Would you lie about your SO penis size to him to save his feelings?

[Anonymous]

Well every girl I've slept with said I'm big, but well ya! The question "Is it big enough" or "is it too big" is like the question "does my bum look big in this".

If you've just slept with a guy your not going to turn around and say he has a tiddler Are you? Not if you just had a great time and would like to see him again.

The fact is guys and cocks is like girls and weight. Personally im concerned im too big. MOST guys out there are concerned they are to small. Porn and the media are very much to blame for this but usually the spotlight is focused on girls and rightly so. Still guys are effected too.

The only difference is there's no-one for us to cough show and disscuss this with who we can trust to give an individual and tottally honest answer. If he asks, we know there's no point in ruining a guys confidence becasue he can't diet it bigger. So what do you do.

Oh and I consider side stepping the question as lying we know what I've had bigger I've had smaller means. Buy that point the blood is back in our brain we ain't stupid.

Please please please do not reply "saying that only technique matters" Or "its fine as love as I love him" that really not the question.

[Wonderer89]

If he pushes the issue then yeah, I would. If I’m still with him obviously I find his penis great, as sex is important to me. Whether statistically it’s big or small is irrelevant to me, it’s getting the job done and I’m happy or I’d have left.
However, any guy who is insecure enough to keep pushing past my saying I’m satisfied obviously needs to be told it’s big for whatever reason. If I want to be with him I need to soothe that, if I say it’s on the smaller side I will NEVER hear the end of it and his confidence nose dives. For whatever reason guys who feel the need to ask this question hold on to any comments made for years, and I’m not contributing to that.

If my honesty isn’t good enough when I say I’m happy with it then I’m going to do what’s kind, not necessarily what’s right.

[Asker]

That's one of the best answers I've to any question I've asked. As I said at the end most guys know what side stepping means And many dont ask at all let alone push it. I for instance have never asked if it's big enough. But i have asked I if it's too far the other way once or twice when I thought it was getting in the way of certain things.

[Js138]

I'll lie. I definitely dont want to make him feel bad for being average. It is true... when you love someone you don't care about their imperfections. If you tell a guy he's average (or below average) its going to open a whole wield of insecurities and doubt. It will eventually affect your relationship because he'll feel like you view him as a lesser man. Why not make him feel like a stud.

[Asker]

To be honest I'm not sure if most guys and girls know what avarage is anymore. Girls see average as a twig and for a lot of guys the only other penises they see are in porn. Surprisingly even when should the statistics most guys are insecure. They don't seem to believe them.

[snowshy]

I have to admit I've lied to every guy who has ever sent me a dickpic in the middle of a friendly convo. If it's a dickpic and no convo, I'll just ignore it but to a guy I'm already chatting to, I don't want to hurt their self esteem knowing they've sent the pic because they want sex. So I guess my way of balancing out the rejection they're inevitably going to feel when I say no is to tell them they are big.

[coralee]

I don't anwser questions about size. Unless your on the extreme end of either side of that equation then it doesn't really matter. As long as I can still feel it, any inadequicies can be made up for in skill.

[Asker]

Interesting. Is that also the case if the guy is concerned he might be too big to be pleasurable and you know he's right.

[coralee]

I've never had a guy be so big that a change in position didn't fix the problem. Other women have said they have. If he seems like he's going to be an issue I start with a position that doesn't allow him to go too deep.

[coralee]

The main point being that the amount of guys who have to actually worry about their size is like 5% extremes aren't common.

[Asker]

I work in sexual psyology and actually put this question together out of interest because no papers written have accurately described the effects of this question has. I dont mean to be rude becasue that may be what you perceive from interaction with the men around you but that statistic isn't correct. Sorry. Women don't necessarily perceive it this because men will deeply internalized. but research suggests that male penis anxiety too: could potentially be wider spread then female body image related conditions. To give an example. plastic surgery penile augmentation is due to dramatically reduce in price relatively soon and it's been predicted that a very serious condition will arise to do with continuous and unnecessary augmentation. We predict it's going to be a real problem and awareness will be the big part of the issue. I didn't mean to insult you but I'm a couples everyday where the woman has no idea mostly because actual size has nothing to do with it.

[coralee]

I'm not sure what your actually disagreeing with. I'm not trying to say only 5% of men have insecurities about their penis size. I'm saying that only 5% of men actually have inadequicies that have an impact on their ability to please a partner.

[coralee]

I don't disagree that men are sensitive regarding their size. I

[Asker]

I think scientists will argue that it always affects ability however that affect is not always negative in fact mostly a man will work harder often overcompensating and becoming a much greater lover. This is why women say it's not size what you do with it that counts. They're realising it but they verbalising the back end of what is effectively anxiety

[coralee]

Which is exactly my point. Most male size issues can be compensated for with skill. I'm not saying men don't get insecure about it. I'm saying it doesn't matter that much to women.

[ChronicThinker]

I've never dated a guy with penis insecurity so Idfk.

[Asker]

You have

[Asker]

That's the point.

[ChronicThinker]

No, I haven't. My man is totally good with his size. He's never asked me about it, was never shy about it and has flat out says he's cool with it. Not every dude is sensitive about his cock lol.

[ChronicThinker]

But if the dick in question was super small I'd be honest and say yeah, it's super small dude but you know that already.

[Asker]

I work in sexual health. And I know that far more then half of guys are concerned about there size and most would never even broach the subject with there SO or else say there fine but the chances are if you've dated even two guy one of them was concerned. And not all guys are concerned with it being too small. a lot of guys over a certain size are actually struggle to. Sex is limited and they do get broken up with over it.

[ChronicThinker]

Yeah just because you're sensitive about your cock does not mean everyone is dude. If you knew this guy you'd know why I say he isn't. Lol. Stop pushing your insecurities on other people.

[Asker]

I work in sexual health. I have a phd in sexual psychology and my job is to know what guys think about it. And unless you have slept with more guys then i have surveyed which is over 10.000 I can't see how you can comment on that. Past the couple of guys you have slept with. I appreciate your opinion but it doesn't change cold statistics. This is about how girls handle it not about me or the guys.

[ChronicThinker]

This is some pathetic shit lol. Why can't you accept that there might actually be a confident guy out there who doesn't get his feelings hurt over his dick? It's weird man. But yeah I told you how I'd handle it and I don't care if you work in mental health. If you have a small dick and I saw it, I'd tell you straight up, to your face. It isn't like a guy with a little cock doesn't know.

[Asker]

There is no need to get angry so please there's no need. and yes there are a lot of guys who are fine with there size but the fact is most guys will doubt them selves at one time or another. I saw this a great way to do an impromptu pole as I mostly work with guys. This isn't about me or the guys the question is about who girls handle the issue. Most guys would never ask at all regardless of what they thought in there head so nobody finds out. Like girls and weight media and porn are to blame So thanks for your opinion.

[Anonymous]

If I continue to see him, I think it’s good enough. I’m happy with good enough, as there are many, many more traits to take into consideration above penis size.

[Asker]

Ok that's really not the question I asked. The point is you voted yes you would lie to him to spare his feels over telling the truth. So I guess what in an asking is why would you lie to save his feels

[Opinion Owner]

... Because it’s good enough.