Is it normal to talk about your masturbation habits with a friend of the opposite sex?

[Anonymous]

There is in no way anything between me and my friend, and we were quiet comfortable talking about it but I thought it over afterwards and was wondering if we'd gone a bit too personal? It was just talking about our porn preferences and etc. Do u do this with anyone apart from ur partner?

[Anonymous]

I used to do this with my exbestfriend until I found my soul mate. I didn't think anything of it but I pretty much lived under a rock my whole life and thought it was normal to talk about this stuff. I never watched porn or did anything out of the norm, but i had a lot of kinky fantasies. Well needless to say after awhile of talkin to him he couldnt keep his hands off of me. Just saying he probably wants u.

[Biancs]

Id say it's pretty normal and i believe people should be able to talk to one another about the taboo subjects... just make sure its a healthy setting.

[FluffyBee]

Wouldn't talk this with a friend from the opposite sex. But I do talk about this sometimes with my female best friend😊

[erika01]

totally ok. I always talk about it with my male friend

[YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE]

Depends on how close you are. I had one girl was open to about that. Told each other everything. Slippery slope. In the back of my mind though I didn't rule out a relationship with her until she told me that she slept with over 100 guys and 2 guys in the same night. Was forever grossed out.

[Asker]

100 guys? HOW

[YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE]

She was attractive and owned a vagina. All my age 20. Sometimes 2 in a night.

[Asker]

Holt fuck

[YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE]

She was one of those girls whose friendship I enjoyed. Never wanted to risk losing it by making a move. Lost her virginity at 16 and went crazy. She grabbed my ass once and I pretended it never happened. Didn't want to touch her. She was friendzoned forever.

[jondoe94]

You got shot down, 100 people in a few days lok

[YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE]

@jondoe94 Would have definitely considered her at 15. Wouldn't have touched her at 16 and beyond. . I know she would have let me. Viewed her vagina as toxic. Husband of 20 years is clueless. They split up for a few months about 3 years into their marriage and she screwed about another dozen guys. Then had an affair with a dentist 10 years ago. Now she has zero sex drive. Husband described their twin daughters as "Having good morals like their mother." Had difficulty keeping a straight face. Never said anything.

[jondoe94]

Ok i didn't fully read the post, no not at if she was 15 16 or 18. Im 25, apologize i didn't read the whole post, all i was trying to say is that bodies are viewed polar opposites some time and none of the figures should matter if you really want to know someone

[Syrian_survivor]

IF SHE BREATHES SHE'S A THOOOT

[Buckzor]

I think it's fine as long as you trust them.
I've had a close female friend of mine ask to see my penis, and said she's show me her breasts. Wasn't for any reason other than trust, and we've talked about sex/masturbation too.
I see no problem.

[Asker]

Through photos or irl?

[Buckzor]

Photos. Would be weirder in real life in my opinion.

[Asker]

I can't decide which one would be weirder, irl it might be more arousing cos its irl and u got this dick/tits infront of u. But with photos the other has the privacy to be secretly aroused by it u know?

[Buckzor]

I agree. I would be afraid of getting a boner, as i'm easily excited. Which would make for one awkward moment between us. Especially since we both liked each other at different times over the last few years lol.

[Asker]

Ahahaa same, well not afraid of the boner but getting too excited and have the moment esculate too much

[Red_Arrow]

If she wants to see your penis, for whatever reason, she would probably be interested in seeing your boner, too. IRL let’s each of you adjust your view if desired, and ask questions also. Would depend on your level of friendship and trust.

[Zelea]

Yeah that's normal.

[random56286]

The only time I ever heard any girls talk about it is during very intimate discussions before, during, or after the event

[Asker]

so never with a purely platonic friend?

[random56286]

Absolutely not. Especially for a guy to bring up!!! Things have changed some but homosexuality and masterbation were both taboo when I was growing up. People are only coming out of the closet to let their potential dates know what they do. We were supposed masterbate in shame 😂😂

[SnapTsch]

Thats a Grey area
Its all hunky dory as long as you are talking with the beat friend and not any other friend and as long its stays away from narration and technique

[Asker]

I was kinda worried bc he started acting more affectionate afterwards but it may be because he felt closer to me maybe?

[SnapTsch]

Or maybe just maybe, he thought you were easy since you opened up about sexual things.

[Asker]

Easy?

[SnapTsch]

Easy = "Easier to get into bed with"

[Asker]

Hmm, he wouldn't rlly be that kinda guy to do anything to get into a girls pants

[SnapTsch]

Well, what can I say, you know better

[Asker]

True, but nice to get a guys perspective, thanku! x

[SnapTsch]

Its fine, I didn't really help, but somehow I felt you were sort of defensive so I decided to not did into it. 😊

[Asker]

I was defensive? lel sorry didn't mean to. u can dig all u like aha

[SnapTsch]

Its fine 😅 Don't worry Have fun and I hope you find the answer you were looking for 😊

[Asker]

Well there's no exact answer, just looking for opinions, so thanks anywho :)

[SnapTsch]

Just a final question. What types of friend are we talking here? Just an acquaintance Just a friend A friend A friend that youlike Good friend Or a best friend?

[Asker]

A really good friend, one of my best. he usualy comes to me for advice and we often confide in each other emotionally. But we have both had small crushes on each other at some point but not anymore

[SnapTsch]

Well the affectionate behavior is not due to feeling closer since you opened

[Asker]

What makes u think that?

[SnapTsch]

Because opening up sexually gives false hopes and leads people on unless you are mutually completely platonic since the begining

[Asker]

I hope not, i really do not want anything more than a platonic friendship with him

[SnapTsch]

doesn't mean that he looks at it the same way because clearly the behavior has changed

[Asker]

yikkeees i gotta hope that isn't the case

[SnapTsch]

Maybe you can treat this a life lesson about boundaries. Because there are high chances that its not platonic owing to the change and its almost slim to none chances of going back to being just friends from that.

[GingerGuy]

Depends on the friend/person. I wouldn't with most, but I did have 1 female friend I would've if we had went there. I'm actually kind of surprised we never did actually lol

[ryanlightning]

I've spoken to a female friend about it, she was even with me when we both bought some sex toys

[Goochbreaker]

there is no way he's not horny for you

[robmcgob]

Talking about wanking is just a thing friends do. It must be particularly interesting coming from someone of the opposite sex

[Flower-petal]

I talk about everything with everyone lmao

[Rudon30]

Haha my female and male friends we are open about our sex lives and share and encourage each other where we can it's nothing to be ashame about given we are mature about the subject and trust each other with our personal habits. There isn't anything my females or males friend concerning sex we have not disclose with each. Thus is where you have real true friends who are a integral part of your life

[Gedaria]

Depends on the situation

[Asker]

If ur just talking and it comes up in conversation

[Gedaria]

Some lasses like to know. Its a way to get to know someone and good fun..

[Gedaria]

girls do get turned on talking about it. I dont know a girl who doesn't do it they are just as nosey what guys do as we are of what girls do...

[MrHandicapped]

me and my best girl mate talk about it

[Asker]

To how much detail?

[MrHandicapped]

as far as we feel is acceptable. sometimes she has said that she let the guy cum in her mouth, on her tits etc

[Tommyboy23]

Glad I'm not the only one. I am not shy about that kind of stuff and want to talk to my female friend about it, but I know she wouldn't be receptive.

[Asker]

Well if you aren't on that level of closeness you probably shouldn't, but if ur both comfortable and know each other v well it should be fine to just discuss it.

[Tommyboy23]

We have gotten closer lately. I told her about my recent experience at a strip club, which was more than just getting a dance. She didn't mind hearing the details. I think masturbation is something she'd never share, though.

[SeldomlySavage]

He's Prolly like, I'm totally going to score...

[Asker]

😓😓

[SeldomlySavage]

Yeah, at least I did. I was in that situation before and I totally thought that since she was comfortable talking about it I must have been on that level... and I ended up losing a ftiend

[Asker]

Naw sorry to hear that

[SeldomlySavage]

No, it's cool. Shit happens. My first girlfriend and I talked openly about masturbation and porn before we got together and we ended up together for 5 years.

[Nahid1234]

No it isn’t.

[Dredg]

Only if we are really, really close. I'm platonic with an ex of mine and we regularly talk self sex.

[CoffeeWC]

It does seem you two have gotten pretty personal

[johnieohm2]

yes, it shouldn't be taboo to discuss proper masturbation with a SO

[Nice222]

Yeah I have a couple of female friends that I talk to about it.

[randomguynymber50]

Yh me and my close female friend spoke about this quite a lot tbh we took the piss out of each other aswell lol

[MAC42]

Don't have any friends