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Initiating sex with a virgin man?

Hi all.
My boyfriend is a virgin and since we've been dating for awhile I want to take it to the next stage. We talked about this couple of times and I think he is ready. I need advice on how to initiate it? I am not a virgin and this is the first time I'm with someone who is, so I'm also kind of inexperienced. My ex boyfriends were always the ones who initiated first, and when I lost my virginity he was the one who was leading. So I assume I have to take the lead now, right? I'm gonna sleep over at his place tonight for the first time and I'm wondering how should I start? lol. He never saw a pussy in person, never touched it either. He also never had his dick touched or seen by a girl before. He acts as if he's all good and ready, but I'm pretty sure he's nervous, am I right?
Is it better to start it with me going down on him first, or let him examine my whole body by letting him touch me everywhere? Or just go to penetration right away? He gets hard pretty easily, just a kiss is enough. I care so much about him and I want to give him a full pleasure, I want to make him happy and to feel good.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Let him explore you first, but make sure he takes his time. Lots of inexperienced guys rush through things and think they have to be the "best" right away. Treat it like he is discovering you. Make sure to direct him a bit. You don't have to "lead", but you should give him hints on what makes you feel good.

    I would save the blowjob for the next morning. Make it a very pleasant surprise. If you are good at it, it will blow his mind, especially if you come back to it after sex and let him finish like that.

    • Do this ! Very nice advice

  • Just make it nice, start with some nice feeling around with some kissing and take it from there. Sex is just so much more than penetration and blowjobs. Take your time with it, you both will feel what is right and what too do when. Tip is to make it last a bit longer with some foreplay the first time, and sure go down on him after a while but don't let him cum. Make sure he focus some time on you too.
    You really have the opportunity to make the sex for you as you would love to have it. Make the most of it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • He's DEFINITELY going to be nervous lol.
    My boyfriend was a virgin when we first did it and oh boy, was it awkward. He "finished" in like 45 seconds.
    But as funny as it was, it was also a lovely moment that we cherish (and joke about) to this day, almost 7 years later.
    As for what you should do, what we did was get right to it. Probably should have done some foreplay first but he was too nervous to try, even though I told him exactly what to do 😂

  • Well start out with kids.. hot and passionate ones while making him touch ur breasts and touch ur down there.. u should lead him while kissing that way.. then he’d get pretty hard himself and will want to explore more I suppose.. just lead him by putting his hands in wherever you want him to touch and remember don’t stress but just rely on your feelings and desire ;)

  • You should probably have amg sexual contact before going straight to sex per se. I mean one day you blow him, the other he fingers you, etc. It will build up his confidence and help him be less nervous.

    • no it's not going to be good and he won't stand seeing a pussy without penetrating his dick it's just a pussy it dosn't have teeth

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  • Take charge and have fun? Emphasis on the having fun part.

  • Go down on him and stay a long time there, he obviously will be nervous and that can be pretty relaxing. Any foreplay on his part will only get him nervous and thinking a lot of what he is doing, this can ruin the whole thing, so remember is all about him. Communicate with him also, silences can be awkward.

  • I think it would be very helpful for him to explore your body and for you to tell him where his touch feels good. And he'll probably be awkward when it comes to putting himself inside you. He'll need to learn that the vaginal opening is quite low down between the labia. So for the first time it might be helpful for you to guide him inside you, and you might even want to consider getting on top.

  • Just talk to him about it like you would talk to any other guy about it. With the same amount of caring and respect. He's a virgin, not a pushover.

  • I would start by kissing and seeing where his hands go.

    If his hands go nowhere other than your butt, I'd say you should initiate it by grabbing his crotch. A dude basically knows where it's going once his dick is being given attention.

  • Did you try sexting first?
    I am a virigin, but I tried that before and it did boost my confidence.
    So now I know what to do ( if I get the chance)

  • He's a boy; he's not a virgin. Only girls are virgins.

    Anyway, does he know that you're not a virgin?

  • I m also virgin, please help me to loose my virginity.
    Ill be thankful to you.

  • Blowjobs always do the trick.
    He'll either cum quick and want more or want to rip off your clothes!!

  • Throw him on the bed and rip his clothes off and take him for a ride

  • Why did reading this question and opinions make me rock hard? :O :O

  • Id say take it slow. Make sure he knows what pleases you. Teach him what he needs to know. Take your time no rush. That way if he decides to back out he still can. Then after you teach him a bit about you go down on him. And id say ride him for the first go around. And if you guys do more rounds teach the basic positions.

  • it's just a pussy it dosn't have teeth

    don't worry about him he'll be fine you shouldn't worry about a man it's fine with him he dosn't feel pain

    also you being not a virgin will help him
    you start blowjob till he gets hard then you should worry about yourself
    i think he'll do it at least 4 times

    good luck

  • some failed sex at start be ready for that.

  • Don't do it

  • Make it soft and gentle. Show him what you like and make shure that he forget his sorrows. Tough him and say him that you like him and kiss him

  • Just tell him to be gradual and relaxed and don’t let him rush into things

  • I would start by touching him, may be oral sex, but in a softly and calm way

  • Take it very slow.

  • so i'm guessing you were the one who asked him out first?

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