Because men and women have different thought patterns. I'm speaking in incredibly general terms, but women wanted to be won over. They want romance. They want foreplay. Now, obviously, sometimes women want it as bad as men and they just want to cut to the chase. But myself for example, if a girl came to my place and while sitting on the couch I just reached my hand down her pants with out saying anything, I wouldn't expect much more than her storming out. Especially if we hadn't fooled around already. Maybe I'm just a pig, but if I was at a girl house after the second or third date and we were just sitting on the couch, and she just slid down onto her knees in front of me, it's game time. I'm not get offended, I'm not grabbing my jacket and running out of there. I high five myself on the inside and my internal voice yells "Jackpot!"
90% of the guys you will ever date will bring you to their home with the intention to have sex. But you see it depends from person to person.
To understand why they think like that, again it is all about media and movie (sex comedies) like American Pie series, immature youtubers and so on. Remember that we are living in a hyper-sexual era/society where we are defined by sex.
Side note: feel free to read the lyrics of the song below and pounder on it with an open mind
(http://perfectimperfection-s. tumblr. com/post/125994829070/talk-islam-the-greatest-woman-spoken-word)
The same thing happened to me and it didn't end well.. It was a lot of mess and drama he was having sex with other girls that's why he was being low key about it so it was so bad on my part being the side chick and i didn't even know this happen almost 6 years ago
women do this as well. its bot considered polite in certain cultures to be direct. being underhanded and duplicitous is the proper etiquette ;)
This is so naughty 😉 I never encountered such people thank gosh!
not all guys dear.
you need to be a good judge of character and maybe keep your distance while you're there.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Everyone is different. Some guys are agressive about asking or demanding sex. Some can't even make the suggestion. Your question touches on some of the guys in the middle. Especially at your age when the sexual urges overpower their modesty. Besides, with mixed and confusing signals from the girls, they are equally confused.
As @Dr_Latex_McPeggin observed, there are many reasons why this happens. There are a number of girls who will never candidly admit that they want sex but who can easily be talked into dropping their panties. Those women will readily go along with the pretext of "come to my home for a drink" and end up in bed but they would balk if asked to come to my home for sex.
There are every kind of people in the world. If you meet those ' some' guys, you don't stop and ask questions. You just punch them hard in the faces and get yourself out. Or never go with them since the first place. Obviously, they want ' sex' from you and think you are easy to get to. At least, that's the type of girls they are looking for. There are also guys who are not excited about ' sex' unless they love you. Those guys exist! Believe me!
/r/niceguys join your kind, they'll love you there
Yes you're right honesty is the best route to take in the matter what you're doing a lot of guys think they're sly are they try to manipulate girls into doing what they want them to do about as well as a rock would do it if you're honest straight-up and both people like like each other is 10 times better more romantic if your just honest and straight up
If you are talking about the same guy that you have been mentioning all this time, then we have numerous times told you that he is obviously just looking for sex and you aren't, you are going to get yourself hurt.
Please don't string along with him
It's too late we had sex
And?
He seems aright stays in contact still and wants to take me out
It's more like most guys are trying to be subtle about it rather than be completely blunt.
It really depends on the girl and if you don't know them that well and say straight up "Hey I want to have sex with you" can make a girl go running
Well I actually let my girl know beforehand and ask if she is ok. If yes, then I call her and we have sex...
the house is somewhere private to chill out, chat and see where things go. most guys will take sex if they can get it. so you really need to be clear if thats not your intention, since it probably IS their end game.
Part of the game to to get a girl into bed. If they were straight up they might get slapped up side the head by the girl who is now insulted.
Because if they straight up admitted it, no girl would want to hang out with them. Also being straight up like that takes away all the mystery. Lastly, "pretending"? I think inviting a woman over is a universally known sign that sex is going to ensue and I think women know this even better than men.
"Do they expect girls to go there thinking they will agree to have sex all of a sudden?"
Yes, see above...
I will at the very least feed you some home cooked shit. But i do tend to do this. Its the same when a girl asks me to come over to listen to her about her week. Why can't you just say you want to fuck?
Do u do it when your desperate and scared that they might say no?
More like when i want them to know that i am ready to get intimate. But i would say it really depends on the person. I am one who tends to romance, while still being blunt.
They have a better chance for sex if they get you to their place first. My brain thinks that but I'm not that shallow, I would like to know more about a girl and in the process if something happens, great.
Asking someone to your house is polite and less likely to scare the woman off. Depends on the relationship ofc.
Say "Want to come over and fuck?" to the wrong person and you'll be considered creepy or whatever. Being direct is scary.
Because they don't think they'll get laid if they straight up ask you for sex.
Most women would feel used in that situation, and guys know it wouldn't work very often, so playing the nice guy etc will get them to where they want to be.
Generally inviting a women over is just incentive for sex (not all the time, but probably most)
Hahaha... Assuming we're not talking about a current sexual partner..
99.9 % of girls I've ever known would never come back to my place if I said outright that I want sex with that invitation...
Manipulations.
Also called: Men-nipple-ation.
It's just straight up lack of confidence. It is obvious that they wanted sex at the time they invited you, but they are not confident enought to admit it, because they are not sure that you wabt the same (which is obvious because you agreed to go to his house). So... Lack of confidence
I've learned that women who do want sex don't want you to ask for it directly
Its easy to plan something, but actually going through with the plan can be nerve racking. Especially if theyve never done it before.
Just make sure theyre not weird or a psychopath or something before going round their house
If guys were truly honest about it, many girls will feel used. Thus, they have to pretend that they want the girls' company. The girl may feel cheap or slutty otherwise.
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