Well, guys can answer whether you came on too strong. You probably should have waited a bit longer and see how it went. If he'd get bored of you in a matter of weeks, that alone would answer you. It's pointless to consider things before a certain period of time - not to mention you need to be sure of your own feelings and first build the whole picture of the guy.
Anyway - he obviously likes the "benefits" part. It might be all he wants, in which case you wouldn't be losing anything.
If you want me to be honest ... I always thought "friends with benefits" was the most ridiculous thing in the world. The only person with ANY benefits is the guy. If you agree to something like this, you must have very low morals. Prostitutes at least get paid - you don't even get emotions in exchange.
Either way, do what you want.
If I were you, I would be nice, sweet and act interested in him and his life from this point on, but I wouldn't send him a text message every day or have any more serious relationship talks. I'd also try to stop analysing everything I or him did all the time and just keep busy with other things.
If he wants you enough, he will make a move. Trust me.
You can flirt innocently and you can act nice, but that is about all.
If nothing happens, let him go and be more careful when the next boy comes along. x0 0 0 0I think you were a bit to intense. And then you kept doing it. Just go with things. If they're getting to intimate and you don't feel comfortable without a commitment, pull back instead of demanding an explanation in the moment. Not everything needs to be resolved or answered right now, a relationship builds over time and time is what it will take.
As for this instance.. I would give him some space.. If you should you can respect his space and the obvious boundaries he's putting up, there might be a chance at salvaging your friendship. If you keep pushing, you'll lose him completely.0 1 0 0Neffyiffy go with this its exactly what I would tell you.
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If I was him and you were talking like that to me I'd be having red alarms going off in my head that this girl was going to be trouble and to pull out before it gets weird. You came off REAALLY strong and that's pretty unappealing that early in the relationship. You can keep hanging out just stop talking about the future and enjoy the moment. Find a stride and go with it. If he tries to push to a more intimate setting you can corner him and ask what his intentions are but don't get all "are we soul mate material?"
1 0 0 0Should I apologize for coming off too strong that night because of the alcohol? Or should I just pretend that nothing happened and ask for my stuff back? Thanks, I did this kind of stuff to two guys and no wonder they all ended up bad
If alcohol always gets your lips loose like this than I would stray away from drinking with prospective boyfriends. As far as what you can do with your current beau? Not much. The damage is already done if he won't respond back to your texts. The only reason he isn't responding is because he doesn't want to lead you on. If you send him an innocent message like "Hey I left some clothes at your place. When is a good time to pick them up?" that should be fine. He might even welcome it and take ...
... it to mean you're trying to distance yourself from him (not being clingy) which might work in your favor. You can also suggest that he drop them off at your place. The idea, though, is to come off nonchalant. Also, don't 'haha' or 'lol' all the time and excessively apologize. It's so unattractive when chicks say sorry every five seconds and putting "lol" at the end of every single sentence makes you look nervous. Save the laughs for when something is actually funny.
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