What to do? my husband sucks in Bed?

Question

I married my husband because he is a good guy and he treats me right not because of his sex skills. Everytime we have sex it’s so horrible. He had only been with like 2 girls before me so he doesn’t have much experience. Lately we have been having sex more and more but it has been so horrible that when he gives me head in order for me to focus I have to watch porn that’s the only way that I can cumm. Recently he has noticed that I have been watching porn more and more when he gives me head and he has finally said something about it. He stopped eating me out and told me that I could finish by myself because obviously he wasn’t good enough for me to come with out it. His dick is really small so it doesn’t please me at all and he does nothing to stimulate me during sex he just Cumms so fast too so if I could cumm I couldn’t because he’s always done so fast what do I do to make things better I love my husband but he does suck in bed?

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

well...

you sound like you two did NOT have sex before marriage.

A couple of things you could try before you consider less savory options:

- Teach him how to do oral on you and how you like it.
- Watch porn with him to show him what you want, like, and NEED
- Go buy some sex toys together. Get a large to huge dildo vibrator and teach him to use it on you, esp when he is having sex with you and use it on your clit to increase your pleasure.
- Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.. as part of it, jack him off so he cums right away, then get him hard again... he will last a loooooootttttttt longer.
- Talk to him about it... sometimes talking will fix it.

The smallness issue next... there are sex toys that fit over a guy's dick that can make him bigger. Also, a cock ring does wonders, you just have to get him super hard and "edging" works good. Taking him to the edge and stopping and then again, he will get super hard in the cock ring and sex will be better coz he is harder. (it is important to make him cum once before you do this coz otherwise, he will cum fast again)

Less savory option. I did this with my exfiance.

I have a very high sex drive and even him having sex with me 4 or 5 times a day was literally killing him and even him orally/fingering me to more O's, i was still needing more. (He was giving me like 10+ O's a day, sometimes more! i was still horny af)

I made him a deal that I needed more. As long as I didn't tell him, come home smelling of sex, and no cum in or on me, he told me to find a friends with benefits to get the sex i needed. Also, no STDs or prego.

You might consider supplementing your sex life this way.

or try having sex with a woman. Some men get off on seeing their wife with another woman AND being able to join in.

If you have exhausted all options, even trying to talk to a marriage counselor (a sex councilor would be better since the problem is in the bedroom), then you have to decide what is more important to you:

- terrible sex with a small dick, but a marriage to a man you love
- divorce and find a man that fulfills your needs.

TBH, if it was me and i tried everything else, i couldnt live with a small dick. It is why I think sex before marriage is so important coz unlike for men who can see we have nice boobs, ass, and pussy (thru our bikinis), we girls cannot walk up to a guy and ask to see his dick and balls before we go on a date with them.

Just my 2 cents worth...

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MlleCake · Accepted Answer

If you love him and want to stay married, you both have to commit to teaching each other what you like, not shame each other for not knowing what no one ever told them. I think his reaction to just cut you off from orgasms was pretty shitty, even if I can understand why he felt unhappy with the porn.

This is probably a really good reason for sex therapy.

itiskissie · Accepted Answer

If sex was this important to you why didn’t you address this to him in the beginning? I don’t understand. Talk to him, see if you guys kind compromise something that works for both parties.

SmoMan71 · Accepted Answer

How do you guys feel about an open relationship? Would it be possible to get your needs satisfied by someone else? If not, sex can still be learned, and improved upon with practice. If his size is really that bad maybe even get some toys and teach him how to use them on you.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

So talk to him and get him to let you gently and tactfully coach him.

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Answer

I would get some well endowed guy to come over and have him fuck you and have your husband watch and take notes

azzntittiz · Answer

Cheating works fine.

colorsoft · Answer

Talk to him, tell him what you want and how you want it.

boggboss · Answer

Have to teach him lol if not seems like somthing you shoulda felt about before you got married as it's clearly making him Feel inadequate

0112358 · Answer

All you’re telling us is that in spite of his efforts you don’t get off.  You need to say what you want, exactly, not just “this isn’t working”.

Longlegs1979 · Answer

Maybe Switch to woman.

Anpu23 · Answer

I can give you two different options  One teach him, sex is a skill and can be taught  Two force him. If you are at all dominant get into that aspect of yourself and get selfish.