So just yesterday I lost my virginity to a guy I didn't want to lose it to. We had sex once before but he only put the tip in and that's it. He didn't break my hymen. I met him again yesterday to hang out and cuddle and everything and we ended up having sex again. When we started having sex he pushed so hard inside me i screamed and tried to get away. I told him to just do anal because i didn't want to lose my virginity... He kept telling me everything's ok and I'm ok and I was in pain. I just ended up taking it instead. Once he finished i went to the bathroom and there was blood everywhere. I started to cry and I told him that he wasn't supposed to take my virginity and he told me he thought he took it last time we had sex... He's so dumb. I kept bleeding all night and am still really sore. He didn't comfort me at all and hasn't checked up on me through text. I feel so disgusted and used. I told him to just do anal and he ended up taking something I wanted to give to someone I loved and was married to... It's my fault for going to his place but I told him no. I don't know how I can get over losing my virginity. I was so set on keeping it 'til I was married and giving it to someone I loved, now I can't do that anymore.
Most Helpful Guy
can't tell if he is "teh infemus vergin repist", or just a complete f*cking r*tard.
Like who is not able to stop when there is blood and the girl is crying "no"?
Unbelievable. Even if he is a stupid r*tard, he can't get a pass.
As for you, you place too much value on the physical aspect of virginity.
Technically, if it was about vaginal sex, you kinda lost your virginity the first time anyway, even if it wasn't complete sex.
If its about the hymen breaking, you lost it the second time.
But you werent ready at either times and mentally, you didn't really have or enjoy the sex.
You will lose your true virginity when you have enjoyable sex with the man you love 😊.
Dont worry about it.
Let this be, and stay away from guys till you find the one you love. You aren't ready for sex now, only let it happen after you find what you look for. And dont mind taking your time, dont rush it.1
Most Helpful Girl
Just remember that the whole idea of virginity is a social construct created by men to keep women in check. To remind them that, if they stray and/or sleep around, they're worthless.
Thankfully (most) society has progressed quite a bit away from such primitive mindsets so remember that your self-worth is not defined by what you do behind closed doors. You've got much more to offer than your vagina.1