Why do women think they should orgasm before the man?

[CT_CD]

Why do they think they deserve to orgasm first? Why do women put their pleasure before the guys? Why do so many women believe the man should give her an orgasm or even multiple orgasms before he even has one?

Just look at the title of this sexist book..

Why should she cum first?

[CarpetDenim]

They are selfish. Even if he does cum first, it wouldn't kill you to just wait a few minutes and give him some time to recover before you just go at it again. Then he could go longer, you'd probably get an orgasm or two, and you'd finish up with him having a second one. That'd be pretty bomb.

[CarpetDenim]

I don't understand why people think it's all over after he cums once. You could keep going and make him feel good all over again, you'd just have to wait a little bit.

[Paige90]

I think it's difficult for most guys to cum a second time (I know some can but most can't). Most guys can not get hard again for 30 minutes to an hour and they end up going to sleep.

[CarpetDenim]

It really depends on their age. Guys my age up to around 30ish have a refractory period of anywhere from a couple minutes to half an hour. Meanwhile, a man in say, his 70s, can take up to 20 hours, so it'd be a lot easier for a younger guy to achieve multiple orgasms in one session.

[jeremythedrummer]

@carpetdenim and @Paige90 he can learn to control his orgasms. I have never had a sexual encounter with a girl before, and im straight. But when i do masturbate, i can last an hour or more by squeezing the shaft and base of my penis when im about to ejaculate (that is 2-7 seconds later than the actual orgasm) and sometimes i learn to time the stop well so i can orgasm but avoid ejaculation. enables myself to keep going. besides, if i was in an actual encounter, id get her off preferably during foreplay and try to get her off a second time with penetration, as it will be much easier for her to orgasm after her first round. And when i have possibly had some orgasms, and she gets off the second time, ill let her take over and give me the best time of my life. Thatll be my final orgasm with cum included.

[jeremythedrummer]

either that or, carpetdenim's method of getting him hard again does work.

[CarpetDenim]

@jeremythedrummer Interesting, so you basically edge yourself?

[jeremythedrummer]

In a sense? Like when i feel the 3-10 seconds of intense pleasure coming on, i immediately stop and squeeze my shaft. Worked wonders for my solo session earlier. @carpetdenim The orgasm won't be as intense, but multiple orgasms? Hell yea.

[CarpetDenim]

@jeremythedrummer I'll definitely have to keep that method in mind.

[jeremythedrummer]

also @carpetdenim you already have experience at that age?

[CarpetDenim]

No I don't have any experience myself, just plenty of ideas and fantasies floating around in my head.

[jeremythedrummer]

ahh. you can help your future guy get off in the same way i do lol. Take note, he will cum soon when his balls hug his body tight. Fantasies... so you watch that stuff regularly?

[CarpetDenim]

I do, yeah.

[jeremythedrummer]

quite unexpected tbh.

[nickyBBB]

My man deserve the orgasm first, last and ALL THE TIME

[nickyBBB]

Deserves*

[CT_CD]

I agree

[markscott]

What do you deserve?

[nickyBBB]

Lol I deserve an orgasm as well

[Revolver_]

They're selfish & they don't care about the man's pleasure

[Revolver_]

Thank you

[Joker_]

You're welcome

[disgustingweebtrash]

They don't care about the man's pleasure

[CarpetDenim]

True

[disgustingweebtrash]

@CT_CD give @CarpetDenim MHO and me MHO

[CT_CD]

I will

[CarpetDenim]

Thank you, I love you both

[MlleCake]

@disgustingweebtrash That just isn't so. Men are far more likely to get what they need to orgasm in a heterosexual encounter than women are. We can go into all the reasons that is. And sure, there are some women who don't care. But I'm involved with female dominants and even WE know that it's unfair to just use another person and not allow them what they will find gratifying in the relationship. We know there is give and take. And women have long been considered the "givers", the compassionate ones, the ones who nurture (rightly or not), but we are socialized from day one to suit ourselves to a man's pleasure by looking and acting in certain ways. At the same time, men and women are really only taught the one thing that makes babies. Unfortunately, that particular act is not at all orgasmic for 70% of women, nor is it the adventures of pleasure and love that many modern people want in their relationships.

[MlleCake]

What happens to women is that we can genuinely care about the man's pleasure. But we have been tamped down in our own sexuality that some women find it really hard to step outside the box of "sex is missionary, penis in vagina and nothing else" to do other things. Women get a constant message of things like girls who give hand jobs are slutty plus penises are gross. It really takes a lot of fortitude to break out of that. And it's men like the asker of this question who actually make that problem worse. If men want women who are free and uninhibited in bed, they also have to take responsibility for things they do the literally inhibit women. This is not to say that men are not also taught stupid, shaming shit about sex too. You are. It's just different shit and affects you differently.

[MlleCake]

And I would love if we could get to a point on GAG where men and women could speak about these things honestly. But we have so many men going around here calling women sluts and whores, and every alternate viewpoint as evil and feminist. How can we ever get to a point where we actually DO discuss things logically? Men have a lot to say about the bullshit messages they get about sex too, and how that motivates their behavior. But a lot of men here are shut down from discussing those things because they get called names by other men. I see that here too.

[kaylaS91]

I've never heard an actual woman insist she should cum at all, much less first. However, from a practical point of view, it makes sense that if she does cum, she cums first because it's game over after the guy cums and his dick goes flaccid.
(Also- for what it's worth, what I HAVE heard is that most guys dgaf about putting any effort into making sex enjoyable for anyone but themselves.)

[kaskas19]

This is a logical answer 👌

[juicyjessie]

So true. This sure deserves MHO!

[kaskas19]

Agreed !

[Revolver_]

I also deserve MHO

[CarpetDenim]

Except it's not game over after he cums and goes flaccid. You just have to wait out the refractory period (which can be anywhere from a couple minutes to half an hour in most men), get him hard again, and then continue going at it. Also, most men actually do care a lot about making their women cum, it ties a lot in with their ego, and most of them would feel awful if they couldn't please her or perform well for her.

[TheUglyMonk]

@kaylaS91 The last part is only true if you're a one night stand.

[michellebrown48]

good answer!!! This needs to be MHO! (don't think this 'man' would choose u tho)

[CarpetDenim]

It's not a good answer though. It's not logical. It doesn't deserve MHO.

[michellebrown48]

@CarpetDenim what is illogical about it?

[CarpetDenim]

Everything. 1) "I've never heard an actual woman insist she should cum at all, much less first." Women feel entitled to getting an orgasm and they feel entitled to cumming first. This is undebatable common knowledge. I've actually never heard an actual woman NOT insist she should cum, and most women wouldn't say their sexual encounter was an enjoyable one if they didn't orgasm at some point. 2) "... if she does cum, she cums first..." She literally just contradicted the first thing she said by insisting that women should cum first while being a woman herself. 3) "... because it's game over after the guy cums and his dick goes flaccid." It's not game over. Like I said before, all you would have to do is wait out the refractory period and then you could easily keep going at it, and for much longer the second time around. 4) "... what I HAVE heard is that most guys dgaf about putting any effort into making sex enjoyable for anyone but themselves." Wrong again. Practically the entirety of a

[CarpetDenim]

man's sexual ego is contingent upon whether or not he's able to efficiently please and satisfy his woman by giving her an orgasm, or even multiple orgasms. If a guy finds that he can't make his girl cum, 99% of the time he's going to feel terrible and inadequate.

[michellebrown48]

@CarpetDenim ok well i think that both genders care about the other person more, generally, and that both the asker and the opinion owner aren't 100% correct. this still deserves mho because instead of saying 'this is true' she is saying 'if anything, this is true, but neither usually happen'

[CarpetDenim]

The opinion owner wasn't even partially correct. Every single aspect of her opinion is flawed with fallacies and inaccuracies, as I just thoroughly analyzed and pointed out, and so is in no way a helpful opinion, much less the MOST helpful opinion. This opinion is illogical and bafflingly unhelpful. It's not a good answer and does not deserve MHO, it doesn't even deserve all these upvotes. I'm guessing the majority of them simply derived from the bandwagon effect though, because anyone with sense could smell the bullshit reeking here.

[markscott]

If the guy doesn't care about putting any effort into making sex enjoyable for anyone else but themselves, what's the sense of having them around? I get a lot out of sex, and I try to make it so my woman gets a lot out of it too. It seems to me, that most guys feel that way, at least the ones who are not in the get all the pussy you can scene.

[kaylaS91]

@CarpetDenim It'd be great if you could actually point out even just one of the many fallacies and inaccuracies I managed to squeeze into my short response?

[CarpetDenim]

@kaylaS91 Holy hell I literally broke it down piece by piece and analyzed the whole thing already. You're asking me to point out your fallacies and inaccuracies but I've clearly already done so, they're right up there, plainly quoted and thoroughly dissected. Maybe you should've actually read the thread first?

[kaylaS91]

@CarpetDenim some guys' refractory period isn't over until the next morning. So... I have shit to do. I have a job so I'm not gonna hang around that long just so he can get me to cum. Secondly, I realize that not all men are selfish fucks but this question is referring to the ones who are. The implications must've gone straight over your head, sweetcheeks.

[CarpetDenim]

No one's telling you to wait hours for a guy to be able to get hard again. I even said it myself, the vast majority of men between the ages of 18 and 30 have a refractory period lasting anywhere from a couple minutes to half an hour, and that's not a long time to wait. If you had to wait multiple hours then of course that's not a good method to use. If his refractory period is too long then it's not realistic for him to have multiple orgasms in one encounter, so obviously if he cums first and can't get it up then he should get you off in some other way. And he most likely will, because a man's sexual ego would plummet to rock bottom if he didn't possess the capability to please you. Secondly, you specifically said MOST men don't care about making sex enjoyable for their partner. The question may have been referring to and its author may very well be one of the men who are "selfish fucks," but you explicitly referred to most men in general and you explicitly made a jab at most men.

[kaylaS91]

@CarpetDenim I explicitly didn't make an explicit jab. I'm telling it for what it is. A big reason why so many women are okay pretending like they don't like sex is because their partner sucks in bed and doesn't bother to make them cum. Waiting for half an hour next to my boyfriend who PTFO because I have nothing better to do than hope he'll be down to get me to cum is how you define bad sex. Sorry you're part of that group girl. You should keep looking for some better dick because it sounds like you're getting scraps.

[smartguyone]

you are crazy

[BOUNTYGUY9]

l understand what you say l dont go soft after l come and l do care about the girl always all l want to do is please the girl and then l am very happy and pleased l can go for arouned about one hour at a time the most l have gone in one night is 7times so guys are not all the same well not me please dont bunch me in with the other kind of guys l am hear to please you the great scottish guy

[Revolver_]

I am not crazy

[BOUNTYGUY9]

@kaskas19

[kaylaS91]

@BOUNTYGUY9 yeah of course. This wasn't directed towards any guy in particular but from a biological perspective, the majority of guys will go flaccid for at least half an hour after they ejaculate.

[kaylaS91]

@BOUNTYGUY9 .. what?

[michellebrown48]

im not waiting a half fuckin hour to cum. by then i wouldn't care anymore

[kaylaS91]

@michellebrown48 amen. 🙏

[Browneye57]

Your picker is broken. :)

[Browneye57]

@CarpetDenim - child sex therapist. LOL

[Browneye57]

^^ This. 25yo wins out over 15yo. And I DGAF. LOL

[love_conquers_lust]

@Browneye57 I side with CarpetDenim. Men can have multiple orgasms too. He also has the same number of tools at his disposal as the woman does, even more given he is in the fact that he's endowed. The crucial element is communication. If the woman somehow expects a man to figure her out without so much as a word, I can see why some women would pout in futility. If she micromanages the operation, she leaves no room for creativity or unexpected variety. And vice versa, although maybe not as substantial, and that might be the root of the problem in incongruent expectations. Give and take. Should the goal not be for each partner to reach at least one climax by stimulation from the other? Would you not want BOTH partners to anticipate every session? Why should order matter unless it's by design? Guy is first, it's not game over for the willing.

[CarpetDenim]

@love_conquers_lust Thank you

[Browneye57]

@love_conquers_lust - you can side with whomever you want. IDGAF We have a 15yo child sex therapist calling the shots. Egads. This place gets more numb by the day. LOL But all we mostly hear from the women is that their men are crappy in the sack. So there ya go. The rest of y'all are experts. :)

[love_conquers_lust]

@Browneye57 And we have a supposed 60-year old using terms like "IDGAF" and "LOL". Should I discount your opinion? Does it matter more WHO is right or WHAT is right? Do you not agree the "IDGAF" attitude is the very symptom causing this issue? And what causes that symptom? "But all we mostly hear from the women is that their men are crappy in the sack. So there ya go." It's probably because those women are trying to tell you the truth in a crude way. Are you hearing it? In my opinion, if a woman isn't "feeling it" but allows you to "get yours", that's a golden opportunity to cease operation, tuck away, and figure out what the problem is. You like boning a dead fish? Is she your partner or meat with a pulse? Seems like weird rape to me.

[Browneye57]

@love_conquers_lust - man, you read a WHOLE bunch into all that. Holy crikey. Good luck sonny boy. :) We'll leave you with your child sex therapist. LOL

[love_conquers_lust]

@Browneye57 You can run if you wish. Or dispense with the sarcasm and contribute something of value. You wouldn't answer one question. Disappointing for an elder. Care to weigh in on why divorce is rising in your demographic?

[Browneye57]

@love_conquers_lust - divorce is rising because the women are unhhhhaaaapppyyy. The burden of performance is on the man. If he sits on the couch and drinks beer and watches football and ignores his woman she'll find someone else. Happens all day long, every day. Women are just looking for someone to pay attention to them, and then BAM! They bail, cheat, or shut down with the loser and take up with the new guy. It's not really that complicated. But you're confused about me, I've been with the same gorgeous woman for 30 years, have three grown children. I've been married for more years than you've been on the planet. So if you're going to shame and goad, then I'm gone. If you want some intelligent dialog then ask away. And I don't take relationship advice from a 15yo. Just not gonna happen. :)

[Browneye57]

Bottom line is if your'e not getting your woman off she's gonna find it somewhere else.

[Gedaria]

We are in agreement. Guys only think sex is for them. Ilove hearing my lady scream with pleasure its the best it gives me a big buss.. lovely...

[love_conquers_lust]

@Browneye57 "The burden of performance is on the man." I think this deserves further qualification. "And I don't take relationship advice from a 15yo. Just not gonna happen." And yet your message turned out basically the same as hers, in all your wisdom. I don't think it prudent to encourage girls to condition themselves for sexless/pleasureless relationships, like it's some inevitability they can't control. But it's encouraging to see you mention the platitude: "Bottom line is if your'e not getting your woman off she's gonna find it somewhere else." Implying it can be done. I hope your wife experiences satisfaction on a regular basis.

[michellebrown48]

stop freaking replying to this opinion oh my gosh just private message each other, i get a million notifications per day lol. Or just get over it, everyone has different opinions, that's the point of this site!! Yes a little battle can happen but not week long debates. Make a MyTake if you're that serious (:

[love_conquers_lust]

@michellebrown48 Up top, click three dots in upper right corner on same line as OP's profile pic, select "Mute".

[michellebrown48]

@love_conquers_lust notifications aren't the only reason. i still stand with everything else i said

[Browneye57]

@michellebrown48 - sorry honey, you don't get to make the rules. :)

[michellebrown48]

@Browneye57 lol what the fuck i just said that if your opinions are this strong then make a MyTake about it what 'rules' am i trying to push onto you?

[Revolver_]

Unfortunately, I am not going to be getting MHO this time

[SanHoloz]

@TheUglyMonk No its not, so many men use women as like a masturbation flesh light. The reality, based on numerous studies, polls, etc. is that more women than men do not have an orgasm regularly. Not due to any medical issue but simply that is just the way it is and this happens in all types of relationships.

[TheUglyMonk]

@SanHoloz Thank you for being on the only people on this website who use facts. We all know a lot of women don't have an orgasm during sex but I still stick to my point. If a guy and a girl are in a relationship typically the guy does care if his girl got an orgasm and enjoyed her time or not. If the guy doesn't care about the girl, why would he care about her orgasm? You say so many men, yes they might be many if you look at it number wise but percentage wise they are little.

[Browneye57]

@love_conquers_lust "I don't think it prudent to encourage girls to condition themselves for sexless/pleasureless relationships, like it's some inevitability they can't control. But it's encouraging to see you mention the platitude: "Bottom line is if your'e not getting your woman off she's gonna find it somewhere else." Implying it can be done. I hope your wife experiences satisfaction on a regular basis." I don't know who the fuck you think you are, but nothing I said anywhere here reflects AT ALL the sexual satisfaction of my wife nor is it relevant. Nor was there EVER ANYTHING about 'conditioning' girls or women for sexless. You invented all this crap in your little head. And who are you to be 'encouraged to see' - like you're some kind of judge and jury. Fuck you you little cunt. You have to be one of the most smug smarmy little twerps on here. What a load of garbage. Please block me so I don't have to read any more of your drivel.

[SanHoloz]

@TheUglyMonk I do think a portion of it is not caring but also I've noticed that a surprising amount of guys simply dont think about it when they see the girl enjoying sex or they are not that good at female pleasure even if they think they are, which is a communication fault on both ends. Having the female orgasm first ensures that that happens as it is more difficult and takes more than PIV intercourse for most women to orgasm but ALSO since women do not have a refractory period it makes more sense as she can continue to PIV still turned on and a lot more lubricated. It's crazy how much foreplay is not paid attention to. Like I get wet for the guy Im seeing just thinking about him and for awhile he felt how wet I was, went straight to sex after limited foreplay (aka us kissing and me giving him a bj) then he was tired when he finished. I enjoyed sex with him but didn't finish. He had a lot of experience too and I had to have the awkward conversation and try not to damage the ego

[Browneye57]

Nevermind... I'll do it for you. And the carpet denim girl - you need to read more and post less - you don't know what the hell you're talking about. A 15yo trying to give out relationship sex advice has to be the laugh of the year already. Just STFU. Seriously. "If he goes flacid just fire him up again'? Really? Cheese and rice. By folks, not more notices on this one for mr. brown - he has left the building.

[TheUglyMonk]

@SanHoloz That's lack of communication from your end "try not to damage the ego". If telling someone they need to do a better job damages their ego, that's something to laugh about.

[love_conquers_lust]

@michellebrown48 "Seventh rule: Fights will go on as long as they have to."-Tyler Durden, Fight Club 1999

[love_conquers_lust]

@Browneye57 Lost composure.

[love_conquers_lust]

@TheUglyMonk Agree. Yeah, the news that you're not performing will hurt. But I can take it. How can one improve if she's not honest? I think that protection of ego makes it worse. Just tell the truth so you can learn something useful and at least stand a chance of moving forward. Don't pussyfoot around about it. What's ego boosting is figuring out how to get her there despite your "limitations". I think it's a fair mindset to have.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

@kaskas19 whats that lol

[strangytie]

Sex has always been androcentric (revolving around men). Hell, women’s sex toys were originally a dildo or toy that’s penis shaped rather than something that stimulates the clitoris, the part that most women need to have stimulated so they can cum. It’s always been that if a woman doesn’t orgasm through penetration then it’s tough luck and she just doesn’t get to feel pleasured. So we want to be pleasured now. Almost always a guy stops after he orgasms and that’s it, sex is over. Most women are forced to finish on their own and the intimacy is gone. We can keep going after we orgasm but guys usually just stop and don’t think twice after they cum even if we haven’t.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

not me mam

[NicoletteKomotov]

Ladies first... it's polite.

[CT_CD]

Gentlemen first

[hayyde]

^ Never heard of such a thing 🤔

[AlisonCrystal]

Men are selfish. They don't card about the women experience at all. When a man orgasms they cannot continue the sexual intercourse. So they don't card at all

[NicoletteKomotov]

@AlisonCrystal
Yes, many are. Feminized males are better since they act like women and are more considerate of giving pleasure. That's why I like to control when un-feminized (masculine) males are going to ejaculate until I'm ready for them to... At least when we're having intercourse. That's why they make male chastity cages... to take care of the ones that only want to be selfish. Like this one,
www.amazon.com/.../

[CT_CD]

Wtf..

[BOUNTYGUY9]

need to get one

[BOUNTYGUY9]

so true

[guilly18butnot]

I don't think women think that way. There's however a practical, physical reason for them PREFERING (not wanting) to do so, as when men orgasm they lose most sexual interest, apart from erection.

Many women don't even reach orgasm at all during sexual intercourse, or do seldom, and only do when pleasuring themselves.

[MlleCake]

Because a woman can still perform sexually after having an orgasm and men cannot, generally speaking. So if the man orgasms first, the woman won't get one at all. Plus - most of what makes a woman orgasm is considered "foreplay", is often rushed through or not considered at all. If she doen't happen to be one of those small percentage of women who can orgasm from vaginal intercourse, she's SOL.

Statistics show that women in heterosexual relationships have orgasms a lot less often than their partners, and the reason for this is lack of focus on the most common ways women reach orgasm.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

l was born to please the girl l go all night is that normal

[MlleCake]

@BOUNTYGUY9 After you orgasm and ejaculate, do you find you need a little down time? Your penis probably does take a break. For a lot of men they just really can't or don't want to keep playing after they orgasm and ejaculate. For women, this means if not enough focused attention was paid to her, she just gets left with no orgasm.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

yes thats not fair on the girl/woman yes after we make love say for an hour l need l little down time as my penis goes a bit sore as l am uncut but it still stays hard even at my age l dont smoke and tea total that all helps l pass for 45 but l like the girl to rub her pussy on my face and l stick my toung in her pussy till she comes then we go back to having sex l do love the girl on top as well

[BOUNTYGUY9]

l love fireplay as well l love all girls

[MlleCake]

@BOUNTYGUY9 See. That's the way it should be. It just isn't, for a lot of women.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

a lot of woman get a raw deal in life l can understand lots of things in life male and famale l am single and lots of girls want sex with me as l can understand them as they dont get pleased at home what a waste of a life are you the same as well not been pleased at home the best thing that god done was to make females some guys dont like me as l stand up for all females all l wish to do is please l respect all females

[Gypsy_x]

Because after a man orgasms, its usually over.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

not with me it ain't l can go day and night like a bunney

[Menelin]

@BOUNTYGUY9 Put your donger away, Bugs.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

@Menelin he he he

[BOUNTYGUY9]

thank you lol

[HunkaManMeat]

last girl i had sex with came 3 times, couldn't make me cum even once. all because she didn't want to do it without a condom even though i had the pill, and she wouldn't let me do her up the ass, she wouldn't even blow me afterwards when we got tired of humping. pretty fucking selfish. then she said she would call me and come back but deleted me on tinder. ugh. women.

[rachelrockstheblock]

We can have multiple and your kinda one and done sorta deal

[jeremythedrummer]

not true. Men can learn to control and have multiple peaks too.

[rachelrockstheblock]

And if I had scales I'd be a goddamn mermaid

[jeremythedrummer]

Its legit. Orgasm and ejaculation are two diffeent things. Orgasm is the feeling of intense pleasure, and ejaculation is what follows 2-7 seconds after orgasm (usually 2-3). By squeezing the shaft before ejaculation, the man can have orgasm and go again. either that or the stopping of stimulation can be perfectly timed to habe the same result! Go google it 👍

[chris1984]

mho for the mermaid comment. that said, guys can go more than once. just depends on time restrictions and headspace 😊

[BOUNTYGUY9]

not me l go on all night with a prety girl

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

Because women take forever to orgasm

[Jmcmanning]

Most guys I know, rather a female orgasm first before they do. Not all guys can keep it up and hard after they have cum.

[coralee]

Yeah I'm going with the poster who said they have never heard this point of view at all. I hear from far more women that men can't get them to orgasm at all. And from a practical perespective women can orgasm multiple times, while men take a much longer time to be able to go again. A woman waiting for a guy to orgasm usually means no orgasm for her.

[poeticpages]

A man's dick goes flaccid after he cums, so it's really nice if he could make me cum BEFORE he cums. Have never actually came from penetration because he ALWAYS came first. It sucks. As long as you're willing to make me cum eventually, then it's fine, but in my experience, the guy didn't really care.

[OVOXO]

the only thing that i can suggest is that usually when guys cum first, sex is pretty much over and they don't put much effort into helping the woman cum. it's not sexist it's just something that's been built on throughout time. historically, a lot of women didn't have orgasms or cum during sex, and if they did, it was seen as bad and they could even be stoned or have their vagina removed / damaged as a punishment. that's how it was back then, and in some places, even now. it seems selfish and some women can be selfish about it, but if it bothers you so much, just put in some effort to help her cum once you have, and there shouldn't be a problem :D

[BOUNTYGUY9]

foreplay and licking the girls pussy dont ever turn yourself away from the girl when you have cum start to play with the girl then you will get a hard cock again girls have a brain as well and needs just like us guys

[xiaowen]

Not necessarily. I don't think like that... It's really just what happens naturally. The only thing is both parties/sexes should have the opportunity and leaving the other one left out after finishing themselves is selfish.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think many women have had the experience of a guy cumming, then he pulled out, rolled over, closed his eyes, and went to sleep. Bummer for her.

[EpicDweeb]

Dude she comes first because if she does, then you will. It's the nature of the beast that when she comes it makes the guy feel better. It's harder for the girl to be satisfied in the first place so it's better to focus on making her cum first. You're guaranteed to come if you can get her to come, but the opposite is not so assured.

Some girls may be selfish, some don't care about a man's pleasure... neither of these are the reason though. When 1 out of 5 women have trouble coming in the first place. Whether or not she can come may be a source of anxiety for her so be sensitive that... unless you don't care about the woman's pleasure or are just selfish ;)

[themetalhead]

normally because if it happens to the guy first, its the end of the game man..

[madhatters4]

"other"

[Sspaulding728]

Um... If the woman isn't orgasming first there is something wrong there. I make it my top priority to make sure the woman has gotten her rocks off before i even think about trying to catch a nut.

[Curmudgeon]

Honestly? Because you can make a woman orgasm again and again if you do it right. For men, on the other hand, once the cannon fires, it takes much time to reload it.