Is it normal to be scared of having a orgasm?

Question

So I'm a bit embarrassed of asking this question but here goes. Me and my boyfriend have starting having sex and we were both virgin's before so I think that might be one reason why I'm scared because I'm not used to the feeling.

So will be doing it and he'll usually be on top and it will be amazing but as soon as he gets my g-sport he'll go really fast and I can't control myself from twitching and going crazy, I can't control what I say as well I'll start saying sh! t like "I f#cking love your dam beautiful face" and "holy f@cking god" in a whiny tone 😂 literally out of no where , it starts to feel really sensitive and intense down there almost like having really bad pins and needles , I have to gasp for air because I feel like I can't breath and I want to scream so bad but end up digging my nails into his back and hurting him and once were done I get really shaky, can't speak properly and I get really emotional and want to cry but my boyfriend sometimes tries to comfort me and calm me down by cuddling whilst we have sex and sometimes after which helps, he's also started holding my arms down just before I orgasm so I don't dig my nails in to him, I get really embarrassed about how I act in bed but my boyfriend just thinks it's funny and tells me calm down but I literally can't control myself.

I don't know why I get so scared , sometimes it can be because his parents are down stairs and I don't want them to hear me scream but other times I think It could be that I'm scared of not being in control of myself and not knowing what going on down there.

joshuafreeman707 · Accepted Answer

I think this is kind of normal. I dated a girl for a while that would always stop things before she actually orgasmed. And I do think control may have been a part of it. She did finally allow herself to orgasm while she was riding my face - so she was in a "controlling" position at the time, and that may have helped. Afterwards she was a little embarrassed about the things that she said, but realized it wasn't a big deal.

Walrus_au · Accepted Answer

If you haven't had the experience, the fear of the unknown can be pretty powerful.

My suggestion would be to bring yourself to orgasm a few times to give yourself some experience in a safe environment.

That or find some times where you have the freedom to yell and scream if you want and just enjoy yourself.

EpicDweeb · Answer

Just embrace it. Losing control during sex is something a lot of guys find incredibly hot... and just know that your guy loves you. If you can trust him it will be far more pleasant.

integrale77 · Answer

Sounds good you need to let yourself go in the moment but probably somewhere his parents aren't going to walk in on you.
Also if your concerned how your reacting when you orgasm maybe a bit of solo self loving to see how things play out

MajorEasy · Answer

Just enjoy it... You have enough things hanging over you about sex to add more to the list...

mafrabjj · Answer

Scared? Most girla wait they're entire adult life trying to habe an orgasm and ur there.. saying maybe ur scared? Lol that would be a 1 in 1000 chance of having an amazing sex lol

darrinp1 · Answer

Give it time you learn how to control things

eziegler81 · Answer

Yes, but you shouldn't worry about your reactions to the orgasm unless you scream adult language and they may be kids that can hear you. Enjoy your orgasm and I'm sure your partner will enjoy the fact he's giving them to you.

CuriousOrator · Answer

Sounds like you are working on a script for a new porno movie

jacquesvol · Answer

It's a bit losing contrrol and that can scare some people who don't trust their partner 100%.

genericname85 · Answer

just enjoy the shit dude xD it's better for him too if you go crazy like that.

Gedaria · Answer

looks like you are getting there.. I know it may sound daft but try masterbating on your own and get use to the feeling, can get some help from a sex toy,, have fun...

BleepRawrsaurus_Rex · Answer

Lmfao I just can’t with this today 😂

Surely · Answer

Sounds like you and the boyfriend really need to go somewhere that no one will hear you and just let yourself go and ENJOY the act. Stop fighting the pleasures of sex!!

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Yeah

ivancho1BG · Answer

Well, it doesn't sound bad at all, im sure your friend finds it really hot and turns him on even more. You just have to learn to control it. The nails part should be normal. I gasp as well, when you're doing such things your heart rate increases, so its kind a normal.