I'm going to give my opinion which would think a lot of guys might be interested in. All these girls are saying "no" but what i see in reality doesn't match up.
This is completely opinionated by the way.
But most guys don't do this, even a player shows emotions most times and does a wicket smile. Its rare for guys to maintain a neutral attitude but the few times i have seen guys who are actually maintain a "nonchalant" attitude they come off as strong, confident individuals who are secretly intelligent or knowledgeable, if that makes sense, which does come off as really attractiveness and mysterious.
The only problem is while such people may seem really attractive, ironically this sort of makes girl intimidated most times because such people don't express emotions, which while attractive, women don't know how to handle that because we're emotional creatures. I don't know that's just my opinion.
The thing about nonchalance is that it can't be faked effectively. If you approach someone, and on the inside you're burning with desperation and/or nervousness, but you try to play it off as though you're cool and give off those devil-may-care vibes, it actually comes off as more off-putting than if you'd simply come on as desperate or anxious.
But, if you're truly nonchalant--laidback, cheerful, low stress, no pressure--but still clearly interested (as I assume the guy would be, if he's taken the time to approach me), then yes, I do find that attractive. It's much easier to interact with someone who is easy-going versus someone who is as nervous as I am or someone who is clearly trying way too hard to impress or "get" me.
I've always thought a little nervousness was cute. It comes off better than a guy who seems to be very use to hitting on women. Confident enough to approach is good enough, over confidence is a turn off for me. If I don't think he has true interest in me then it's a good thing he's indifferent because I'd bruise his ego a bit when I politely turned him down.
It depends on the situation. If you're meeting a girl FOR THE FIRST TIME in a place or event where YOU'LL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN, you HAVE to display interest with smiles and eye contact. IF you work with the girl, go to church with the girl, work out at the same gym as the girl, and you'll see her again, initially displaying LACK of interest can work in your favor, however, displaying lack of interest over a course of a month without making a move can be BAD.
It works - women are more motivated to try to win you over. Especially if you're rich and good looking. If not, then all bets are off. :)
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I don't find it attractive to have people show no interest in me. Relaxed attitude is good though.
I like a guy who shows interest. It's sexy. But not in an overly-confident player way. I mean in a respectful and open way, showing genuine interest in me as a person.
As long as there is contribution to a conversation, feeling nonchalant is relative isn't it?
not attractive if he's interested-bc i want to know if he's interested or not,. calm is good but indifferent is obnoxious-unless you really are not interested-then indifference thats fine.
Well if a guy cold approaches you he's obviously intrested. I would say the difference is being calm and low energy. If his jokes don't land or your not intrested it doesn't phase him.
oh i see. i was thinking of my approaching him.
if he approaches he's me i like him to be calm but not a machine. a bit nervous is cute. and shows he's not too proud to cover everything up.
Well, I like to know that my excitement to speak to you is being reciprocated. If I'm speaking to you and you're acting like you're disinterested, I'd take a mental note of it and move on. Not my cup of tea I guess. To me this reads as just being full of yourself, or pompous or condescending.
It's important to be confident, but i wouldn't act like you don't care. You dont want her to think you don't really want to be with her that much.
But I feel like acting like you care sometimes make them not want you our they play games like hard to get
It depends on the girl, if she already likes you in the first place playing hard to get will just feel like rejection, if she doesn't like you yet playing hard to get might make you stand out to her.
I prefer when men are themselves, I think thinking too much is why we're here in the first place.
Well what of their nonchalant attitude genuinely is themselves sometimes we all have that mood occasionally.
As long as you're being yourself. If you're pretending I'll know and ain't nobody got time for that.
Not really, no. Calm and relaxed is good. Not displaying any interest or enthusiasm is bad.
For me I like a guy that shows his interest in me.
Wow, nowonder there is confusion.
No. I want someone to show genuine interest in me as a person.
Kinda, unattractive. I'm drawn to people with lots of emotion.
I personally find it attractive. They aren't throwing all cards on the table just yet
I'm curious, do you approach women in this way, in a nonchalant sense?
With women in attracted to no lol but when I'm in that I don't care mode I feel like I come off as more confident not sure why but its different. I guess I'm just more sure of what I say and don't really care of you like it or think it's funny.
I'm really big on vibes, so if you don't show it, I don't feel it.
Show interest but not too much interest. You don’t want to look like a stalker
It's best to appear relaxed and confident. I don't know that nonchalant is the right. word
I think being yourself whether it's casual or serious is the best way to go.
Be careful using the term nonchalant as it usually means not caring, the term you should use is laid-back.
Unattractive. It gives no signals including leave me alone.
Attractive but it wears off after a few days.
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