Is it normal for a guy not to text back after a one night stand?

[Bas96]

For guys that do that, well, it's considered normal to them. They got what they wanted, they've lost interest, and found a second target. It's almost like a business. Tight planning, constantly looking for potential "buyers" or targets, cheap as possible since they don't want to make any unnecessary costs, cooperation with, in this case alcohol or maybe even drugs to prevent thinking clearly, and off course a low payday. ( in this case a lost necklace, morning after feelings and a douchebag richer in your life.) For guys like me, who don't want and never had a night like that, I hate guys like that. Treating woman without respect. Just trying to get in their pants, and once they're in, they only see you as a lust object. Nothing more than that. They made you a slave. They want to control you. Misuse you. Fucking dicks. People like that guy should be hit in the face. With a shovel. These are the guys that are the worst of men. And if that guy already had a relationship with someone, ugh. That would've been bad. But yeah, it's considered normal, in this century.

[AustinMan]

Sadly some guys are like that. Send your friend to get your necklace if it's important to you.

[Amy94x]

When did you meet this guy and how long have you been friends? I don't understand if you mean you met him that night as a person, or met up with him as a friend and then slept together?
If you were friends before this it could be that he doesn't know how to talk to you now and is worried it's ruined the friendship, on the other hand, if you meet him that night and slept together, seriously he won't contact you. Don't waste your time, as others have said, get your friend to get your necklace and forget him

[siempreparaiso]

Ya... sorry to say. Going out and having a one night stand means, have a sweet night, get pleasure with a guy, then walk away the next day and never look back- it's like a business deal, both get what you wanted, without paying each other for the service. That's how I look at it, for a one nighter. So pick someone hot, and enjoy it. The guy will do thesame for you. Hugs.🙄

[CyclopsFawn]

It's a one night stand so yeah, completely normal. I feel like that's pretty obvious. The dude's probably worried you thought it was more than that so he's avoiding you.

Since he seems more receptive to your friend, ask them if they could try getting the necklace back for you.

[Kesh77]

If it was for one night I don't see the point in texting you back? I'm confused please explain what it is you're really saying? Did you want a call back? I haven't had one but I "assume" you hook up do what you do and then go ya separate ways? I don't know

[Ballin13]

Its a couple ways you can look at this..
1- remember this guy doesn't have any feelings for you. you were just a one night stand. So don't be surprise he's ignoring you.
2- He probably thinks you setting him up with another date by leaving your necklace behind. So he doesn't want to give the impression he into you by responding.
3- Give it the 2 day rule. If doesn't make any contact after that then now he is being dick. Ask your friend to request your necklace back.
4- If he doesn't respond to you both. Then show up where he lives and ask for it. (don't go alone) he might have a girlfriend or wife. I think this might be the case.
5- Ask yourself... is this necklace really that important to you? If no.. just let it go.

[NJ_Casanova]

ONS = No call needed or expected.

If you wanted more, possibly have a friends with benefits relationship, you should have said that before hooking up or not hook up on the first date at all.

If he knew you were down for sex on the first date he might have lost interest in you for anything more than that.

[Amurg7]

It's hard to define it as "normal". If you meant normal as usual, then I must say it unfortunately is an ever-increasing trend of sorts -- the type of guys who usually look for one-night-stands want the least involvement possible with the girl afterwards, literally (aside from really rare exceptions). Now, if you meant normal as something ok... then not at all. He acted like a kid, not like a man. Same for all guys who think it's alright to act like that because "it (read: she, unconsciously objectified, so it causes less guilt) was JUST a one-night-stand, no commitments made...".

[td23Bolt]

Everyone's different and it depends on whether you clarified it was just a one night stand. Was the sex satisfying? Was there any negative or uncomfortable exchange between you? Were either of you overly intoxicated on alcohol or street drugs (He may have been to high to remember you, feel embarrassed or even shy when sober)?

[_JobiSan]

I think it depends how long you guys talk before actually getting to hook up and if it was online or not, if he liked having sex with you or not, and if it was planed or not all these play into the odds of the guy actually texting back If I had more details I would probably be closer

[GingerGuy]

It depends on the guy. I wouldn't say "normal" but it's not uncommon. This guy I'm guessing wanted sex and absolutely nothing else. He doesn't want to lead you on in any way so he's ignoring you. I personally, no matter how I felt, couldn't do this, just ignore you completely, but lots of guys have no problem with it. In my opinion, he should just tell you how he feels, but this way is "easier". A lot of people just take the easy way out. Just ignore and hope it goes away kind of thing.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes, it's normal. Why would he text or follow you around on the web when in his mind you were nothing but a cheap orgasm?

Women need to understand that when you treat yourself with little to zero dignity, other people will treat you the same, since they can obviously see you know you're worth is little to nothing.

By giving your body for sexual pleasure only after meeting a stranger for a couple of hours screams you have no real value as a woman, so that's why he isn't texting you nor probably doesn't want to see you again.

[KRDaemon]

How do you know he read the text? Most SMS services do not give Read notifications. Regardless, he may not be into you and be interested in your friend but saw the two of you as a package deal that night. It's a sad thing but it happens. Best thing to do is not have one night stands. That is my modus operandi.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I don't know because I have never had one (nor want one). That said I would imagine that yes its probably normal, he wanted sex, you gave it to him, now he has no more reason to interact with you. He didn't want to be your friend, he didn't want to be an acquaintance, he just wanted to sate his sexual urges and you where available and willing to do so. As far as he is concerned you stopped existing once you left his place (in all likelihood). Live and learn.

[Schnitzel]

It is normal, you gave it up too easy now he will be on to something more challenging like your friend. The sex could have been great, that isn't the deciding factor. If a girl is too easy for me I would assume she is a bit easy for everyone else and that is a bad idea to have in your head for a long term trusting relationship so he is probably avoiding you in the hopes you move on, and probably thinks you left the necklace as an excuse to meet again.

[Greaver]

Some guys think that your just a fuck toy okay that’s why I think casual sex is stupid because certain guys and some girls treat the opposite sex as their slave and then drop them and don’t respond to texts or messages anywhere else that guy used you and doesn’t care that you left your necklace like some guys he used you as his fix for his sexual desires

[Duke1985]

Well, it was a ONE night stand after all xD
not sure what you mean by guy friend, because it sounds like you know each other for mor than this one hookup. But some guys like to collect trophies you know? Wait a few more days, and write him back again.
And next time, always put all your stuff in your purse or something. I know it's heated and stuff, but every other time something gets lost or forgotten. Amd as stated, sometimes you won't get things back.

[DrJo3]

It is normal. if you hook up with a guy and you hear back from him whether that's him texting you first or you texting him first and he responds, he's down to keep hooking up or possibly even down for a relationship

if you don't hear from him, well he's not down to keep hooking up and he's not down for a relationship lol It's just how some guys roll. They just wanted to hook up one time and that's it. Some girls are like that as well

[bibi3pu]

Ok, You really miss the point of a ONS. It means, I want to fuck, but I wouldn't have breakfast with you.

Think of a guy friend... He"s nice you would have coffee every morning with them, but even holding hands would be weird. It's like that but in reverse.

Now imagine if one of those guys would say he left a hat over at your place and wants to come over to pic it up in the middle of the night... creepy right?

Imagine if this guy and his hotter friend you don't know would swipe you on tinder... you would swipe his friend but not your friend... why would you... you already know each other.

[Anonymous]

Yep really normal, he hit it and quit it. Happens all the time, good chance you'll never hear back from him, sorry. Some people are just like that.
It's happen to me before, that's why I can't do one night stands anymore cause I don't like feeling used or regretful.

I hope you can get your necklace back he could at least let you go get it😒

[Manlymillennial54]

I'd say your choice in being sexually loose is why you are going to end up losing that necklace.
Not all men are pigs, but the ones who choose to have a one night stand are. If men are pigs when they have one night stands, what are women who make the same choice?

[MysteriousDarkness]

A one night stand is where you have sex with someone the first time meeting them then you both go your separate ways. The people involved are not married to each other , not engaged to each other, not in a relationship with each other, not friends or not even acquaintances.

[Presidentt]

It's Equality. Both individuals knew what they were getting into.. However one of them starts to have doubts on the arrangement after such arrangement ended because she doesn't benefit more from it that the other party... I guess bitches can take responsibility for their own decisions... It just the usual victim mentality and drama that makes guys ghosting.. Gurl power!

[brownsugar91]

Look at it like there is something wrong with him then you! If he can't handle meeting you or talking to you again it might hiding something like he MAY be married and following you back or having any connection with you increases the risk of him being caught. Keep the control and look at it that he did you a favour you was after a bit of fun and you got it. Now to the next ( someone without theses issues lol )

[Anonymous]

Yes. a one night stand isn't anything except a quick easy vagina and nothing more.
The "I left something at your place" gimmick is so cliche that most of us know you do it on purpose to try and stay in touch with us.
A buddy of mine has a bowl that he throws all that crap in from girls he bags and when they text... "Hehe I totally left ____ at your place, can I come get it" he usually lets them come over and tells them to dig through the bowl. it's meant to be a slap in the face because you all do it and it's so pathetic it's laughable. So he shows them just how worthlessly the same they are by making them dig through all the other girls shit to find theirs.

[Anonymous]

if you both mutually agreed to a one night stand, then it's implied there's no further interaction required. He may feel like your query about your necklace is a ploy to trick him into developing the relationship further. Just send him a note describing your necklace and an address to mail/deliver it too. This way he doesn't have to talk to you and you get your necklace back. Win-win.

[Anonymous]

May want to give it a couple days, it’s really common that girls leave something at your place , consciously or not, so (maybe) they have a reason to come back without having to ask to hang out. He may think that.
Reality is the vast majority of one night stands don’t turn into relationships unless both people were 100% sober and had sex with the lights on, then usually it won’t be their last time together. Where either of you not sober?

[TRexxx]

Yeah I guess it's considered normal for most guys, sounds like he's ducking ya cuz he's married or something. Sorry im not too much help. But. its a one night stand Soo he's avoiding for some probably stupid reason

[Pirate_bunny]

If it's a one night stand then usually contact is kept to the minimum or none at all because of emotional involvement. You might not be but he might fear you want more, ask your friend to get your necklace, don't go to his house, meet on neutral grounds.

[AthleticMom]

YEAH!!!
but he might have put it in his pocket to give to either you or "my friend" later, ergo why he followed her
Guys get busy, exhausted after making time for sex and really have no business in communications, some don't think well and etiquette these days is very rare

I doubt sex could SO bad that he would avoid his naked giver of pleasure this way

[r4ngeF]

The troubles of young people...
I do miss those.

And maybe he read and forgot to reply.
Real question is:
Why are you afraid to call and talk to him?
Couldnt be shyness since he's been inside you.

[QuentinMarques]

Yes this is normal. Unless you have a golden neckless, he is probably just making you wait to make you want him more, hoping you can have sex once again, or maybe even try and see if you could start a relationship. Wait for one week, he should answer. If he doesn't, tell him you just want your neckless back.

[Chiral]

Maybe he feels ashamed because he ended up having just a ons and he feels used and embarrassed. Perhaps when you just said you wanted to pick up the necklace and you didn't seem interested in seeing him again it made him feel like you only wanted him for sex and aren't interested otherwise. We're you clear that you were only interested for one night? Maybe he thought it might be more than that?

[Professor_Zoom]

Well he should have responded so you could get your necklace. But, it’s a one night stand. That’s what they’re all about. You hookup and have a nice life.

[dreamwalkerpsi]

Did you leave the necklace, or did he remove it during the act, very important. If he did, or if he didn't he may have given it away to someone he does like. Unfortunately one night stands are just that. Most guys dont want that awkward second meeting. Which is why i strongly suggest making sure your things are with you when you leave. Or when you are going to do this, keep jewelry at home. Or anything you dont want to lose. Sorry this happened to you.

[lost_girl2000]

I think he is afraid you will want something more than the night you two spent together (something like a boyfriend-girlfriend thing). That's why he is probably avoiding you. T

[SarahsSummer]

You’ll need to ask your friend to connect regarding your necklace. Unfortunately, he may feel the ONS was a mistake so he’s trying to erase that it ever happened.

[timex11]

You called it a one night stand so you obviously didn't expect anything the next but you forgot your necklace which in my opinion could mean 2 things either you genuinely forgot it or you cunningly forgot it do that you can have an excuse to go back to his.
But we dont usually call the girl the next day of one night stand except in some cases.

[10dsw]

I don't want to be accusatory but did you by any chance purposely leave the necklace there?

And yes, it's normal. Your role is purely sexual in nature - not to be a text buddy.

[Wytdrgn]

Sounds to me like he doesn't want to be your friend. Maybe he's more interested in your friend. See if she can get your necklace back for you. O. N. S.'s are just "humpty-dumpty" events, not friendship building exercises.

[lsgmfin]

I think your answer is in your question.
He might be thinking you want to make it more than a one night stand by “accidentally” leaving your necklace. Try asking him to mail it to you... or some other arrangement.

Don’t settle for a one night stand. (Unless that’s just your thing)

[jcrunk]

One night stand doesn’t necessarily mean just one night. You never know what could come from it. He may actually like your friend, hence him following her not you. Just demand you necklace back and if not then you may have to find alternative arrangements to get it back. Good luck

[ManiRaj]

Actually if that guy have Interest on You after One night Stand Then he Texts Back If Really Come And Meet You next Day then he Have Affection on You if don't Reply you then may be he Jst Wanted Tht one stand Only Or May be He is Confusion that He Did A Good thing or Not

[Hidden_P]

Yeah that’s pretty normal.

That’s the nature of a one night stand. You see each other for one night only. Then never see each other again. Sort of stops being “ONE NIGHT” if you keep in touch.

[Shesdope]

Yes it’s very normal. Lol it throws you off if your not used to it like dam I thought we had a good time. But no lol it’s not just you it happens to all of us at some point.

[Mr-chocolate]

Why do so many females always use texting messaging to communicates instead just calling the person? This was also a one night stand so he thought less of you to even respond. He probably thinks this girl is spring already.

[SebShaw82]

It's called a one night stand for a reason. There aren't supposed to be any strings attached. Fair enough, he should give you back the necklace out of courtesy but if you agree that it was a one night stand, you should leave it in the past and move on.

[arshlx]

It was a one night stand
Why do you expect him to text you back?
What would really be the point of a one night stand if you had to remain in touch with him :P

And as for your necklace... well... I hope it's not too expensive...
Ask your friend to get it back to you from his place...
I guess she'll end up having sex with him too XD

[Parisgirl30]

Yeah he’s feeling “some type of way about it” meaning he has feelings or thought it was a mistake or immature and can’t deal

[TiredMonkey]

He got what he wanted. I know a good looking guy like this. Suppose in his defense women do throw themselves at him.

Find a nice guy who will repect you.

[Anonymous]

I only had 1 one night stand before and texted her after.. We texted for a day then she just stopped replying so I assumed she doesn't want to like me or get to know me so it doesn't turn into a relationship

[Guardian412]

No, its not normal, but unfortunately there are many who do this. Those who do this, cut communication after the first night are usually lack of spine.

[EpicDweeb]

Guys feel awkward replying back or responding to girls after one night stands because they worry the girl will want a relationship.

[Darshotlegs]

Yes pretty much and thats fine by me if thats all it was.. Just remember not to leave anything at his/her place

[Sspaulding728]

Thats why its called a one night stand. You were pretty much used. Sending your friend would be your best bet. And chances are he's probably gonna try and get in your friends pants too. Cuz he seems to be a piece of shit.

[ksoma]

Yeah. It's a one night stand. He isn't interested in you in any way, because he got what he wants.
One big reason to avoid one night stands.

[Paris13]

He may be Embarrassed due to the "One night stand," And wants you to now Understand... No thank you, Ma'am.
Move on from the jewelry Here, dear, He is not worth your own time to get a replica of what May even Be Better in some other "More Store."xx

[j3ss1ca]

After a one night stand I don't reply if the guy messages me the next day. That said, if they had left something at mine I would definitely reply and find a way to get it back to them, but that would be the only time I would reply

[lexythelou22]

That's why it's a one night stand. I'd just go and get my necklace, response or not.

[Kaze69x]

Yes it is normal. The awkwardness would be overwhelming. Though I would of messaged you because of the necklace.

[Claire61]

People, she wasn't friends with the guy, she said she and her friend met the guy that night!

[ThisDudeHere]

He owes you nothing at all so it's perfectly normal. No need to waste money for the provider.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Is the necklace worth money? If he doesn't want anything to do with you he's going to avoid you.

[chris1984]

ptetty much expected i would think. ons = a single event. friends with benefits = buddies who fuck.

[Chanel1981]

Some guys are like that. Guessing he doesn't want to see you again?