My girlfriend has a noticably loose vagina. Should I tell her?

I feel embarrassed writing this because it's such a strange situation. We both always orgasm during sex but it is something that stays at the back of my head. And it does make it all less enjoyable. I have only had 2 partners before and I never had this issue with either one. In fact both of my exes even struggled with it being too tight when we had sex. One more than the other. I'm 6 inches (16 cm) on the thicker side of the spectrum so I'm about as average as one can get. I'm not insecure about my size and I really don't think it's why she feels loose. I don't know if race plays a factor but if it does then it doesn't seem to do it here. I had one white ex and one Asian ex, my current girlfriend is white. I personally never heard about women of different ethnicities vaginas varying like mens penises. But it's something my friend mentioned in a different conversation. He's a dumbass though so he's probably wrong about this. I don't know how I could or if I should talk to her about this issue. Maybe she's just naturally loose just like some guys have smaller dicks. It would be pointless and mean to bring it up if that is the case. What I'm thinking is that she might have a medical condition of some sort. And then it would be good to bring it up since she might not notice it herself. I tried to look up online and it could be that she has used too big sex toys in private. Or just had a lot of exes who were huge. I used to think it was a myth but it's apparently true that a vagina can be stretched out if they have very big partners/toys. However I feel like she would either not enjoy sex with me or request us using toys if this was the reason. It doesn't really matter what the reason is I'm mostly asking if it's even worth bringing up. Our sex life is still okay and me thinking about it does more harm than the fact that she's noticably loose. She doesn't seem to notice it at all and she's often the one instigating sex.
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  • Actually, every vagina is different.
    r Brook McFadden of Ohio State University, looked at a 168 women and in her findings
    - left labia minora was an average of 2.1 centimeters wide, with a range of 0.4 to 6.4 centimeters and average of 4.0 centimeters long with a range of 1.2 to 7.5 centimeters
    - The right was an average of 1.9 centimeters wide, with a range of 0.3 to 7.0 centimeters and an average of 3.8 centimeters long and ranged from 0.8 to 8.0.
    - the outer lips average of 8.1 centimeters long with a range of 4.0 to 11.5 centimeters."
    - clitoral width ranged from 0.2 to 2.5 centimeters with an average of 0.8 while clitoral length of anywhere from 0.4 to 4.0 centimeters, with an average of 1.6 centimeters
    - average length of a vagina is 9.6 centimeters while the range is between 6.5 and 12.5 centimeters
    Some women have vaginas so large that they need a speculum nearly as big as your forearm in order to get a Pap smear
    Color varies a lot due to the amount of phenomelanin in their body
    some women have pink labia and others have brown or reddish or purplish labia. Sometimes the labia are the same colour as the woman’s skin, but often they are lighter or darker, just like the lips on your face
    I have been with five different women and each of them were a different and unique experience in and of herself.
    In addition to the variations above, all muscles are different in strength and range of movement. One of my partners felt very tight and actually her muscles were so strong that I was pushed out a few times between thrusts while another partner felt a little lose but her muscles had contributed to limiting my movement and pulling me in.
    Wetness varies from woman to woman, one partner produced so much fluid that it felt like i was in a literal honeypot while one needed lubricant to help her do more.

    • I just felt like something wasn't quite right. I know that vaginas can differ greatly. I just can't help but speculate over what has caused it. My two exes felt about the same despite being different. My girlfriend isn't just a bit loose it's as I said quite significant.

    • It could very well be just her muscular strength

  • It would be better to talk about it sooner than later... keigel exercises help

Most Helpful Girl

  • You could bring it up in a way that doesn't sound critical or judgmental. It would be bad to say something like "Your vagina is too loose for me." Instead you could say "You know, I would love it if you did kegel exercises because I've read such great things about them."

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  • Are you eating her out or fingering her building up the emotions.

  • Yeah tell her.

    • I honestly have no idea how I could tell her without being weird. And what if it's not due to something she can't control?

  • break it to her easy

  • Unless she mentions it, keep it to yourself. You will kill your sexual chemistry because she will become paranoid about it.

    It is possible she is already aware, and might even be covering it up with a great acting performance in the bedroom, unless she is the one that initiates sex?

    I actually have a kink where I find a loose vagina a huge turn on, especially if she gets super wet and has an 'outy' labia.

    Have you tried mixing things up with things like vaginal fisting, and, for your pleasure, anal for tightness?