Personally I don't go for the bad boy bullshit, but if I had to guess I think it would have something to do with the idea of attaining someone unattainable. Having someone who's a complete ass and is in general very tough, but really sweet and vulnerable to you and you alone is a fantasy a lot of women seem to have, which isn't helped by the fact that a "bad boy" is also usually one hell of a sweet talker and can easily lull these girls into a false sense of security. There's also the fantasy of saving someone evil and turning them into a good person through sheer power of TLC; taming the beast so to speak. It's a lot of things really, mostly just unrealistic fancies of inexperienced, idealistic young women.
I second that.. She said it all.
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I want a good guy who can hold his own, i think a mix is good.
I think most women just like the excitement of a bad boy and are attracted more to them because they tend to be very confident charming and charismatic, where as lots of nice guys are more shy and don't put themselves out there as much.
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I mean... most women will go for the guys who actually approach them. Which just so happen to be the type that self-proclaimed 'nice guys' sitting in the corner will call bad boys.
Really so your telling every guy here if they approached you, you would go out with them? Even if the looked like me? Fat and Unattractive?
@Uglyman1001 .. no. I have no idea how my saying that guys who actually talk to women have higher chances of success equated to me saying I'd date anyone.
But you said most women I assume you would be in that category? Are you admitting you only go after looks?
If you mean bad boy as in characters like Fonzie or Johnny Castle, yes! I was never really attracted to preppy-pretty boys in high school or the uber-jock types. I was all about the alt-outcasts, punky skater dudes. Which I prefer "bad girls" as well, they're a lot more fun.
They mean a guy who is a dick to you, it's less about the style and more about them getting upset that girls don't go after "nice" guys like them.
@Gianna17 I was more or less being sarcastic with my response. But thank you for informing me about the obvious meaning. No, I'm not attracted to anyone mistreating others. Especially if they mistreat others for fun or no other valid reasons.
Sorry i can't detect sarcasm through texts. There's no tone of voice present so there's few ways to distinguish unless you are obviously saying something super ridiculous that no one would ever say. I don't know you personally so I don't know what you value.
Probably because you are assuming that all women on the planet have somehow fused into a blob and that you think they are all the same.
Questions like "why do women...", or "why do men..." are quite stupid and pointless.
The women who are attracted to bad boys are NOT the same women who deny being attracted to bad boys. Just like the women who are against sexualizing the female body are NOT the same women who work as models, or work at Hooters.
In fact, my answer probably applies to most of the questions on this site. The answer to your vote is that "SOME" women like bad boys, and "SOME" women like nice guys.
You have assumed, and wrongly so, that all women think and act exactly the same, which is why your question is stupid.
Think it’s more of the feeling their behavior brings. A lot of women/ girls have this beauty and the beast fairytale look on love and Relationships and believe that relationships are supposed to have some sort of complications and hardships and that EVENTUALLY things will get better because he finally realizes that she’s someone worth holding onto. This is why so many allow themselves to constantly be treated poorly by the same guy over and over again.
Also, most “assholes” are usually categorized as the guys who’ve never been properly loved and it causes us to put on this captain save a h*e cape and try to be the person we believe that person needs.
99.9% of the time, the results are always the same and a lot of women would rather chase behind what they THINK they want because they already have feelings tied to it rather than going for someone they need. For instance, let’s say you start dating a girl who’s been through it with her last boyfriend. He cheated multiple times, disrespectful towards her, was verbally and emotionally abusive, etc. 9/10 it took her close to a year to finally leave this guy alone and there’s a HIGH possibility that he was the one who cut contact. She starts dating you, you’re putting in 100% effort trying to show her you wanna be with her than another 100% trying to make up for what he caused and doing everything he didn’t. 5 months later, he reappears in her life and now she’s back with him. She goes back because she has way more of an emotional attachment to him and ironically, with a lot of weaker females... being treated like shit makes them fall a lot faster
The list can go on and on but that’s the main things.
It's awesome that you can actually admit to the harsh truths of the nature of attraction, the bit where you said a lot of weaker females fall a lot faster for those that treat them like shit. That's science baby.
Any girl who acknowledges she's with a bad dude but thinks he's the beast, is seriously confused and naive though I think, as that dude is clearly Gaston. What happened to Gaston? He got dropped. He was thrown away. And the beast was chosen, embraced, and he became more cosmetically beautiful. Now his becoming more cosmetically beautiful is actually a metaphor I believe. See Gaston is.. http://bit.ly/2BuPSGf , yeah going for the classic example, and the Beast is, I dunno' I'll go with.. http://bit.ly/2BtiX54 that is one weird looking dude. But the thing is Gaston, as handsome as he is, turns out to be really flipping ugly, hence why he's dropped. And the beast, turns out to be beautiful. Amidst his large, hulking shape, hunchback and hairiness, she has seen that he has a be
autiful soul, and so he becomes beautiful in her eyes. So that transformation at the end, could be seen as a metaphor, for how someone becomes so damn attractive to an individual, so much that the individual is hugely aroused by thoughts of being with them sexually, the person is hot as fuck, because of the beauty inside. It's a huge, hulking, hunchback hairy dude but she sees him as a gorgeous handsome man, because of who he is. This is why the girls I am attracted to aren't the kind that influence the first impression of "hot! so hot!", but they become hotter than anyone else because of who they are and their personality. Personality, character, are the hottest things.
I believe women fancy men who are very confident, which often happen to be the most adventurous and "bad" to perception.
Confidence is a trait often found in risky people (call them bad if you wish). Beware though that the more mature that person is, the less naughty he will be, yet still keeping that confidence and halo of "bad boy".
That could also explain why normally women are more attracted to older men.
"Bad boys" can have a certain allure, but most women are sensible enough to recognize when a guy is not going to be a good partner. The stereotype of the girl who chases bad boys again and again even though they hurt her does not apply to the majority of females.
I think girls and women like bad boys when they're not actually looking for stability. The younger you are the more you're into that. You're naive and have plenty of time for screw ups. As a teen I was into the bad boy want because I wanted to make him into a reformed bad boy because I was just so damn great. lmao. Live and learn. I was never into the player. which I separate from bad boy personally. I've ever been used and thrown away. I just picked guys that got into a ton of trouble. That had more of a possibility of heading to juvie, than him jumping into another girls bed.
I mean a true player is a form of bad boy. The reason you described may be why you think you wanted that kinda' person, but at its' very most fundamental, scientific explanation it's because you were sexually attracted to that kind of man and wanted that kind of man to fuck you without any kind of responsibility. This is an inherent part of the nature of young women, whether they know it or not; they want to get fucked by men who don't care about them much. Even my closest friend, who's only been with two guys, she said that when she broke up with the last one she thought she was going to have sex with loads of guys but then she was too scared to go through with it. She wants to have sex with loads of guys, whether young women know it or not, are willing to accept it or not, it is so.
@Electric_Dreams Well Im sure on i was sexually attracted to him. But no, I've always been serious about anyone I dated. I think player is a category all on its own, because all he's doing is sleeping with women and not wanting anything more. A bad boy is litterally bad. Gets in differnet levels of trouble, seems broken, might be on or involved with drugs, etc. So I'll have to disagree with you there's a very distinct difference to me and I've seen both and theyre issues/ actions are very different. I bad boy can be a player as well though. I've never been with a player though. I dated the "bad boy" because I was atttacted to him. But because I wanted to fix him. I wanted to make his life better so he'd stop doing bad things. Women/girls are known to love a "project" and to feel special. So they think they can fix and he'll change for her and for himself.
@Electric_Dreams Sure there's tons of girls that just fuck and dont do serious so I can't completely say you're wrong on that front. Obviously with the case of your friend. But I have never wanted to fuck a buch of guys. Not even a little.
You're just not paying attention, and you also don't know very many women outside your immediate age group, so you don't really know what we like or who we date.
by the way, you're one of the bad ones, so are you getting lots of dates?
@CT_CD is a nice guy
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Because i've probably got more in common with them and they don't beat around the bush. Nice guys act like they're super wonderful but so many are basically complementing their way into a girls pants, nothing else.
Because I've seen family members go through abusive/toxic relationships and wished the bad people would vanish from the face of the earth, I've had friends get pummeled by their boyfriends and saw straight blood. And a couple months ago, after months of my downstairs neighbor's boyfriend cheating on her, robbing her, dealing drugs from her apartment, robbing my dad, beating her elderly dogs, etc (all within my earshot and view) She finally got kicked out. I'll be damned if that's how my life winds up.
Truly "bad guys" are like vermin. I want my life as cleared of them as possible.
@KnightCross He was a criminal. He also used to try and intimidate my pregnant neighbor because her boyfriend told him to stop coming to our property and disrespecting our neighbor (his battered girlfriend). He'd bring prostitutes, smoke God knows what and have his friends come around and shoot up drugs. They would dump syringes and beer cans on our porch and in the basement and at the time my neighbor's kid was only 3 and loved to play around our property, she just turned 4 recently. I wanted to break his face everytime I crossed his path.
hm.. that does not sound a new story for me, by the way are you from Spain or Latin America?
Oh and that's not even considering the thousands it cost my dad to repair the first floor because he would get high and literally start cutting through doors and walls with power tools or bust doors off of their hinges and frames when his girlfriend tried to hide from him, the guy was a freakshow and no, I don't find that cute. He intentionally ran the faucets for days as an FU to my dad when his girlfriend got the eviction notice. My dad had to pay the utility, water, electric bills for her (she stopped paying rent), then he had to pay to get them evicted, then he had to pay to clean up the trash they dumped and store their belongings, then he had to do most of the repairs himself, and pay for the rest.
Can we please stop oversimplifying everything and mushing all the different types of personalities there are in just two stereotypes? Thank you.
Your comments make a lot of sense. Too bad it's going to deaf ears. Or more accurately to eyes glued shut. Ok I don't know where I was going with this metaphor.
well they deny it because they try to avoid being slut shamed for falling easy for the so called bad boys or players, that is it, the denial is a form to avoid the stigma associated with falling easy for bad boys.
I don't know, let's ask Jessica Alba
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Women like nice guys, they just don't like guys who's only quality is being "nice". I dated my ex even though I wasn't attracted to him because he was "nice" and i thought I had set my standards too high, and he cheated on me and broke up with me on my birthday because i didn't have sex with him soon enough.
omg but you are only 17 and he already wanted sex?
To be fair if you think there is any such thing as a person who's only quality is being nice, then I believe you are very naive. It's just that you spoke of that kind of person as if it's a person that actually exists; it is not. Anyone who is actually nice, will have other qualities. There is no such thing as a guy who's only quality is being nice.
@electric_dreams no i do believe that people have other qualities, my point is that I don't have to date a guy for the sole purpose that he is "nice" if I don't like anything else about him. I'm not required to have sex with every man who tips his fedora at me.
They don't understand themselves mostly. Most guys know this because they've seen it happen over and over again.
Girl dates an asshole
Girl complains about him
Girl gets cheated on, treated like shit
It ends
She complains that she just wants a nice guy
Guys ask her out, she might go on dates with a few of them
She friend-zones quite a few - "there's no spark" - she finds them boring
She gets into a new relationship
Complains to friend-zoned guy about him
It ends badly again
Complains that she wants a nice guy
Even worse - she says to the guy friend "I wish I could find a guy like you", and then when he says "well I'm a guy like me" she laughs it off and says "no I didn't mean you"
Gets into another relationship
Same again
Over and over again
I even had this conversation with my girlfriend and it's funny because at the beginning I acted kind of like an asshole. We met online and I wrote my profile intentionally meaning to sound like an arrogant prick to test out this theory, in which I bashed feminists, fat girls, short haired girls etc.
The funny thing is that before when I sounded like a nice guy I got no responses from messages I sent out, but after I did this I had women messaging me first, and she was one of them and now we've been together for almost 5 years. Perhaps after talking to me she realised that I wasn't as much of an asshole as I was pretending to be, then again I don't really like feminists, fat girls or short haired women so I guess I kind of am, if that counts.
Arrogant arse 😘
It's an inherent part of their biological nature, to be attracted to men who pay less attention to them, appear to care about them less, treat them badly. Why is quite a mystery, but it is so.
Why do they deny it? Either they are actually oblivious to it due to being blind slaves to their own biology, or they are in denial/refuse to accept the inevitable truth.
Why are guys obessessed with the thought that women only want bad boys? okay yeah some women like messing around with foolry but a lot us of really aren't into jackasses as much you guys believe we are.
And a lot guys seem to think being nice should score them any girl they want or some sex. there's nice and then there "nice". If we think you're the "nice" guy, then we know you're just that jackass in disguise.
it seems like the dating logic in North America revolves around "scoring" no wonder there are so many degenerates out there
Not obsessed just frustrated that women are not upfront about it. If women would just admit they want bad boys fine, its the claiming one thing and doing another that gets most men irritated. I personally don't care if she wants a bad boy, I just care when she descides to complain incessantly that all men are assholes because she refuses to date any one who isn't and some how this reflects on all men instead of on her and her poor choice in men. Either go after the nice guys like you say, or go after the bad boys and stop complaining when the inevitable happens. No different then when a guy wants a really crazy sexual girl then bitches when she wants to do something to crazy for him or cheats on him, it was his damn choice he should suffer the consequences of it, in silence.
Sure every girl has their type, but I feel like most girls like a guy who’s kinda down the middle. A good guy who isn’t a complete push over. A guy who’s polite but also willing to speak up when it’s necessary. I know it’s always “supposed to” be the guy who likes the chase but girls like to chase a little too. We don’t like to feel like the guy is desperate to be ours. Guys who complain about never getting the girl because they’re too nice isn’t the actual reason girls don’t like them. It’s because they have other qualities girls don’t like. You can be a nice person but still have unlikable qualities.
Bad boys are exciting and charismatic. But they are not good for marriage. Nice boys are nice but too nice is boring sometimes. I'd like balance of both.
Bad boys are more confident, assured and usually more experienced; personally I'm mad about the bad!
^Finally who speaks the truth for most women out there!!!
OK, so what if one day I get the courage to start talking to women again does that make me a Bad Boy all of a sudden? Of course not, If what your saying is true then wouldn't all guys who approach be a Bad Boy? And wouldn't that make the ugly guys like me attractive? The answer is still no.
@Uglyman1001simply talking to women doesn't make a guy bad, it's the talking to women with a certain cavalier tone, language and attitude. Being ugly is irrelevant to both the question asked and the answer I gave here... However, good luck in your future romancing endeavours.
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