How come I cum quicker and faster when I please myself versus one of guy does to me?

[Anonymous]

So this is really embarrassing and very awkward to ask and to bring up. But, maybe some of you guys can help me. So let's jump right into it and let's get this ball rolling lol. So I am officially back in the sex game, and what I mean about the sex game. I, don't mean sleeping around with a lot of different men or just any old random freak. But the sex game for me is, I haven't had sex in about 2 years. And I want to say just last year about 2 or 3 months ago I ended up having intercourse. And mean is person we are no longer speaking due to problems that we were having. So I'm back at my old ways of masturbation, and it's not that I can't give sex I just choose not to just throw myself out there at anybody. And I never been that type of person before. But anyways, what I have noticed about myself and my body. When I masturbate, I cum a lot quicker and faster and the feeling just feels right. But, when I actually have a penis inside of me, or someone else fingering me besides myself. It takes me a while to before I cum, and also that feeling it just feels so good. I mean there's always that say so, nobody can make you feel good the way that you can. But a lot of people say that a man is better at fingering a girl then herself. But I say this b******* to some degree lol. But again. Why is it so difficult for me to cum when a guy is either finger me or when his penis is inside of me. I mean the only time that I do come fast with a guy, is when he reached the right spot, or if I haven't had sex and a good minute or two. But it's still not as quick as I make my own self cum so what gives?

[Heclingybad]

Know what feels good for you, it’s that simple. Women want a guy to know how to pleasure them without knowing how they like being touched, I think it’s a challenge to have a girl that finds it had to cum, so I really have to work had to please her. Some how when I’m with a girl she doesn’t have to tell me what she’s feeling I feel it too. Most men Don’t. And I don’t think it’s fair that women masturbate their sex drive is so low already and we’re dying to get there with them and they are taking the edge off making them even less horny and even more difficult to make them cum. So if you’re masturbating before you going to meet a guy then it’s difficult for him to get you off don’t you think that’s wrong.

[Asker]

Yeah I understand where your coming from. But no I don't that lol WTF. He would kiss me on my neck, caress me. And actually I meant to say, he would make me cum, but not as fast as I do myself. But I notice, when he tries to finger me again, I just don't feel aroused. I mean I know it's normal, but it's like my sex just disappears.

[Heclingybad]

guess you blowed your wad when you cummed.

[Asker]

Probably. But then will my ex lover/friends with benefits I always wanted to be with him and do it again and again and again and again.

[Heclingybad]

Didn’t know this was one of those... I would have never post an opinion otherwise.

[MrOracle]

Might want to read this:

How to get an orgasm during sex? ↗

[LisaLisa89]

I'm the same. It's to do with intimate knowledge of your own body and what excites you.

[Asker]

Well least I don't feel alone in this. But a lot of times girl, I feel so bad sometimes cuz the guy really tries his hardest to figure out a way to make me cum. I mean I have had guys make me come fast but not like super duper like oh my gosh you know.

[LisaLisa89]

Some guys have made me come fast. But girls are best at making it an amazing lose control type of orgasm I find.

[Asker]

Are you a lesbian

[OlderAndWiser]

"the only time that I do come fast with a guy, is when he reached the right spot" So, apparently, you are not communicating with guys to tell them what you want and where you want it.

[Asker]

Well I do.. but maybe not enough like I should

[DanishSaint]

because you know how your body is put together and because you are more relaxed and at peace, comfortable just concentrating on yourself and not about a 2. person.

[bubbakong2006]

You know what you like and where it feels good I would eat you out and I know I could make you cum

[bigc150]

It’s true it’s because you know your body the best, what you like, where you like it

[Asker]

Yeah that is true I guess it goes the same way, with a guy is jacking off. But it just amaze me, how much time is actually going by and I'm like waiting to cum. I also thought maybe it has something to do with my sexual level of attraction to the person maybe if that had anything to do with it. But sometimes that can trigger things off to.

[bigc150]

If you want to resolve your sex problem maybe back off of masturbating as much

[Asker]

Well to be honest. I just started again like last week or I guess whenever I just feel horny. But I do agree with you, because I feel like that plays a big role in it. 2 years of not having sex, that's all I had was me myself and my fingers and porn lol lmao. And it's not that I can't get sex, I just am not the type of person be sleeping around. And not everybody can sexually satisfy me.

[bigc150]

If you have a boyfriend you can try and coach him how to do it

[Asker]

Oh definitely for sure. But that was like last year of 2017. I'm not really worrying about as much just a question lol.

[bigc150]

What was last year of 2017?

[Asker]

When I officially had sex again and when I end up sleeping with him.

[bigc150]

I know this’ll seem weird but can you message me?

[Chadster]

It's quite simple really. You know exactly what works for you as far as where to touch, how much pressure to apply and so on, where for the guy every woman is just a bit different in what she likes. This is where communication plays a part. Tell him, not there, up a bit... YES right there, a bit harder, a bit faster... oh yes don't stop doing that! Does that help at all?

[Dredg]

Because you know how to please yourself better than anyone else. All we can do is boast about how good we are, because we all like to think we are sex gods ;)

[Asker]

Lol. I mean I have had one guy that gave me mind-blowing sex. And I used to have orgasm after orgasm after orgasm. And I was able to do that after a while. Then over the time and over the years I don't know if my sex drive is declining or just creasing. But it's like once I have had sex it takes me an hour or either sometimes the next day to want to do it again.

[Asker]

He wasn't just some random dude me and him we actually dated for about 6 months unfortunately I know that's not that long. But he just rocked my world. Lol

[johnieohm2]

That is a question about him, now i am not saying i am better in anyway, have you told him how you like it best and the best way to please you?

[Asker]

Well actually the question was really about me, and me not being able to cum with a guy the way I do with myself. And I have noticed this about me when it comes to does and them wanted to finger Me or Either sex.

[johnieohm2]

Well really it is about him because there is something be is missing to get you off. That something can be anything but without it you really can't get off

[Asker]

I mean this was back in 2017. I don't know it was just the way he was doing it just felt kind of weird, I mean I did direct him and let him know what works best for me. No actually I'm sorry, he did make me cum kind of fast when I told him how to finger me, and what feels great. But it's like afterwards I didn't want to continue to do anything else sexually with him. Is like I really couldn't get aroused like that. And I know that's normal for both women and men once you climax either through physical touching or through actual physical body to body action. But with him, it was just hard to get aroused.

[johnieohm2]

Do you find him sexual appealing, now i know you will say you do but if you found him on the side of the road in normal everyday clothing and knowing nothing would you find that random stranger sexually appealing. There is an idea with a woman actually being sexually attracted to men, but i am glad he got you off

[Asker]

Yes and No. I think the only time that would get me off like is when I was giving him head, because I knew that it was feeling good and he liked it. But I do like him, I just may not be sexually attracted to him like that. He has mentioned to me that he was physically attracted to me. So it makes sense why he always wanted to touch me SMH. I might have been more emotionally attracted to him. But see with my ex lover. When he would finger me it would take a good minute or two. But I was always arouse with him. And even one we did have sex and if I did come once, I would want to do it again. I don't know everybody's different, and my body will either accept a person or a decline them sexually. So I think with the new guy think it could have been just both. And that was like our very first time sleeping together anyways.

[johnieohm2]

You answered your own question

[Legend1369]

How many times have you masturbated? a lot Right? So your an expert at your own course. And with someone helping get you off it's different cause now you have an audience your focusing on. When your having sex your mind is on so many things like do you smell good does he think your fat or just thoughts of making him feel good but now youve lost all concentration of your climax.

[Asker]

You know you're actually right on some things. Because when he was fingering me, I wasn't really relaxed as I want it to be. And my mind would be elsewhere to be honest. But the way that he was fingering me was like super duper fast and then just pounded my vagina with his fingers. That just kind of made me wonder like what the hell is he doing. And actually I meant to say he did make me cum kind of fast. But after 1st time I did cum, I just didn't want to do anything else sexually with him. Is like my mojo would be turned off or something. I don't know maybe he just didn't sexually excite me as much either.

[Legend1369]

Dam that's some hot and heavy stuff... but another thing is you need to let him know how you want it. If you want him to slowly rub your clit or if you want his fingers deep inside you. If you don't tell him what makes you hot and all wett then he's gonna do what he thinks is right.

[Asker]

I agree I should have told him, it would have been better. But him and I are currently not speaking at the moment due to issues that we was having. So if he does return and if we have any sexual act going on again, I would definitely let him know.

[Legend1369]

Yes... that's the problem nowadays women want the guys to already know but all women are different and are into different things.

[Legend1369]

You sure are a super freak... you just have to find some one who sexes the way you do.

[Asker]

Lls why you say I am a super freak

[Legend1369]

That's not a bad thing just saying cause it's true

[Asker]

Lol ok. Ty I guess 🤔🤔😂

[Legend1369]

Quick question what's your favorite sex position

[Bldballs]

You know what you want or like

[Anonymous]

You back again... same ol' story. You ALWAYS love getting fingered.

[Asker]

Lol.