Is it normal to talk about your masturbation habits with a friend of the opposite sex?

Question

There is in no way anything between me and my friend, and we were quiet comfortable talking about it but I thought it over afterwards and was wondering if we'd gone a bit too personal? It was just talking about our porn preferences and etc. Do u do this with anyone apart from ur partner?

Answer 1

Anonymous

I used to do this with my exbestfriend until I found my soul mate. I didn't think anything of it but I pretty much lived under a rock my whole life and thought it was normal to talk about this stuff. I never watched porn or did anything out of the norm, but i had a lot of kinky fantasies. Well needless to say after awhile of talkin to him he couldnt keep his hands off of me. Just saying he probably wants u.

Answer 2

Biancs | 58 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Id say it's pretty normal and i believe people should be able to talk to one another about the taboo subjects... just make sure its a healthy setting.

Answer 3

FluffyBee | 61 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Wouldn't talk this with a friend from the opposite sex. But I do talk about this sometimes with my female best friend😊

Answer 4

erika01

Xper 2

totally ok. I always talk about it with my male friend

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YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE | 181 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Depends on how close you are. I had one girl was open to about that. Told each other everything. Slippery slope. In the back of my mind though I didn't rule out a relationship with her until she told me that she slept with over 100 guys and 2 guys in the same night. Was forever grossed out.

Asker

+1 y
100 guys? HOW
YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE

+1 y
She was attractive and owned a vagina. All my age 20. Sometimes 2 in a night.
Asker

+1 y
Holt fuck
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YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE

+1 y
She was one of those girls whose friendship I enjoyed. Never wanted to risk losing it by making a move. Lost her virginity at 16 and went crazy. She grabbed my ass once and I pretended it never happened. Didn't want to touch her. She was friendzoned forever.
jondoe94

+1 y
You got shot down, 100 people in a few days lok
YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE

+1 y
@jondoe94 Would have definitely considered her at 15. Wouldn't have touched her at 16 and beyond. . I know she would have let me. Viewed her vagina as toxic. Husband of 20 years is clueless. They split up for a few months about 3 years into their marriage and she screwed about another dozen guys. Then had an affair with a dentist 10 years ago. Now she has zero sex drive. Husband described their twin daughters as "Having good morals like their mother." Had difficulty keeping a straight face. Never said anything.
jondoe94

+1 y
Ok i didn't fully read the post, no not at if she was 15 16 or 18. Im 25, apologize i didn't read the whole post, all i was trying to say is that bodies are viewed polar opposites some time and none of the figures should matter if you really want to know someone
Syrian_survivor

+1 y
IF SHE BREATHES
SHE'S A THOOOT

Answer 6

Asker

100 guys? HOW

Answer 7

YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE

She was attractive and owned a vagina. All my age 20. Sometimes 2 in a night.

Answer 8

Asker

Holt fuck

Answer 9

YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE

She was one of those girls whose friendship I enjoyed. Never wanted to risk losing it by making a move. Lost her virginity at 16 and went crazy. She grabbed my ass once and I pretended it never happened. Didn't want to touch her. She was friendzoned forever.

Answer 10

jondoe94

You got shot down, 100 people in a few days lok

Answer 11

YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE

@jondoe94 Would have definitely considered her at 15. Wouldn't have touched her at 16 and beyond. . I know she would have let me. Viewed her vagina as toxic. Husband of 20 years is clueless. They split up for a few months about 3 years into their marriage and she screwed about another dozen guys. Then had an affair with a dentist 10 years ago. Now she has zero sex drive. Husband described their twin daughters as "Having good morals like their mother." Had difficulty keeping a straight face. Never said anything.

Answer 12

jondoe94

Ok i didn't fully read the post, no not at if she was 15 16 or 18. Im 25, apologize i didn't read the whole post, all i was trying to say is that bodies are viewed polar opposites some time and none of the figures should matter if you really want to know someone

Answer 13

Syrian_survivor

IF SHE BREATHES
SHE'S A THOOOT

Answer 14

Buckzor | 2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

I think it's fine as long as you trust them.
I've had a close female friend of mine ask to see my penis, and said she's show me her breasts. Wasn't for any reason other than trust, and we've talked about sex/masturbation too.
I see no problem.

Asker

+1 y
Through photos or irl?
Buckzor

+1 y
Photos. Would be weirder in real life in my opinion.
Asker

+1 y
I can't decide which one would be weirder, irl it might be more arousing cos its irl and u got this dick/tits infront of u. But with photos the other has the privacy to be secretly aroused by it u know?
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Buckzor

+1 y
I agree. I would be afraid of getting a boner, as i'm easily excited. Which would make for one awkward moment between us. Especially since we both liked each other at different times over the last few years lol.
Asker

+1 y
Ahahaa same, well not afraid of the boner but getting too excited and have the moment esculate too much
Red_Arrow

+1 y
If she wants to see your penis, for whatever reason, she would probably be interested in seeing your boner, too. IRL let’s each of you adjust your view if desired, and ask questions also.

Would depend on your level of friendship and trust.

Answer 15

Asker

Through photos or irl?

Answer 16

Buckzor

Photos. Would be weirder in real life in my opinion.

Answer 17

Asker

I can't decide which one would be weirder, irl it might be more arousing cos its irl and u got this dick/tits infront of u. But with photos the other has the privacy to be secretly aroused by it u know?

Answer 18

Buckzor

I agree. I would be afraid of getting a boner, as i'm easily excited. Which would make for one awkward moment between us. Especially since we both liked each other at different times over the last few years lol.

Answer 19

Asker

Ahahaa same, well not afraid of the boner but getting too excited and have the moment esculate too much

Answer 20

Red_Arrow

If she wants to see your penis, for whatever reason, she would probably be interested in seeing your boner, too. IRL let’s each of you adjust your view if desired, and ask questions also.

Would depend on your level of friendship and trust.

Answer 21

random56286 | 426 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

The only time I ever heard any girls talk about it is during very intimate discussions before, during, or after the event

Asker

+1 y
so never with a purely platonic friend?
random56286

+1 y
Absolutely not. Especially for a guy to bring up!!! Things have changed some but homosexuality and masterbation were both taboo when I was growing up. People are only coming out of the closet to let their potential dates know what they do. We were supposed masterbate in shame 😂😂

Answer 22

Asker

so never with a purely platonic friend?

Answer 23

random56286

Absolutely not. Especially for a guy to bring up!!! Things have changed some but homosexuality and masterbation were both taboo when I was growing up. People are only coming out of the closet to let their potential dates know what they do. We were supposed masterbate in shame 😂😂

Answer 24

Rudon30

Xper 7

Haha my female and male friends we are open about our sex lives and share and encourage each other where we can it's nothing to be ashame about given we are mature about the subject and trust each other with our personal habits. There isn't anything my females or males friend concerning sex we have not disclose with each. Thus is where you have real true friends who are a integral part of your life

Answer 25

SnapTsch

Yoda

Thats a Grey area
Its all hunky dory as long as you are talking with the beat friend and not any other friend and as long its stays away from narration and technique

Asker

+1 y
I was kinda worried bc he started acting more affectionate afterwards but it may be because he felt closer to me maybe?
SnapTsch

+1 y
Or maybe just maybe, he thought you were easy since you opened up about sexual things.
Asker

+1 y
Easy?
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SnapTsch

+1 y
Easy = "Easier to get into bed with"
Asker

+1 y
Hmm, he wouldn't rlly be that kinda guy to do anything to get into a girls pants
SnapTsch

+1 y
Well, what can I say, you know better
Asker

+1 y
True, but nice to get a guys perspective, thanku! x
SnapTsch

+1 y
Its fine, I didn't really help, but somehow I felt you were sort of defensive so I decided to not did into it. 😊
Asker

+1 y
I was defensive? lel sorry didn't mean to. u can dig all u like aha
SnapTsch

+1 y
Its fine 😅
Don't worry
Have fun and I hope you find the answer you were looking for 😊
Asker

+1 y
Well there's no exact answer, just looking for opinions, so thanks anywho :)
SnapTsch

+1 y
Just a final question.
What types of friend are we talking here?
Just an acquaintance
Just a friend
A friend
A friend that youlike
Good friend
Or a best friend?
Asker

+1 y
A really good friend, one of my best. he usualy comes to me for advice and we often confide in each other emotionally. But we have both had small crushes on each other at some point but not anymore
SnapTsch

+1 y
Well the affectionate behavior is not due to feeling closer since you opened
Asker

+1 y
What makes u think that?
SnapTsch

+1 y
Because opening up sexually gives false hopes and leads people on unless you are mutually completely platonic since the begining
Asker

+1 y
I hope not, i really do not want anything more than a platonic friendship with him
SnapTsch

+1 y
doesn't mean that he looks at it the same way because clearly the behavior has changed
Asker

+1 y
yikkeees i gotta hope that isn't the case
SnapTsch

+1 y
Maybe you can treat this a life lesson about boundaries.
Because there are high chances that its not platonic owing to the change and its almost slim to none chances of going back to being just friends from that.

Answer 26

Asker

I was kinda worried bc he started acting more affectionate afterwards but it may be because he felt closer to me maybe?

Answer 27

SnapTsch

Or maybe just maybe, he thought you were easy since you opened up about sexual things.

Answer 28

Asker

Easy?

Answer 29

SnapTsch

Easy = "Easier to get into bed with"

Answer 30

Asker

Hmm, he wouldn't rlly be that kinda guy to do anything to get into a girls pants

Answer 31

SnapTsch

Well, what can I say, you know better

Answer 32

Asker

True, but nice to get a guys perspective, thanku! x

Answer 33

SnapTsch

Its fine, I didn't really help, but somehow I felt you were sort of defensive so I decided to not did into it. 😊

Answer 34

Asker

I was defensive? lel sorry didn't mean to. u can dig all u like aha

Answer 35

SnapTsch

Its fine 😅
Don't worry
Have fun and I hope you find the answer you were looking for 😊

Answer 36

Asker

Well there's no exact answer, just looking for opinions, so thanks anywho :)

Answer 37

SnapTsch

Just a final question.
What types of friend are we talking here?
Just an acquaintance
Just a friend
A friend
A friend that youlike
Good friend
Or a best friend?

Answer 38

Asker

A really good friend, one of my best. he usualy comes to me for advice and we often confide in each other emotionally. But we have both had small crushes on each other at some point but not anymore

Answer 39

SnapTsch

Well the affectionate behavior is not due to feeling closer since you opened

Answer 40

Asker

What makes u think that?

Answer 41

SnapTsch

Because opening up sexually gives false hopes and leads people on unless you are mutually completely platonic since the begining

Answer 42

Asker

I hope not, i really do not want anything more than a platonic friendship with him

Answer 43

SnapTsch

doesn't mean that he looks at it the same way because clearly the behavior has changed

Answer 44

Asker

yikkeees i gotta hope that isn't the case

Answer 45

SnapTsch

Maybe you can treat this a life lesson about boundaries.
Because there are high chances that its not platonic owing to the change and its almost slim to none chances of going back to being just friends from that.

Answer 46

GingerGuy | 8.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Depends on the friend/person. I wouldn't with most, but I did have 1 female friend I would've if we had went there. I'm actually kind of surprised we never did actually lol

Answer 47

ryanlightning | 217 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

I've spoken to a female friend about it, she was even with me when we both bought some sex toys

Answer 48

Tommyboy23

Xper 5

Glad I'm not the only one. I am not shy about that kind of stuff and want to talk to my female friend about it, but I know she wouldn't be receptive.

Asker

+1 y
Well if you aren't on that level of closeness you probably shouldn't, but if ur both comfortable and know each other v well it should be fine to just discuss it.
Tommyboy23

+1 y
We have gotten closer lately. I told her about my recent experience at a strip club, which was more than just getting a dance. She didn't mind hearing the details. I think masturbation is something she'd never share, though.

Answer 49

Asker

Well if you aren't on that level of closeness you probably shouldn't, but if ur both comfortable and know each other v well it should be fine to just discuss it.

Answer 50

Tommyboy23

We have gotten closer lately. I told her about my recent experience at a strip club, which was more than just getting a dance. She didn't mind hearing the details. I think masturbation is something she'd never share, though.

Answer 51

robmcgob

Xper 2

Talking about wanking is just a thing friends do. It must be particularly interesting coming from someone of the opposite sex

Answer 52

Dredg | 78 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 4

Only if we are really, really close. I'm platonic with an ex of mine and we regularly talk self sex.

Answer 53

johnieohm2 | 406 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

yes, it shouldn't be taboo to discuss proper masturbation with a SO

Answer 54

randomguynymber50 | 91 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 3

Yh me and my close female friend spoke about this quite a lot tbh we took the piss out of each other aswell lol

Answer 55

Nice222 | 2.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Yeah I have a couple of female friends that I talk to about it.

Answer 56

Anonymous

I have a female best friends with whom I'm very open about this kind of stuff

Answer 57

Gedaria | 8.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Depends on the situation

Asker

+1 y
If ur just talking and it comes up in conversation
Gedaria

+1 y
Some lasses like to know. Its a way to get to know someone and good fun..
Gedaria

+1 y
girls do get turned on talking about it. I dont know a girl who doesn't do it they are just as nosey what guys do as we are of what girls do...

Answer 58

Asker

If ur just talking and it comes up in conversation

Answer 59

Gedaria

Some lasses like to know. Its a way to get to know someone and good fun..

Answer 60

Gedaria

girls do get turned on talking about it. I dont know a girl who doesn't do it they are just as nosey what guys do as we are of what girls do...

Answer 61

MrHandicapped

Xper 1

me and my best girl mate talk about it

Asker

+1 y
To how much detail?
MrHandicapped

+1 y
as far as we feel is acceptable. sometimes she has said that she let the guy cum in her mouth, on her tits etc

Answer 62

Asker

To how much detail?

Answer 63

MrHandicapped

as far as we feel is acceptable. sometimes she has said that she let the guy cum in her mouth, on her tits etc

Answer 64

SeldomlySavage

Xper 2

He's Prolly like, I'm totally going to score...

Asker

+1 y
😓😓
SeldomlySavage

+1 y
Yeah, at least I did. I was in that situation before and I totally thought that since she was comfortable talking about it I must have been on that level... and I ended up losing a ftiend
Asker

+1 y
Naw sorry to hear that
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SeldomlySavage

+1 y
No, it's cool. Shit happens. My first girlfriend and I talked openly about masturbation and porn before we got together and we ended up together for 5 years.

Answer 65

Asker

😓😓

Answer 66

SeldomlySavage

Yeah, at least I did. I was in that situation before and I totally thought that since she was comfortable talking about it I must have been on that level... and I ended up losing a ftiend

Answer 67

Asker

Naw sorry to hear that

Answer 68

SeldomlySavage

No, it's cool. Shit happens. My first girlfriend and I talked openly about masturbation and porn before we got together and we ended up together for 5 years.

Answer 69

Goochbreaker

Xper 6

there is no way he's not horny for you

Answer 70

Flower-petal

Yoda

I talk about everything with everyone lmao

Answer 71

CoffeeWC | 735 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

It does seem you two have gotten pretty personal

Answer 72

Zelea | 75 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Yeah that's normal.

Answer 73

David_Muse

Xper 2

That is good if u can of course

Answer 74

MAC42 | 216 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Don't have any friends

Answer 75

Nahid1234

Guru

No it isn’t.

Answer 76

Anonymous

Not normal

ryanlightning

+1 y
Why do you think that?

Answer 77

ryanlightning

Why do you think that?

Answer 78

Anonymous

Yes it is

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