship was never the same.

    • So he came inside you?

    • No he pulled out because I wasn’t on the pill at the time. Plus I hadn’t even planned to have sex with him because she had said he wouldn’t.

    • Respecting the rules going in is the most important thing. They probably didn't last much longer either. He sounds like a dick.

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  • I’d be a lot more nervous if it was a friend. Actually I don’t think I would have a friend join. I get her saying she’d want someone she is comfortable with, but I wouldn’t want to face that person again

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  • The thing to do is ask her who she finds attractive, ask her to make a list sometime when you are in bed and maybe have had a little to drink, and then pick your favorites from that list and talk strategy about how you can get these people into bed.

  • I had FFM with my current wife and her friend, several times over the course of a vacation. It was great at the time especially as the friend initiated lesbian sex with her. Even with this very casual situation though, it got complicated as my SO found her friend and I kissing alone. We are not even trying to hide it, and it felt natural as her friend was staying with us (in her own room). Natural meaning, the friend and I were making love to my SO each day, and making love with her present, so it did not seem like a big deal to be kissing when she was doing something else. Anyway, a few years later, they are no longer friends.
    I know my SO would not have be comfortable with the lesbian activity if she did not know the other woman. But, it would have made more sense to try it with someone who was not a friend and not someone we would see after the experience.

  • I did, only once. Actually, it was kind of sweet. I totally recommend it.

    • It was kind of "sweet"? LOL what the hell does that mean? I'm really curious now as to what all took place.

  • I've had an MFF (and MMF) wirh my last girlfriend n her best friend. Was unreal. We only had one condition... hers... i was not to penetrate her friend. We had an amazing night in bed and all three if us cummed many times. The MMF was just as hot too

  • We had a MMF with my girlfriend s ex. He was huge and had a special like for me than her. It was awesome

  • Nope saddly I'd like to. I have a feeling it could destroy relationships

  • I've had a threesome with the girl i was seeing.. it was really crazy... example: you are having sex with a mans wife and he is watching it... overall it was really fun.. but be prepared... I had FFM... it was the best orgasm ever... and I would do it again... did feel weird in the end

  • We're having one tonight! ;)

    • You lying

    • What would I have to gain by lying on such a thing?

    • I was joking😂

  • Threesome can get out of control and seldom ends well since only one gets the attention. I’d suggest to go for a foursome with strangers. You gotta meet them and talk before. My girlfriend and I did it with a married couple and it went well. It actually brought us closer together because we felt we could better trust each other.

  • Yes , good , no , no

  • Not yet.

    • But open too have one?

  • Yes with MF

  • Dont know if planning really works, I heard from others that usually the girl decide. I was lucky once, we did a party at home with my girlfriend and when everyone left, we stayed with a girl I knew well. We were drinking and talking until I suggested to have sex together. I was careful to start with my girl as she didn't know about the other one and me. Was definitely best experience ever, we ended having dirty sex until lunch.

  • I've had4 mmf 1 ffm I would definitely do them again

    • Mmf was with girl best friend and friend and same girl and a girl I just meant

  • We had an MFM unplanned. My girlfriend, best friend and I were hanging out one night, loaded and getting progressively more and more flirty,. For some reason we were smacking her butt, then feeling up her tits, one on each side. The next thing you know we have all her clothes off doggy in the middle of the living room, she's blowing him and I'm fucking her from behind. Him and I do the obligatory high five and continue taking turns smacking her ass. The rest of the night was somewhat of a blur but distinctly remember her screaming like crazy.

    Afterwards we all crashed on the bed in a pile of exhaustion. After sleeping a while we all woke up and he had to leave. So getting dressed was a little awkward because we didn't know if she was going to be upset with regret. My buddy awkwardly says something like wow that was great, we'll have to get together again sometime soon. My girlfriend blurts out "how bout tomorrow night". We all busted out laughing and sure enough hooked up for another night of hot sex.

  • My girlfriend had done it before I came into her life.

    According to her this was the best afternoon. It was FMF. Her ex had crush on another girl. She said no problem. They did it at his place. Then they broke up.

  • threesomes are immoral, and ought to be illegal

  • I had a threesome mff with my girlfriend and a random stranger on tinder. We weren't even planning on it, things just sort of happened. But my girlfriend and I had been talking about it for a while before and we were pretty clear on what was okay and what wasn't. She was the "dick manager" so she decided all the time what was ok for her and we felt really comfortable the whole time. We were smiling like crazy the day after and I think doing crazy shit and being adventurous has improved our relationship. Some alcohol or weed always helps just saying.

  • I've had a 3 way with 2 friends. Mff. They loved it too. We're all in touch and both have suggested having one on ones again as well as a 3 way.

  • I’ve had mmf threesomes with married couples. Lots of fun.