How can I get better at giving head?

[Anonymous]

I gave head for the first time a few days ago as a gift to my boyfriend, but he unfortunately didn't ejaculate (he said if I did it for like 10 more min He would've) He told me that it felt really good and I could tell he did enjoy it as I did it because he kept moaning and cursing under his breath. But I noticed he started getting aggressive with me to take his dick all the way down my throat. He pulled my hair and started thrusting. I couldn't deepthroat and I ended up gagging. I had to take it out of my mouth. Is there anyway I can get better at giving head? Thanks! I did not use teeth so I don't think I did bad, but I did decent for my first fime.

[MarriedMan2388]

There are a few things that make a great blowjob... 1. Make it as wet as possible. The most wet and moist spit you can use is from your throat. if you brush your teeth and brush your tongue really far back, you will notice your spit will become much thicker.

2. The next big thing is your hands. Whatever you do, don't stop using your hands. Using your hands in between can save your jaw so much pain. stroke him as you are going down, play with his balls roughly, and don't be afraid to put your face into them as well (make sure he is somewhat cleaned and cleanly shaven first) massage his thighs or even reach up and scratch his chest firmly, not too hard.

3. Get into it. Yes giving a blowjob isn't the most favored by women, but if your giving a man head your focus should be on him, so moan and make sounds as though you can't get enough of him. Rub it all over your face. One thing that drives is setting a girl put all her hair into a pony tail. Either do that or put it all together and grab his hand to hold it for you.

Good luck hun... Go "blow" his mind ;)

[ParadoxInc]

My god... I'm so using this the next time a girl asks me what I'd like her to do different with head.

[AJKari]

Alright if you want to have a good time then do it like you see in porn. It feels pretty good, but it isn't going to get him off. Once you've decided you want that to happen you need to use your hands a lot more, unless you can replicate a lot of pressure and fast movements with your mouth. More than likely just use your hands as much as you need to and your mouth for whatever is left. Remember you are competing with him masturbating so some slow erotic porn bj isn't going to cut it. Also you should know that it is very common for guys not to cum from a bj, very very common actually. It's more foreplay than anything else.

Also he probably won't make a lot of noise tbh, remember he usually does this alone and you often times just try to get it done as efficiently as you can. Make sure you talk about where you want him to cum as well, those little things can keep him from getting there. Maybe try 69, that's my favorite personally.

Overall think of it as a massage more than a sexual act.

[Asker]

He told me that he doesn't masturbate or watch porn, so he said it has been 5 months since he's felt this good (from his ex)

[AJKari]

Oh he is lying lol. Not to be rude but there isn't a man alive, especially one under 30 that doesn't jack off. I am assuming you two are younger though, by the time guys get to 20 they get comfortable accepting that they jack off and so does everyone else. Slow and normal bjs do feel really good, just don't be surprised when he doesn't cum. It's really not a bad thing. Guys know that girls take pride in giving good head, and we like to get it. So you won't likely meet a guy that doesn't praise every bj you give.

[Asker]

He's 19 lol. And his excuse for not masturbating is that he didn't feel the need to since he had sex at such a young age. But that makes sense to why he didn't cum. I felt disappointed but my gag reflex is kinda weak, so it didn't feel right going extremely fast.

[AJKari]

He is totally 200% jacking off. It's fine too, it's a good thing in my opinion. Even I probably wouldn't admit it to a girl I was dating though. Whatever, just find a way you like to do it and it will be good. If the goal is to cum, it will be 90% a hand job. Same thing for him, I've never been with a girl I couldn't make cum because I do the same thing. It's all about hands (fingers) on the inside and tongue on the outside. Make sure to tell him how you like it, even if it's awkward at first talking about it is how you get past the awkward. God speed, and may you both have lots of quiet sweaty sex that makes weird noises and fart sounds when you're moving around each other.

[AJKari]

Lol since he had sex at such a young age lol this kid is jacking it twice a day at least

[JDavid25]

"Oh he is lying lol. Not to be rude but there isn't a man alive, especially one under 30 that doesn't jack off.".. He may or may not have been lyin but you know there are guys who really don't or even can't jack off right? XD

[AJKari]

Not really, maybe some that can't but if he had a dick he is playing with it. Some people tried to do a study like 20 years ago comparing age 20 or so males that masturbate vs non but they could not find even one control group member so they cancelled the study

[AJKari]

If you're in a healthy sexual relationship maybe, or if you're extremely religious I guess but I mean still it's a vast majority, and you don't hold back because "you had sex at such a young age".

[Asker]

He just told me that the reason he didn't cum was because he was nervous about hurting me and not that I wasn't good... does this sound legit?

[AJKari]

It's more likely that he has no idea why, it's really not a big deal though. People act like the climax is the only reason to have sex, maybe that's true in a hookup scenario but in a relationship it's all about "journey before destination". It's not where you're going, it's how you get there.

[JDavid25]

Well yeah many guys do beat the johnny, and I'd even say most of the guys we come across probably did or do it.. But there's too many people in the world to come to a solid conclusion.. Plus NoFap does exist.. LOL.. I think that many guys have beat it once sometimes in their life, but that doesn't mean most guys are beatin it at a frequent pace..

[desperatelyhungry]

I've given blowjobs to three different guys and I always tells them to tell me what they like. All 3 have had specific things they liked (one wanted me to suck on his balls, another wanted me to use teeth, things like that) so that helps because there are small things that some guys like better than others. One of the guys I've sucked had a huge dick and there was no way I could deep throat, in that case be sure to have your hand around the half that you can't suck and jack him off as you suck him. Like another user said, going fast is what gets a guy to come. I don't know if you've had sex or watch porn, but you'll notice that guys generally start thrusting faster when they're about to come. That's why your boyfriend was getting so aggressive towards the end; he was trying to come. So don't go fast the whole time; start out slow, but when he's about to come (you'll know, he'll either tell you or start to get aggreisve again) start sucking and jacking him off faster

[trh89]

Don't deepthroat if it makes you uncomfortable or just don't want to. Your vaginas much better than your throat anyway. As for the bj, use hands, one on the shaft and maybe some light ball play if he digs it. Maybe grab his thigh, every dude's different. As for your mouth, avoid teeth unless he digs it, but use your tongue generously on the tip and on the shaft once in a while to switch it up. Figure out a solid set of 3 or 4 moves and give him a variation. Read how he reacts to those moves from his breathing and stuff like that, and keep on the stuff he likes and he'll busy before you know it! Just make sure he's returning the favor once in a while.

[SpurtLover]

I'm sorry you didn't get his sperm on your first time sucking dick. That's a shame because he really should have ejaculated in your mouth because that is what you wanted.

[slatyb]

Your performance was fine. Don't worry if he didn't climax. Many men cannot climax passively no matter the skill of their partner. That is why your partner became more active.

If you want to get better, get a silicone dildo and practice deep-throating the dildo. You can learn to suppress your gag reflex with just a little bit of practice. Then you will be able to relax and "deep-throat" your boyfriend. If you do this he will probably propose marriage. :-)

[thomascale18]

Use lots of spit. Use varying motions like sucking on head while jacking off or full blown sucking.

[Dargil]

An effective blow job need not last any more than 10 minutes including foreplay. Most blow jobs go OK until orgasm/ejaculation is approaching. When they are, you should increase your intensity of sucking, bobbing and in-sync hand stroking; never pausing or slowing, down to keep him gaining arousal. When he reaches the point of bucking and heavy breathing ("he kept moaning and cursing under his breath"), he wants to cum quickly. That's when you "go frantic"; bobbing and sucking to just below the head; faster than before, if you can manage it, while separately stroking his shaft as fast as you can. When he starts to ejaculate, stop bobbing, but maintain vacuum and keep stroking fast until ejaculation stops. A BJ that does not ramp up intensity for the finish is why guys finish themselves.

[Grandbarmy]

First off tell him not to do that unless you really like it.

If you want to learn to deepthroat you can slowly train your gag reflex using your toothbrush every time you brush your teeth.

Otherwise my best advice is that to get someone to cum you have to find a rythm they love and stick with it. Changing it up is a lot of fun but it's also like a reset button on the big O. So choose when you want to keep going or try for the climax.

[koltepreetam]

you sshould have played with your tounge with his dick while its in your mouth...

[gobsmacked3]

I think the real question you should ask is why you are ok with your boyfriend imposing something on you ( forcing you to try to deep throat)

[Stan_Control_]

I always say: porn videos are the best tutorials.

[Decentguy]

Here you go

[cancan73]

You have to practice and deep throat doesn't = good blowjob
When he's thrusting it means start going harder and faster

[AJKari]

This^ deep throat is a cool trick but doesn't really feel crazy different and isn't going to help him cum.

[sebas123]

Just suck and lick like a lollipop.

[CT_CD]

Practice

[Fullmetal2099]

Practice, suck his dick more to get better or practise on others guys.

[davejonez]

The moistier the better

[Mkjr12]

Practice makes perfect

[Anonymous]

You stupid deepthroat him he'd adore you every single day of your life

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you were perfect. A guy should never force especially your first time! I don’t always cum either either, which is nice because I want to be and cum in her vagina. But Focus on the wetness of your mouth. Use your hand and nails while doing it? Do more teasing maybe and start at the head and suck and lick it for a bit. Then lick and work on the shaft and then take him in slowly a little at a time and then keep going as low as you can. Use a hand and massage his balls too. Moan too when giving it. The vibration feels good. These things work for me anyway. Everybody is diff. But I would never ever be aggressive.