How would you feel if your girlfriend is not allowing you to follow her private instagram becauseis following hot models? like a lot of them?

im 27, girlfriend 32. this month we had a fight and she dumped me but came back 5 days later.
the fight started when she saw that I'm following some isntagram hot female models, like 3 or 4, possibly less. I used to have a lot of them when I was single for 2 years and deleted them when we got serious. out of respect. I dont know why those accounts were still on my following list. maybe for some reason I followed them a while back, or maybe they're leftovers from the many that I deleted. she won't believe that I dont remember them. she claims that I followed them because I like them more than her and "get off to them". when I denied that she called me a liar and harshly dumped me and said some shit like "I lied, I do have a type" meaning that I'm not her type. that was over the phone. on our first anniversary.

before the fight , when she saw the chicks on my instagram she didn't tell me about them right away. she suddenly got mad without telling me why, said needed space, came back 8 hours later and said she doesn't want me on her instagram and turned it private and blocked me. because she wants to follow hot guys. later I found out that she saw some girls on mine. I tried to tell her how that would make me feel and she didn't care. "tit for tat" she said.

I checked her instagram fom a friend's account who follows her and she has like 40+ hot guys, seeing all those guys with CK tight briefs and huge bulges really made me feel sick. she doesn't know I saw them and my friend doesn't know anything.

even after she came back she still doesn't want me on her instagram and follows more everyday its disgusting to me. I told her I feel so inadequate knowing that she's looking at other guys. she knows I have low self esteem and I know my body is not even half way close to looking like theirs.
after she came back I asked her about it she said it's "just a kink" and some other bullshit. I didn't even want her back but she insisted and I gave her a shot. am I wrong to feel this way?
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  • This isn't a healthy relationship. This "tit for tat" bullshit isn't what you do. If you have a problem you talk about it and find a solution. You don't intentionally hurt the person you're with because they hurt you first. That's not a good relationship.
    And after you tell her you're insecure about it she should have 1) reassured you that she does in fact want to be with you because she finds you attractive and she loves you 2) if it really is such an issue then she should have removed them, or at least come to a solution you both could agree on with this.
    And this blocking you crap? Really? Are you sure she's 32 not 16? What grown woman acts like this? Whatever that's a red flag to me. Hiding shit isn't going to help the situation at all.
    If I were you I'd dump her and tell her to enjoy her kink and find someone that cares enough about you to act like a fucking adult. This high school "I'm gonna hurt you because you hurt me first" bullshit isn't going to help anyone. And it's not going to get better either. Next time you do something that hurts her what's she going to do? Tit for tat? That's the way you want to have a relationship?
    Nope sorry. If I was in a relationship like this, I'd be gone so fast. I suggest you do the same.

  • If it were me I would end it. She's completely disregarding your feelings about it and it's not fair that you're being considerate and she's brushing it off as no big deal.
    You have to put your feelings first in situations like this because from the way you make it sound, its not an issue that will just go away so you have to decide if you can tolerate it. If not, you have to choose yourself over the relationship.

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  • Her reaction to following four models is totally insane. She must have big self esteem problems if she reacts that way. It just pictures, it's not even porn, how can someone get mad for this?

  • This is an insecure woman, and that's a double standard. I wouldn't have taken her back.

  • If it was me i would move on without her.

  • Move on and forget about her its a toxic relationship