Would you have sex on the first date?

[Katerina_Belle]

So I started talking to a guy since late October. Our first date was on New Year's Eve and we had a great time - even though nothing went to plan - but that's another story.

He lives 300 miles away, he drove to London for our date, he booked a hotel to stay the night, it was never planned that I would stay the night with him but *surprise surprise*

That is exactly what happened and we had sex, it was hot and passionate af, but it was only our first date.

And as I write this it sounds very bad and it goes against everything I would normally do, but the relationship we have is special, it doesn't feel like the others, and he's so caring and genuinely loving towards me, which is something I've not experienced before.

Anyway, what are your thoughts on sex on the first date? What do you think of a girl that sleeps with you on the first date?

[nightdrot]

Sure. If the attraction is there and you are both in the mood, why not? Sex is natural and healthy and fun and both men and women have an instinctive need for it. (Though the way that instinct expresses itself is different for the genders. In evolutionary terms, for men it is about impregnating as many females as we can, for women, ultimately, about bearing children. It's how the species has survived for several 100,000 years.) There is no reason why not to have it if you both want it.

That said, I will say that with my girlfriend, who I have been with for ten years, I was really careful. We didn't have sex on the first date - although I would have in a heartbeat - because I was so smitten I wanted to be careful.

When we finally had sex the first time, she even said to me, "I was wondering if we were ever going to do this." I wanted sex, but because I wanted her so much, I treated it as something special and not casual.

We've been together for over ten years now and have three children together and I am the happiest man alive. I waited with her and it was worth the wait.

[wilco999]

Lol, doing us Brits proud. But no, if he has anything about him then it really wouldn't bother him. Plus sexual chemistry is really underrated, you guys have already found out you are compatible whereas you may have waited 4 dates and found out it was a waste of time because there was no connection

[Nadzzz]

Nononono girl
On my first date with my boyfriend we went to the hotel but we only got some pizza there and enjoyed the fantastic view of the sunset and thats it. If you go to the hotel with someone you gotta control yourself dude you're a female. Gotta be a little bit bitchy in the good sense you know. If I would follow my desire ofc I would have had sex with him since the first date but noppeeeee

[Omar5881]

Hotel's pizza sucks ass unless it's the four seasons

[Nadzzz]

@Omar5881 lmao took it from the best pizzeria Then went to the hottel

[Omar5881]

Ayyyyy

[Katerina_Belle]

That’s cool, that’s what you would do. Just to make it clear I didn’t ask this question because I regret what I did or question my actions. I just wanted to know what GAG think of the matter.

[aicarg]

It all depends on the individual and their dating morals/values towards these sexual/dating encounters. If things fell into place where it felt right for you, don't beat yourself up on it with feeling bad.

But for me personally, I don't give into sex until I'm officially dating the guy and I feel absolutely secure about him.

[Katerina_Belle]

I definitely don't feel bad, and he asked me to officially be his girlfriend about two days our first date, which sounds silly but it felt right.

[melanieeeB]

I don't mind. Great that you both had a good time together!
Also in general about sex on first dates, if it's feels right then why not. I don't see a reason in waiting if it feels right to do. In the end it's both sides lol

[charmingstylist]

My now fiance and I had sex the very first night we met! lol! 6 years later we are getting married.

I know it usually doesn't work out that way, but i say screw the norms and do whatever the hell you want.

[Hclover]

If you felt it was right than YES of course. There are nonwritten rules when to have sex - and that's good. If you did feel the passion and trust for it - sure. You had an great time right? Perfect. And who ever sais it would prevent a relationship from growing is just wrong. If you two fit together it will work out if not you had at least a great time both of you. Why withholding yourself from what you want to do just because society seems to think that's what is the way to do it? Be passionate. In this case actually - YOLO. Enjoy!

[sage0731]

A majority of the time I usually do. It's not that I plan on it, and most of the time I plan on doing things differently, but it usually happens anyways. I think that as long as it's something you both want and your both comfortable with how things happened that it shouldn't really matter what is "normal"

[ShellyB]

No I would not unless my goal was a one night stand (which it has not ever been but it's possible I guess).

[anni27]

If it feels right I cannot see the problem, it seems was right for you and in situations think then it is fine and is no one else business as long as both feel okay with it.

[ksoma]

I genuinely hope it works out for you and you two are happy. But I, personally, see the long term suitability of a relationship that that starts with sex on the first date, to be low.
In your case, I hope I'm wrong. But no, I would never have sex on the first date.

[Katerina_Belle]

Thank you, I have a feeling that this one will last for some reason... only time will tell though

[kap_nss]

I wouldn't have sex on the first date even if the girl was willing to do it. And if she is I wouldn't take her seriously. Is she has sex on the first date she's definitely used to do it with every guy she likes. Which tells me she's had a lot of sex. And I would loose all interest in her.

[Katerina_Belle]

Just because a girl has sex on the first date once does not mean that is her habit

[kap_nss]

If a girl has sex on the first date it's something she usually does. She could say it's the first time she does that (even if I believe that, I know this won't be the last time). A girl that does it once in a life time would be something rare.

[Katerina_Belle]

That’s your opinion. I won’t and don’t have the need to explain myself.

[kap_nss]

In the end what matters (I guess) is what does the guy you have sex with think. It's doesn't matter how you see this. If you are interested in a guy and you have sex with him in the first date he could discard you as a girlfriend prospect. He's not going to ask your opinion.

[Katerina_Belle]

He already asked me to be his girlfriend

[kap_nss]

Congrats

[Logorithim]

I wouldn't think too much of it if we had known each other awhile (like a year or more) as friends, but there would have to be some incredible personal chemistry for me to have sex with her on the first date. I've never done that before.

It takes two to tango, so I couldn't have a negative impression of her without feeling the same way about myself.

[OlderAndWiser]

In the last 35 years, I have had this happen once and we only had two dates before we went our separate ways. It really doesn't matter what other people think. Under the circumstances, it is easy toi understand how this happened, but. . . five years from now, when this guy is just a memory (probably,) and you look back on the experience, will you feel proud of what you did or will you feel embarrassed and feel that you need to explain what happened?

[Katerina_Belle]

I don't regret it and I don't think I would regret it in the future either because as much as it was unplanned it wasn't just in the moment and he put me first and made sure it was what I wanted, how can I look back at that and think "No it's not what I wanted or I wish I didn't do it" when it was what I wanted and I wouldn't change it

[OlderAndWiser]

I love prime rib but if I had it every day, it would not be so special and I would not appreciate it as much as I do.

[Katerina_Belle]

You possibly cannot compare a relationship and sex to food ffs? Unless you have emotions and feelings towards your food? 🙄

[OlderAndWiser]

The feelings that you have regarding an experience will tend to become blunted if you repeatedly have that experience. If you work at Niagra Falls and you see it every day, you don't feel overwhelmed every time you look at it. Have sex indiscriminately solely for the recreational aspect and it will not be so special when you find one who you want to be your lifetime partner. . . but if you want, you can insist that I am wrong and you can continue doing what you are doing. At the moment, it is more convenient for you to deny the truth of what I say, and it is your decision to make for yourself, because you are the one who will bear the consequences.

[hahahmm]

I have... but it’s not like I picked up a total stranger and did her in a bar bathroom. That’s not my style. Like you, I would need to know her first.

[Chanel1981]

I have married friends that had sex on the first date! If it's meant to work it shouldn't matter

[Kawaiigurl1234]

No, I personally wouldn’t. Just because I don’t trust people that quickly.

[PrincessPie]

I personally have never and would never.

[Elliegirl]

I would never have sex on a first date, but I’m not going to put down on anyone who does. It’s your choice, just make sure you’re gonna be ok with your choice the next day.

[QueenofCups]

I never did it, but if you guys are really in love, there's nothing wrong with it.

[nickyBBB]

No that's cheap

[Katerina_Belle]

Why is it cheap?

[Cosytoasty]

Hmm I wouldn't. I like the girl to be a little more discerning than that. I mean you were talking since October i know, but i'd have liked to meet her a few times before getting to that point. Of course i mean for a girl i'd see as someone to take home and show mum & dad... doing that would almost rule her out.

That is me though, i'm someone who needs to work for something else i get bored of it rather fast. If you had fun and you feel there might be something there, don't let someone on the internet dissuade you or make you feel guilty. Just hope you're not taken along for a ride, because every skilled player (who is looking to score ASAP) is going to appear to be caring and loving... i firmly believe you cannot know love until after the honeymoon phase of a relationship.

[Katerina_Belle]

I understand that, and tbh I never imagined I would have done that myself... ask me a month ago "would you have sex on the first date?" my answer would be "Hell NO! I'm not easy" but boy here I am haha But I trust him, and I have trust issues, so for me to say that means a lot.

[Jamesguy1985]

For me, situation is everythimg... if everything feels right, no time limit... and I feel women should fpllow the same rule. There's a saying used mostly for the v card that Id like to apply here... "You'll know when you're ready"

[archiz]

Most probs never gonna happen

[Katerina_Belle]

Those were my words and thoughts on it approximately 4 weeks ago, but this guy changes everything and I break all the rules with him 😅 P. s. Never say never haha

[archiz]

That s why I added "most probably "

[Browneye57]

Kind of moot don't you think? LOL

[beebella]

I probably wouldn't, but never say never.