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My crush asked me for nudes?

Ok so since I was about 13 this boy has liked me. He’s a family friend but I don’t see him often. I saw him at an event about 6 months ago and he texted me saying “you’re looking really sexy xxxx” and just flirted for a bit. He does this everytime he sees me for a day and then disappears. In Summer 2016 he even asked me to be his safety wife haha! i just laughed it off because that’s just silly.
I saw him at a wedding yesterday, and he flirted the whole time, winking at me and sending me texts like hey beautiful xxx.
When I came home he messaged me saying I looked great and all that. He started to say I’m really horny and that he’d fuck me. I got a bit annoyed because he had seen me after so long, and then he asked for nudes. Anyways after him kind of begging (in a nice way saying babeeee come on, what’s it gonna take blah blah) I said goodnight and he replied with kisses.
Was I wrong to say no?
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I forgot to mention that I also like him like crazy. But I’m not the type to send nudes just because my crush showed interest once. It feels like he wants to see my naked body more than getting to know me
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Most Helpful Girls

  • For you to produce nude photographs of yourself means that you will then be in possession of what we call "kiddy porn". That is illegal. To then distribute it to another person is another illegal act, and then for your crush to possess those images is another illegal act. He will forward the photo to his friends, and that's illegal, and his friends will all have illegal pornography on their phones or computers. See where I am going with?

    I want you to think about this. In 1950 lets say, a lot more people had cameras to take snap shots with, you know, the film kind. But no boy in a high school would ever have dreamed of asking his underage crush to pose for pornographic photographs. Even in the 1990s when digital photography was becoming available, boys under 18 really did not expect to have their female school mates send them porn.

    But now, suddenly in this era, when every teen has a phone with a digital camera is has somehow become acceptableto demand nudes. it's not acceptable.

    You tell your crush that men of quality do not pressure women they respect to produce free, illegal pornography for them. This boy is engaged in some of the early activities of what we call "being a fucking douchebag", and it's like a gateway drug, to becoming that total entitled asshole that really no one want to date or marry - I think we often call them "fuck boys" in this day and age?

    YOU are not meant to wallow in the mire with the fuckboys who don't respect you. Right now, when you're 15, YOU set the tone for how men will treat you. YOU either communicate to them that you are strong, make your own decisions, and don't make stupid choices like sending out illegal porn just because a dude you like wants them and you want him to think you're chill.

    15 year old girls should NOT be chill about guys who demand nudes. It's not polite to ask a 15 year old girl to be in porn. Do you still have the text where he asked for them? What do you think your dad would say if he saw that text? He'd probably want to beat that kid's ass into the concrete. And you know what? He's not far from wrong.

    Just because you HAVE a phone camera and it's EASY, doesn't mean it's a good idea to take a bunch of suggestive pictures of yourself.

    When you are an adult, and you WANT to make a choice to act in porn or model nude, then you're a grown woman making an active choice to do something YOU want to do, and that's YOUR business then.

  • Not at ur age sweetheart, ur absolutely right he just wants to see u naked and dont believe him if he uses feelings as a way to get them out of you. Guys ur age r super immature atm

    • Thank you x

  • I've seen people get ruined over this. Don't send nudes to anyone you know. Never show your face in them. Etc. People can take them, share them, start rumours and gossip.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Your 15, so don't send nudes for both of your good. It in some countries can be counted as having child pornographic material and your boyfriend is then a registered sex criminal, if caught. Sounds stupid if you are both same age, but that's how it works someplaces.

    But overally about sending nudes:
    First, don't send nudes ever if you don't want or feel comfortable with it.
    Then remember that if you send, he might show it to someone else. Asshole thing to do, but unfortunately it happens.
    And you are never wrong to say no if someone asks something sexual, or something that you feels uncomfortable to do.

  • How can you like someone like that? From what you've described he sounds like an epitome of fuckboy. Talk to someone about him, like your parents for example, I don't think they would be happy about you entering a relationship with someone like that...

    And about sending nudes, well it's a very slutty thing to do, especially if you're not in a relationship. It's basically a type of intimacy, and having intimacy without true love is extremely damaging...

    And also don't enter a relationship with anyone you don't really know well, and don't really love much.

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  • What you have is a player in the making. Perhaps he can be saved but I don't know. This has really become a problem recently and many women seem to think they are obligated to have sex. That is his only goal. Set him straight and maybe you can actually have a relationship with him but if he is this bold at 15, that may be all he will ever want.

  • Never, ever like i mean it ever send nudes as teenager to another teenager. I would be cautious to send it to someone mature, while teenager is completely out of question. Next time be assertive and tell him off.

  • Don't send guys nudes at your age. They're not mature enough to resist showing their friends. I get that guys are going to pressure you, but it is a terrible idea.

  • Don't. That's child porn and you could get charged for distributing it. And that could basically ruin your life and his

  • How could you ever be wrong to say no. That's the basics of human life being free to say yes or no.
    I guess you're right and he just wants nudes or nothing serious at least. It's up to you to know how you feel about that

  • At your age, in many places it's illegal for you to send nude or semi nude pictures to others, and it's illegal for them to possess such pictures of you. It could get you and your crush in very serious trouble. Don't do it.

    • by the way It does sound like he's more interested in seeing your nude body than in getting to know you. It's best to get to know boys real well, over time, and learn if they can be trusted or if they are just out for what they can get.

  • You are totally right. That exactly what it feels like. Plus sending nudes is illegal if you're a minor.

  • Don't send nudes, that's child pornography.

  • It's illegal and not a smart move even if you were 18+

  • no you stayed classy. good job. don't send nudes while you're underage.

  • At 15, I must say " Hell no ". Then, other reasons you shouldn't do it are: 1. He MIGHT Post them. or try and use them against you for more "favors". 2. You Parents, Family Members, Friends, etc. might wind up seeing them. 3. Have Respect for yourself, even when others do not.

  • You are underage to send nude photos.
    He is more interested in seeing what’s in your panties than in you.
    Don’t do it

  • You were right to say no

  • Not wrong x

  • Nope you dont have to just drop every thing and send nudes. Your fine

    • Then dont send them easy as that just dont give in

    • Yeah I won’t if it seems too fast it is thanks x

    • Yea no problem

  • Well technically both of you could be charged. Don't do it.

  • Defiantly not. Even if he says only he will see them. dont let anybody talk You into sending them You are still very young and once you send them people can use them against you. You should never send nudes. I'm glad to hear you were smart and did not send them. Well done.
    P. s. I'm sure it is also illegal to send them.

    • Not sure if the first word is a typo or not...

    • Ya. Predictive text sorry.

  • He's only after one thing and that's not to be your long term boyfriend. Well done for saying no!

  • Never send nudes to anyone because you are like 14 so

  • He is just looking for sex!!!

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