My wife got a lap dance at a bachelorette party from a guy that was not a stripper. I found out two weeks after. Do you think guy got pretty handsy?

[advice2380]

[Murmug]

I stripped for 5 years. We got handsy and we don't even like sex. Men like sex even more and there is a vagina within grasp. But I'm not saying he grabbed her vagina but he probably definitely rubbed his ass on her. If he was a stripper than by all means I would say he got dirty but when I was dancing for the guys sometimes we would switch and make the men dance for us. Most of the time they just felt embarrassed and did stupid moves. None of them were bold enough to get chippendale style. Don't worry. He probably shook his butt in her face and did some stupid moves.

[advice2380]

Yea i hear you. So i told her a fantasy about kissing another guy about 6 month ago and since then behavior has changed

[Murmug]

You kissed a guy or you want her to? If her behavior has become slutty then you need to tell her it was just a fantasy that you DONT want to act out. If she keeps it up then she's just looking for a way to cheat and justify it.

[advice2380]

Not my fantasy yo kiss a guy i told her when i was tipsy one night about her doing it

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Was there a hired stripper that "this guy" was just dancing along with or competing with? Did "this guy" give your wife a lap dance while the hired stripper (if any) was performing? ... before? after? Is "this guy" a stranger or someone you wife (or even the bachelorette) knows? Lastly (but not the least), did "this guy" give another woman in the party a lap dance too besides your wife?

[advice2380]

No the stripper never made to the room. One of the girls went to get him was a short little guy and asked him to go. Then a friend of one the girls came to room. My wife said guy danced for her and other women.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

In that case, DON'T WORRY about anything at all. "This guy" was just filling in. He probably felt awkward even just a little bit.

[advice2380]

But it was just a friend of a girls.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

He was probably coerced to fill in and do the girls a favor. If your were asked to fill in as a HUGE FAVOR by a number of women including your wife, you probably would have done it. Or, maybe "this guy" is gay and didn't feel any shame helping out his gffs.

[advice2380]

Lol no not gay. Just seems weird told me two weeks after before it was not anyone

[goddess87]

Why would it make it any better or worse if he was a stripper or not?

[advice2380]

Stripper didn't even come to room girl didn't like her. So then a guy that was not a stripper was dancing on her at hotel

[advice2380]

So do bachelorette parties get crazy?

[Anonymous]

Those parties can get pretty wild. My wife revealed to me three months after a party like that, that she played around with the stripper.

[advice2380]

What really what did she do?

[Opinion Owner]

Fondled his balls and sucked his cock. She wasn't the only one doing it. I think it's pretty standard at those events.

[advice2380]

What did you say or do?

[Opinion Owner]

I was upset and hurt. I said some things that I regret saying. Later I asked her why she did it, and she said she was just kind of showing off. I asked her if she liked it, and she said no. Later on, during our dirty talk in the bedroom, I'd bring it up with her. I kind of made a joke of it. Like saying the next time we could show off together. I joked about me fucking her from behind while she sucked the stripper's cock. She says no, but she cums like crazy when we talk about it. lol

[advice2380]

Damn not a bad thing if you like if. If she likes it also.

[Opinion Owner]

I must admit that it really turns me on thinking about it. Just as long as it's not behind my back.

[advice2380]

Right. Nothing wrong with that. I think my wife wants to do more but scared to admit it.

[Opinion Owner]

For me, it's just something I want to see if I can handle. If it turns out that I can't handle it, then I want to put it out of my mind. But if I can, then I'd like to see where this road might take us. But you're right, admitting it (for either party) is a big thing. It's like you have to dance around the subject.

[advice2380]

Yea she seems to dance around it

[Opinion Owner]

I've talked to guys on another site who've been trying to get this off the ground for years, or even decades with their wives. It's a tough nut to crack. And one piece of advice from them is: You can never get the genie back in the bottle once it's out.

[advice2380]

What do you mean by that? You think will want more once happens

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. And even the wives say that they won't go back to monogamy. I can give you the link if you want.

[advice2380]

Can you pleaaex

[advice2380]

You have that link

[Opinion Owner]

ourhotwives. org Free site. You can read, but you can't post or view pics, unless you sign up. (Just like this site) Ask questions and ask for advice. It's a really nice group of people and they'll welcome you to the site. If you post a pic of your wife, they'll shower her with compliments.

[advice2380]

Thanks a lot man! When is last tome brought up to wife again what did she say?

[CheerGirl38139]

That's a real thing. I know someone that used to be a "hot wife" in that context.

[Opinion Owner]

Just the stuff about it being a fun fantasy and that fantasy should remain fantasy. lol I guess it takes patience.

[advice2380]

So what do you want to happen

[Opinion Owner]

Eventually I'd like to place a couples ad on a swinger site, saying we're looking for single males. But that's a ways down the road. There's a lot of tips I've read about that might help us get to that point.

[AustinTXGuy]

Relax, let her have her bachelorette fun memories without tarnish.

[Hummingbird1998]

Only if she let him do that

[advice2380]

Is it strange that a guy that was not stripper gave her a dance

[Hummingbird1998]

Would it make you feel better if the guy was calling himself stripper as in only doing is job?

[advice2380]

Stripper came to room girl didn't like him so they sent him home then she said a friend of one girls invited a friend over.

[Hummingbird1998]

Did he get paid afterwards?

[advice2380]

No guy didn't get paid. I get having a a stripper but this was just some guy

[Hummingbird1998]

You really shouldn’t look at it that way. If the guy was ordered to do a somewhat job even non profit in this case lol... you really shouldn’t be concerned

[advice2380]

No but real stripper went home. This guy was just a friend

[Hummingbird1998]

Back to the original question though! Trust your wife she should have enough will power to make sure hands and other body parts stay away from her.

[advice2380]

I get that. Next week she and her girlfriends going for yearly x mas thing they do but are staying at hotel. Dinner drinks in room the dance club. Never stay all night. 6 women.

[Hummingbird1998]

Mmmm that’s sounds like a lot of fun to me... 😏... sorry back to you. I do get it i would be nervous too if my man would do that. Trust plays a very very important role here.

[advice2380]

Lol at least you are honest lol.

[Hummingbird1998]

Heheh yup it’s better to be honest than trying to bulshit your way through it’ll always somehow backfire on you believe me on that. Don’t worry so much about it, just let her have a good time. She knows she has a man waiting for her at home.

[advice2380]

More to it i guess i think i created a monster

[Hummingbird1998]

Huh? Care to explain that? Lol

[advice2380]

I didn't meant to in follow you also. So about 6 month ago i told her a fantasy that i want her to kiss another guy. I was drunk. Well two days later asked about it. then talked a little here and there about it. I stopped talking about it then after i found got lap dance from just some guy she tells me see you can't handle more.

[Hummingbird1998]

You think she’s doing that cause you told her that you wanted her to kiss someone else? Yeah... maybe you gave her an idea there... you guys should work on it together if you have fantasies like that why not outlive them together?

[advice2380]

I totally agree but i feel like i get mixed feeling from her

[Hummingbird1998]

Naturally cause you both love each other and it’s not just sex that’s on the table. She doesn’t want to hurt you, knows you feel insecure about it on the other hand you tell her you want a three way. Who’s really giving the mixed signals?

[advice2380]

No i want it to happen you are so right but i have never been upset with her just confused cause she does not say what she really wants

[Hummingbird1998]

Mmm try to communicate better with her. You married this women for Christ sake if you can’t do it now then what’s gonna happen in what 10 or 20 years from now?

[Hummingbird1998]

Sorry i gotta go now... PM me if you want to chat some more later.

[advice2380]

Lol ok

[fauchelevent]

I doubt he did. That's not really part of a lap dance

[advice2380]

Her toe nail got fucked up.

[fauchelevent]

And the implication is that, what, he touched her toe and damaged it? Seems coincidental to me, I doubt it's related to a lap dance

[advice2380]

No she said it was lol.

[fauchelevent]

Then that's very strange but I still don't believe it meant he got 'handsy'. To do damage to her foot with his hands, he'd have to be like... Punching it. He's not going to do that if he's attempting seduction. I would assume that if it is related to lap dancing, he misplaced his feet and trod on her toes accidentally.

[JimRSmith]

The only way for you to know is to ask her.

[momo770]

It's nothing, unless you make it so.

[advice2380]

I hear you. Would you be upset if your man got dance from a guy that was not stripper

[momo770]

I'm open in my relationships, because I'm a Dom but that's a completely different issue. If it were to happen frequently, it would become an issue. Dishonesty is unnecessary.

[advice2380]

I want her to have fun just be open with me. I think women are suppressed from being sexual

[momo770]

Some are

[advice2380]

She is for sure. Its not fair that men can and women can't

[momo770]

I disagree with that statement. You allow what you want to allow for yourself. Have a great Sunday.

[jacquesvol]

Don't worry: she's still the same.

[HamAndCheese]

I mean bachelorette parties are just... oof. Not usually a good thing.

[Flower-petal]

Sounds normal for that kind of party

[advice2380]

But it was not stripper that gave the lap dance. Stripper was told to go was not what girl wanted

[Flower-petal]

Ya well lol

[advice2380]

Well what

[advice2380]

Do girls get crazy at them

[Flower-petal]

I've heard, it's all in good fun

[advice2380]

Lol whats good fun lol?

[Flower-petal]

Never been to one,. But you can ask gag

[advice2380]

I heard women get more crazy then men

[Flower-petal]

Seems legit

[advice2380]

Never have they stayed all night out

[TheSpartan]

I’d break off the wedding and leave that whore.

[LegateLanius]

Me too

[Dimmu]

Really
Are you falling for this
This is the woman who gonna get your children

[advice2380]

What do you mean

[Dimmu]

The problem is not the guy The problem is your wife and your tolerance about it Comments are scary Why would someone marry a woman who is gonna be shared The guy didn't pay her , you did The guy enjoyed her Are you enjoying it

[advice2380]

Why is it bad

[Murmug]

Totally agree here. It seems that you liked it so why all the questioning and if you didn't then yeah I agree with Dimmu. The problem is not the guy it's your wife. If it wasn't this guy it would be or gonna be someone else. No one touches you if you don't wanna be touched. Get it? If he was grabbing her against her will she would be screaming rape right now, and she's not. You need to look hard at what you are ok with and what your not.

[Justin907]

Probably, don’t worry about it though, all fun and games

[meg333]

It was a batchlorett party! It's normal. Men do that kind of thing all the time at batchlore parties. As long as she is loyal now, leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

That’s kinda weird, to me. I can’t imagine a scenario where this would be sexy, rather than just dumb.

[advice2380]

What do you mean

[Opinion Owner]

I could see someone giving a fake lap dance to be stupid, like joking, but not a sexy one. That’s be really awkward.

[advice2380]

Was not stripper that did the dance

[Anonymous]

I've seen mild mannered women turn into complete sluts at those types of parties.

I'm guessing it secretly turns you on?

[advice2380]

Lol what teally doing what?

[Opinion Owner]

The "handsy" ones are the girls. It's like a competition. A married girl that I worked with sucked the strippers cock, and then blamed it on the booze the next day. lol

[advice2380]

Lol what serious that crazy

[Opinion Owner]

You did say it was a bachelorette party. I have guy friends that go out of their way to go to wedding receptions. (Not the weddings, themselves) But you never answered my question!

[advice2380]

Yea its a bachelorette party

[Opinion Owner]

Nice dodge! lol

[advice2380]

So you think guy got handsy and she touched or sucked him off

[Opinion Owner]

I'll rephrase the question. What do you hope happened?

[advice2380]

That she had fun and played with him

[Opinion Owner]

Great answer! How far would you have wanted him to go?

[advice2380]

What ever she is comfortable with

[Opinion Owner]

I need to take off for awhile. TTYL I think you need to talk with her about it. Let her know that it turned you on. PS It's funny how all the women posters on this thread act like they were there! lol She's innocent! You are bad for not knowing that! lol

[advice2380]

So should not worry

[Opinion Owner]

You should worry that she won't do it. Lol

[Anonymous]

Did the guy get handsy? The real question is... DID YOUR WIFE GET HANDSY?

[advice2380]

True. Would you be pissed

[Opinion Owner]

Very pissed

[Anonymous]

Wass the guy naked when he did it

[advice2380]

No guy was not naked, but it was not stripper

[Opinion Owner]

Then I'm sure he got a little handsy with her