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Is it ok to give sexual extra's during massages if your boyfriend agreed with it?

I'm an independent masseuse. Started doing it at 18 in Colombia and I learned from a friend who was also a masseuse for longer, that she gave guys a handjob every now and then, word would go around and it would get business booming. I never did it for cash, just for "advertisement". I admit that, since I always stayed single and I am very open minded, I might have overdone it a little. In the US, guys don't really expect it to happen since things are cleaner than back in Colombia, but since I was the only masseuse in the neighborhood who was known to do something sexual, word spread real quick I get mails and calls all the time. I also admit that since I have been single for so long, I have given blowjobs, rimjobs and even had sex with quite some clients, even though that was just as much in my interest.

Now I have a boyfriend. I tried to make him clear that I was never looking to bind myself to someone since I live differently than most women. But he was really in love and wanted to look past what I do and even try a semi-open relationship. I gave it a chance and we've been together for almost two years. We did make a deal: I was allowed to do what I need to do to keep business as it was, which is (sorry if it's too much details) uncover only my breast for clients, give a handjob and they can finish on me, not in me. I would do that to max 3 clients a week. I thought he was going to break since I did this to a lot of his friends and colleagues, but he even looked past that. At first it seemed like that was more than enough, but lately I have crossed the line a couple times. Every time it's with clients who don't cum easily. It started with guys wanting to see my butt to cum. Then some who needed some spit. Then a couple times I did lick some guys, not giving full blowjobs, just some licking. Last week I totally went too far by swallowing one guy's semen. Then I told EVERYTHING to my boyfriend, but he forgives me? Do you think we can keep this up?
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The thing is, I don't get how he can be ok with a girlfriend who makes other guys cum. He's good to me but I feel so weird with him letting me do this since I wouldn't want him to do the same things. I mean, 20 of his colleagues have jizzed on my face and he doesn't even care? It almost makes me angry at him for not caring...
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  • Depends how he says it when he says he's "fine" with it. Is it like when girls say they are "fine" with something and really aren't, or is he actually ok with it?

    Either way, he's really into you. He must love you a great deal. You shouldn't take this for granted at any rate, since not many men would be ok with any of this. Then again, he knew about this before getting with you so it's on whoever in that respect. But still, the fact that he accepts you for the type of person you are says volumes about him and that's hard to find really, someone that totally loves and accepts you for who you are and with all your faults.

    • Maybe he does care and is trying to put on a good face so as not to make you feel guilty about it. Afterall, he new about what you were doing before and you did tell him you didn't want him to pressure you to stop it seems. So he's probably feeling like he's between a rock and a hard place. He loves you and doesn't want to loose you probably, so he doesn't want to upset you or make you feel like you have to change for him, when you clearly feel you aren't really doing anything wrong. Or are you? It kind of sounds like you're starting to feel the guilt of it. But, hey, this is really something you two much work out. Also, I don't think it's all together fair that you are getting so upset at him over something you decided to do whether or not he didn't like it. Like what do you expect him to do? Yell at you? Break up with you? You seem to want to be punished to excuse the guilt you're feeling for continuing this practice. You should take some responsibility as well.

  • Excuse my frankness buy you're a terrible person. This guy is doing everything he can to stay with you and you just want the money so badly that you're willing to throw it all away for some sexual pleasures. I'm sorry but he deserves someone better. If you are willing to cut all of that out then stay with him. If not, let him go so he can find someone who treats him right.

    • Why is she a terrible person for including sex as a service? Her clients know it's a service and there is no emotional attachment on her part (I think) People secretly cheating on their partners are , on my opinion, far worse individuals.

    • Cheating is cheating. Passing out sexual favors is humiliating to her boyfriend, though he probably won't admit it.

    • He doesn't want to lose you by getting in the way. I'm telling you, give that stuff up for him. It will be worth it.

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  • Your boyfriend is a cuck with no back bone but either way this is something you chose to do. So why are you questioning now? Either stop doing it or leave him. Your choice.

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  • it sounds like he is willing to deal with all of it so until he decides he cannot tolerate it (which could happen) i think everything will be fine.

  • I don't get you, you are basically a border line hooker, and when you have a dude who is looking past it then you question it? Either leave him if you feel uncomfortable or stfu.

    • I think this is a fake question and you’re a dude getting off in the answers. Gets a life

  • If your boyfriend is OK with it and you are OK with it then who cares. But maybe be a little safer. Watch out for STDs

  • It depends on what you want sex is about her not him?

    • Her decision is her decision but I don't condone anything that's having to do with infidelity I don't have a chance it's really read into it so so whatever

  • Yes cum on the tits is fine but if you swallow cum of a client I would want the same when you get home that’s fair

  • "The thing is, I don't get how he can be ok with a girlfriend who makes other guys cum."

    Me neither. This should be a huge red flag.

    That being said - that you are acting upon it makes you just as bad.

  • I think it is OK. ..

    Could the real issue be that you want him to object to it?

  • Youve really lucked out, he's too nice, he's madly in love with you. You need to stop pushing it, i thought he was more than reasonable with the “no bottom or crotch and blowjob” rules. You really let him down. But he is so scared of loosing you that he just forgives you for whatever, its not that he doesn't love you, its that he loves you too much! But you have to apologize and stop if you want to truly get closer to him.

  • Go on Tinder. You would be surprised of finding people who are willing to be the third wheel.

    • This meant to be a reply to MassEffect's comment.

    • Not just Tinder anywhere online. Lol

  • Your boyfriend's a cuck, but if he's willing to deal with it then w/e. You guys live however you want. If he's having second thoughts about it then you're doomed though.

  • It's good you are being honest with him. I think there is a possibility he may get turned on by you pleasing other men.
    Maybe next time you and him are making love, mention it to him and see if it turns him on more.

  • Bery much so if he is aroused by it, and can be your cuckold

  • That should be hot asf do it often

  • Leave the question. Tell me ur address

  • You can keep this up under two situations. First, you share none of what you do at work with him. Or if he is OK with all of what you do to men, share all of the details with him so the two of you can joy the experience.

    • If you are just doing hand jobs, that is nothing more than petting; it is not sex.

  • Try a threesome with him, You gotta know

    • This. If you are touching and sucking other men's dicks, then you should ask a friend or an escort to reward him for his super chill temper.

    • Haha, like how? :p

    • Go on Tinder. You would be surprised of how many people you would find that are willing to be the third wheel.

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  • Yes. I love extras when getting a massage

  • Maybe He enjoys your money because a guy will never like her girl doing these things

  • So, you're prostituting, basically

    • Everyone chooses their own life way of being likewise I didn't get a chance to read it so I just read the question and still at all is she has to be with other guys honestly I break the relationship

  • I think you are a slut, but if he is fine with it, then it's his problem.

    I wound't stand for it at all, but find another girls ASAP

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