Why does my boyfriend ONLY WANTS ORAL AND ANAL SEX?

[cat95]

Hi, guys and girls! So, a bit of background... My partner and I used to be very sexually active. We would have sex 3 times a day every other day and anal once in a while. Now he says “he just doesn’t want to” or “ he wants to in his mind but his body doesn’t want to”, and I was okay with it! Cause you know, not everything it’s about sex. And he kept saying the same excuse but then he wanted oral sex, then anal sex, then oral sex again and so on. So I started feeling unwanted and undesired, because what I like about sex it’s the intimacy and the connection between us, but with oral sex and anal sex I can’t feel that. I feel as if I’m only pleasuring him so I feel kind of used. Any thoughts or experiences on this? Please be kind. Thanks xx

[-Thor]

Maybe he enjoys oral and anal more than "normal" sex.. Talk about him with this in person, i learned that there is no better way than just talking about your problems. Maybe he doesn't notice this or there is a specific reason, but you should be happy with the sex aswell!

[MadeInAmerica]

Maybe it's just because that is the newer thing. As you said you rarely had anal. However I don't understand any guy that gets so burned out of pussy to go so far in one direction.

[cat95]

Well, anal it’s not really new for us. Like we’ve been doing it for months now. And by once in a while I meant like once every other week? I don’t know if that’s a lot or not much at all.

[ZoeB95]

That's because you are only pleasuring him. Don't let him control your body. And definitely dont let him pull the "my body doesn't want to" bullshite.

[cat95]

That is very true

[ZoeB95]

Breaking up is hard, but trust me you are so much better off without him.

[goddess87]

Sounds like he doesn't like sexual intercourse with you or care about your pleasure. I wouldn't sleep with him again until he gets he act together

[cat95]

I’ve asked him many times, and sometimes I feel he’s just lying to me which is kind of worrying because “normal” sex it’s really important to me and we’re supposed to be in a serious relationship and I don’t know how this will affect everything. :/

[goddess87]

Is he giving you oral back at all? Or is it just you doing it and having to do anal?

[cat95]

I actually can’t remember the last time he went down on me

[ZoeB95]

You need to get tf out of that relationship.

[MrOracle]

It sounds to me like he's being selfish and self-centered, and those aren't traits that bring a lot of hope for a long-term relationship to work. The real question is: have you sat down with him and talked about this, outside the bedroom, and told him how you feel and why?

[JonJames]

Are you orgasming during anal?

[thiagotf]

Sex is for mutual pleasure. If it's not been like that, there is something wrong. Talk with him.

[MrHungwell]

I think its over, time to move on.

[red_knight]

Say What a bothering you directly to him as though an intervention, set rules and or ultimatum...

If he's not willing to listen then deny him use and access. Be strong

[hornymike6969]

oh hell no if he doesn’t go down on you no more blowjobs for him you both can enjoy anal

[Anallover66]

Try to do different moves with him keep it interesting like do it upside down any crazy position could help

[Cornchipuniverse]

He might not be interested in you any longer.

[IneffableMan]

He doesn't wanna baby

[CubaPirate]

Time for you to move IMAO. You obviously deserve better

[Elliot0_07]

But you're a woman that's exactly what you supposed to do. Satisfing him is the most important thing you should do, and you're doing it good. Just keep doing it.

[crazyhwolf]

Maybe he's turning gay

[Anonymous]

Not normal may I ask do you enjoy giving him oral then Anal
You need pleasure to you have a vibrater or dildos masturbate