Losing virginity to casual sex?

Question

I’m a virgin but i don’t see it as something precious or hugely important and I’d like to lose it to casual sex. Knowing me Im absolutely sure I won’t get attached to whoever I’d do this with (and I do have someone in mind) I’m just worried about how he would react and whether a guy would be up for this? How do guys feel about taking someone’s virginity in this way? How would I ask someone for this and make it completely clear it’s no strings attached? I don’t know this guy very well but we have spoken a few times. I’m really only interested in him physically. Advice?

MlleCake · Accepted Answer

My first time was not special at all. In fact, we would call it rape now. I was in a blackout drunk and on drugs, underage, with a man MUCH MUCH older than me (I think - it could have been several men.)

I can pretty much say that it was not great. But strangely, it was also not a disaster. I don't recommend it though.

I think what a lot of women miss their first time is having a lover who knows how the female body works and can actually help increase pleasure and prevent pain. Even very experienced lovers don't really know how the hymen really works and stuff, and a lot of women have a first time that is boring and painful and wonder why anyone would keep doing it. That sucks. I think it helps if you have a lover who is a little invested in you as a person, and that'ssometimes hard to achieve with a totally casual partner.

But there's no reason you can't get to know this guy enough for a fun romp into your "sexual debut". (I don't always agree with Laci Green, but she has some wisdom about this.)

here are some videos to watch as you plan this. You're welcome to DM me about anatomy and health, and how to make your first time not hurt and be fun.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if you dont care who and how its from, try someone close to you. I was similiar to you, entire life my mom told me that virginity is like a treasure or something but i didn't see it as a big deal, i wanted to lose it because i wanted to know what and how sex feels and weather i want it to be a big or just a moderate part of my life. So when it came i chose the guy to be my best friend. He was pleasantly surprised to the idea of free sex. It was great, he was very nice and to this day whenever one of us is bored we text each other if you feel like some light quickie and its a very strong friendship

girl2034 · Accepted Answer

You dont need to tell him that you're a virgin. Or if you do, dont make such a big deal about it, and he won't either. He will probably be really flattered. But be careful because you may think you're not the type that gets attached easily but you probably will. Since it was your first time. My advice is, dont give it away to some jerk just because he's hot.

SirRexington · Accepted Answer

Well assholes love exploiting virgins for their vaginas. But it sounds like you'll let them so I don't think you'll have a problem finding one.

But real men will not want to take away something that IS, whether you you think so or not, precious like your virginity.

fredstir · Accepted Answer

What is his age and make sure it is someone you can trust ond be open to eachother and the first time are normally a bit stressful but after a few time you now what you want.

elswilson199 · Answer

Easier to do when you're younger because your naive but I think when you are older you have more common sense and general knowledge of the world and should wait because it is something special and something that you can become easily vulnerable from.

Framboise · Answer

I lost my virginity that way except I didn't tell the guy I was virgin (I regret that part). It was a great first time.
I think the best thing is to just tell him and knowing it's your first time, he will probably pay more attention.
Even if it's casual, it can be very good. You just have to know him a little and trust him to make it right.

MMarina · Answer

Wear a condom

Andrea89 · Answer

That's exactly what I wanted and I did it with someone I had no feelings with. I told him right as he was about to out it in. He stopped, asked me if I'm sure. I said yes, and he continued. I have no regrets

Berethor · Answer

Really you should worry mostly about yourself, as you are the one who likely to get hurt from this, it's an bad idea to start off your sex life on the wrong foot.

-Beonkia · Answer

Why do you even want to? You don't want to wait for a relationship?

nickyBBB · Answer

Lol if you wanna be a sl*t sure ain't no one stopping you

JFilmore · Answer

If you're going to lose it don't do it with someone that will blab his big mouth. Discretion is key.

false · Answer

too bad you're a pink anon cause that sounds too good to be true

Galen01 · Answer

Tell him what you want, as long as you make sure he understands what your looking for you should be fine.

Amodkmishra · Answer

if you don't know him very well.. it's not a great idea to hv sex.  in case he can cheat on you. but losing verginity is not such a sin as people think

Retief · Answer

Use protection

ILikeToParty · Answer

Don’t go down the route I did. Save sex til marriage. Highly overrated to have sex outside marriage. You should date only to marry honestly.

saunification · Answer

Why do u wanna lose it?

Anonymous · Answer

I have done it the same way. We first tried to date and it didn't worked out because he only wanted sex and months later I realized I'm not ready for a relationship. So I texted him asking for sex. Literally just texted if he wants sex. And well he didn't mind me being a virgin, a year after we are still friends with benefits, never regreted it and we do date others but both are just so freaking unlucky with finding love that we keep fucking