Would you be offended if your SO don’t want to talk dirty back at you/play with you because of no mood?

Question

Me and my boyfriend occasionally talk dirty to create sexual tension, even though we haven’t had sex yet. There are times when I really don’t want to talk dirty back because I’m not in the mood or I’m not comfortable with it. I only talk dirty to him because he always starts it, and it’s gotten to a point where it’s so frequent that I’m not comfortable about it as he shares his sexual preferences explicitly, sends me explicit porn images.

Sometimes I’m turned on, but a lot of the time I’m just playing along to please him. But his ways of dirty talk can be degrading and he always talks in the ‘daddy & little girl’ tone.

For once, I said I’m not in the mood to play and I just want to hug and kiss, whereas he kept asking ‘what do you want daddy to do to you, what do you want to do to daddy in your dreams’. I was quite put off because before that he sent me a photo of a girl giving a bj to a guy and kept asking how I felt in my filthy mind.

And he seems offended/pissed that I don’t want to play because I’m uncomfortable or not in the mood for it - this is in the morning as well during work hours.

Would you be offended if your other half turned you down for sexy talk? How would you feel? Is it fine to not be in the mood for it?

CheckPlease · Accepted Answer

Well it's more he wants sex. He is probably letting off sexual tension from no sex that way and has gotten to relaint on it. He is thinking of his own need and not your desires. He is also trying to push you and really hint he wants some form of sex.

Think is he your other half really? No sex, just a boyfriend, and he can't take no at all sexually.

Of course it's fine to not always be in the mood your human.

herecomesdehzao · Accepted Answer

I would not feel offended because I understand it. But I would feel that your desire to me has gone low, that I dont make you wet as before, that would:

1- or make he look for another girl

2- settle down for relationship with you if he has feelings for you

1 is much more likely

TheMoroccangirl · Accepted Answer

First of all the word, Daddy, makes me cringe.
Secondly, you should speak your mind. It´s the only way which works with guys. If it makes you uncomfortable or if you aren´t in the mood, tell him for fuck´s sake, otherwise, he might indeed feel offended or even worse, he might think you don´t like him anymore/you´ve lost interest in him. Communication is the key.

CHARismatic110 · Accepted Answer

Dirty talk makes me uncomfortable so it seldom ever happens for me. But if they explained to me what was going on and that they were uncomfortable with it, then I wouldn't be mad.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Consideration goes a long way in a relationship... let him know that maybe he should consider that it's not normal to spend every waking moment being a perve.

... Expecially when we're just trying to wake up or get a job done in a professional manner.

markscott · Answer

If you don't feel comfortable talking dirty, the don't. He sounds like he's getting a little obsessed with the dirty talk. If you're not in the mood, then you have that right. Understand, that you and he may not be compatible in this area, and it may cause some friction, or worse.

NoOne_Special · Answer

It is fine not to be in the mood

QueenofCups · Answer

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

reptocarl · Answer

It’s more than not being in the mood. You’re not sexually compatible

Sharanuppi · Answer

Well there is a thin line between perversion and horny, so if u feel he is a pervert just tell him. Otherwise it's good to be kinky at times

TH3MAN92 · Answer

It is completely fine to not be in the mood we are all different people with different moods at different times if he can't respect the fact that you are not in the mood I'd be having serious words with this person just my opinion

genericname85 · Answer

well if she´s never in the mood, that will be a huge problem. if it happens like once in a while, that´s normal.

MaxBants · Answer

Not attracted to him, or do you just have a low sex drive? Sounds like his frustration is a result of drawn out dissatisfaction.

DiegoO · Answer

Depends, if I don't live talking like that to my SO, and suddenly when I do she turns me down "most times", I would start to feel limited, unwanted and unactracted by her.

xxWolf3698xx · Answer

Everything has a time and a place. No, i wouldn't. I always try and see things through others eyes.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don't like dirty talking.

zagor · Answer

I like sex, but I have no interest in talking about it.

Cellestial · Answer

It starts to be boring after a while I don't blame you for that

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

This is why it's better to be single

Krumpir · Answer

Not really. As a guy, sometimes I am not in a mood for ANYTHING, and sex and dirty talking is last on my mind. Besides, not all of us know how to dirty talk.

California24 · Answer

I wouldn't really care, I'd just want her to be comfortable and happy

Dr_Latex_McPeggin · Answer

Not at all, sometime folks are in the mood to play and sometimes their not...

Danael31 · Answer

Yes it is fine to not be in the mood for it. Tell him. God damn, sometimes can be cool, but I would be tired too about it. And the "daddy-little girl" god damn it, it's not for me