Why do people not understand anal is normal?

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This is mostly my response to another post about anal vs "normal" sex and how it compares. I, like lots of (most) guys love anal, and there are several reasons for it.

Why do people not understand anal is normal?

Anal sex *is* normal sex. There's nothing abnormal about it; it's been going on for thousands of years without issue. The Kama Sutra, anyone? I assume what is meant by "normal" is
"vaginal." And is it *better* than vaginal? Well no, but it's not worse either, it's just *different.* It's really really good. And so is pussy, but just in different ways. One of the main draws about anal is that there's basically no risk of pregnancy, and the guy doesn't have to be careful and can cum in her ass which feels absolutely amazing and it's hot as hell. But anal also usually requires more preparation because you need lube to do it unless you're a pro (some people say the rectum has *no* lube in and of itself which isn't true, but it does not have enough to have sex with usually). It is also easier to transmit STD infection in anal, *IF* one of you has an STD obviously (if you don't then it doesn't matter of course). And anal feels really good for the girl too, if she relaxes and gets used to it, but a lot of girls don't (or refuse to for some reason) get to that point.

Also of course with anal, she's gotta be clean in there, or else gross stuff can happen, so unless she's sure that she's clean and/or has used an enema to clean herself out, then it's not a good idea. Long story short, anal is awesome and if you are curious you should absolutely do it; the guy will probably be pretty happy at the suggestion. Use *WATER BASED* lube first (nothing other than water based ever), try a finger or two first gently to lube her up, then have him go slowly. It'll hurt a bit at first but just wait and after a few minutes she should get used to it and it'll start feeling good. What do you guys think? Good luck.

OurSecrets · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't exactly call it a normal, but that doesn't mean that most of the stuff that you said isn't completely true. I say it's not normal because it serves no purpose aside from pleasure. And yes of course pleasure has a purpose, but in this context, namely sex, it's not something that was made to poke around in. Just like the mouth, hands, feet, boobs, armpits, or whatever anyone happens to be into. Normal, as I understand you to be asking doesn't involve the use of any part of your body for purposes that they were not intended for. That said, I love anal sex because I find it very enjoyable, especially if it's being performed by somebody that knows what they're doing and not some inexperienced dude that just wants to poke at a tiny little hole as hard as you from the moment my clothes come off! Yes it has a negative stigma, and this makes many girls fear it perhaps or just not think that they should have to do it. Or they fight it and make it very uncomfortable. I have to be honest, if the guy is experienced and is intending on pleasing me he generally does everything right and truly no pain involved. I've noticed a couple positions that put pressure against the right places, just inside my butt and I can orgasm from anal sex or even just a single finger. But pushing deep, not necessarily rough, at least for most girls, feels very satisfying to, however it also usually requires him or me to use a hand on my clit or in my pussy to cum! So i partially agree, if you consider sex purely pleasure-oriented, but in the natural "normal" purpose for bumping uglies, it really isn't in my opinion.

Rainie_ · Accepted Answer

When it comes to anal on females you can’t switch in between anal and vaginal because that leads to UTI infections. So clearly those are not supposed to mix. And the fact that there is no lubricant in the butthole for dick means ITS NOT MEANT TO BE THERE. And lastly, it’s where the shit comes out... Females have three holes for three very different purposes 1. Peeing 2. Sex & Birth 3. Shitting. That’s just how nature has made us. A very specific hole made just for sex & reproduction, use it.

Anal is not normal but that doesn’t mean some people don’t enjoy it. plenty of people have foot fetishes but that doesn’t mean a footjob is a normal act. Many guys love anal because it’s an abnormal and “taboo” act, they’re fucking a part of the body that isn’t originally meant for fucking (least that’s what I’ve been told by guys I know)

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

I mean... yeah, I suppose in the grand scheme of things it is "normal" in the sense that people do it but it isn't normal in the sense that it's natural, which is where I think people get confused. It serves no purpose biologically because you can't get pregnant and goes against that body part's natural function. But, just because something is natural doesn't mean it's wrong or bad - GMOs aren't natural but they serve a great purpose for society.

All that is to say: if you wanna have butt sex, have butt sex. If you don't, then don't lol.

jacobteasterly · Accepted Answer

It is very normal for men to preform anal on other men. The prostate is a highly pleasurable part of the male body. The female clitoris is in the front, not the back. It is more pleasurable for a female to be stimulated in the front where as males can have multiple long lasting orgasms from anal. If a male tries to convince a female to do anal then I believe he himself should be pegged before he ever tries to go in the back when with a woman. You talked a lot which means you are trying extra hard to try to make people believe in your opinion, yet it doesn't seem like you have taken in in the back. It is pleasurable for a male to receive anal, for women not so much. I would never ask a female to do anal because they don't get as much pleasure, if any from it. Also you should ALWAYS use some kind of lube, preferably anal lube. If you don't use lube you are an asshole because it is nowhere near as lubricated as a mouth or wet vagina. I 100% believe if you expect a woman to do anal, you need to experiance it firsthand before asking it from a woman.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

This subject engenders fear mongering and may women are simply afraid.

dogbert444 · Answer

You are forgetting that bacteria live in peoples rectums, and unless you clean yourself thoroughly straight after anal sex, you risk getting an infection, which you can pass on to the woman during vaginal sex.

PotatoChan · Answer

I don't know, maybe because the idea of sticking someone's dick where poop is supposed to come out is... weird.

maiave · Answer

Except it’s not... nothing is naturally meant to go up a girls butt... You’ll need to elaborate on this one

Tomblebee · Answer

Abnormal as in not fit for purpose. Why put your keys in your undies when you have a pocket in your shorts?

ghostqueen · Answer

What's normal for some is not for others.

9teen · Answer

A lot of bullshit in here and you're contradicting yourself by what you wrote lmao. It is abnormal, disgusting and immoral.

LucyGrace · Answer

The butt is for shit to come out from not to stick your dick inside it. Would you want to take it out and find a little poop on the end of your penis. I don't think so

Whitemeatchicken · Answer

It isn’t normal and most human beings hate receiving.

roland77 · Answer

Compared to vaginal penetration, anal/butt penetration should be considered as special because the anus is normally not made to take something from outside to inside, but only otherwise.

Sure, I'm not against anal/butt sex, I did it once with a woman and I found the orgasm amazing. I have also watched a video from a German sexual therapist where 10 women spoke openly about anal sex. And only one reported it as painful, my guess not relaxing enough or to less patience (both sides, she can also move her butt towards the penetrating male) or to less lube (silicon-based, water-based is quickly soaked in).

Volvagia · Answer

that shit is normal in porn, thats for sure

Duke1985 · Answer

I'm mostly agreeing with you. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't call it normal. Can it not simply be good fun but still not normal? Like someone gay is totally ok to me. Doesn't men i think it's normal. Having a mowhawk is also cool. But never normal. Hell, to some people spilling the milk in the bowl before throwing the cereals in is not normal. So bei it. Different people call different things normal. Nothing wrong with that.

SimpleGirl94 · Answer

I don't agree with everything you said, but I love anal :)

Confidenceoverload · Answer

Normal is a term that is subjective or objective I don’t remember the correct term but what is normal for you and me isn’t normal to someone else so don’t force this down someone’s throat

Juxtapose · Answer

If you blow your load and a girl's ass it can still leak out and into her vagina. And the sooner you stop giving a shit what people consider normal the better off you will be.

Pauliho · Answer

It depends on the individual. But in my view it's just not "normal" to insert a penis into a region whose sole purpose isn't biologically meant to be used for inserting anything inside of it as the passage requires no obstructions. Not to forget that the anal passage is very delicate...

CT_CD · Answer

I agree. If a womans butthole wasn't meant to be penetrated then it wouldn't be so close to the vagina.

Abdulwahh · Answer

To me its not normal its forbidden in my religion

Maturewife66 · Answer

I love anal sex.

Anonymous · Answer

It is the riskiest sex. I'm bothered that you talked about cumming in them and the biggest draw is"no risk of pregnancy " unless you have BOTH been tested and are in a committed monogamous relationship you should NOT be having unprotected anal sex. Read the stats you are so much more likely to get HIV with anal and consider that a woman who would have anal in an uncommitted relationship, or a man, is more likely to be out having multiple partners to begin with.