How should I tell my wife, or should I never tell her?

Question

My wife and I tell each other pretty much everything, even if it's uncomfortable and embarrassing, we both know the other person's sexual history as well as our deepest darkest fantasies (mine are darker than hers) with the exception of one thing. I've always been curious about experimenting with another guy, I'm mostly interested in giving another guy a blow job but I'm very open minded. I feel like she must be at least a little bit aware of my bi-curious tendencies because of other things I've suggested (pegging, having an mfm threesome, sharing/watching her with other guys, including cleaning up a cream pie) but I've never come out and told her. And I'm wondering if I ever should and if so, how should I do it?

Answer 1

Anonymous

She’s your wife she’s strapped in for the long haul. I wouldn’t be able to look at my husband the same because I’d think he’s gay but that’s just me. Your wife seems more open minded than me so go for it. Suck a dick fam. Check that off your bucket list with the consent of your girl.

mrmax91

+1 y
Hopefully she feels the same way, I'd love the chance to experience being with another guy either privately with her consent or in a threesome with her and I and another bi guy

Answer 2

mrmax91

Hopefully she feels the same way, I'd love the chance to experience being with another guy either privately with her consent or in a threesome with her and I and another bi guy

Answer 3

NicoletteKomotov

Explorer

Hmm. Check this book out and see if it might help. It talks about how common it is and ways to incorporate things for both partners that can add to the experience. Maybe there will be something you can use in it to open discussions.
www.amazon.com/.../

How should I tell my wife, or should I never tell her?

Answer 4

AV2017

Xper 4

Tell her maybe she is into it. If my boyfriend told me that I wouldn’t get mad , better for me we can do many more things in bed (;

mrmax91

+1 y
That's what I hope ends up happening, adding excitement into the bedroom is always a good thing

Answer 5

mrmax91

That's what I hope ends up happening, adding excitement into the bedroom is always a good thing

Answer 6

DarkerThanGrey

Xper 5

I dont think u should. My Parents marriage was ruined by a similar event. But, hey every case its different. Have u asked her if she have a dark fantasy she's afraid to tell you? Maybe it will help. Or just blow to the sky and be open with her.

Answer 7

Anonymous

Ask her what is her opinion of bi-guys and bi-curious guys? Ask her what she thinks of guys kissing and giving each other oral pleasure? If she's turned on by the thought of it, I think you'll be just fine.

Answer 8

Rj02011982 | 86 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 4

Definitely tell her. People are sexual beings. The most irreparable damage to relationships is from lying and deceiving. No matter what my husband told me- if he told me up front and the truth- he is my man I am there for him ride or die. May not mean I agree with everything or that there’s not gonna be a moment of tension, but if he lies-that’s nearly impossible to come back from -the whole foundation is broken.

Rj02011982

+1 y
Ask her if she wants to swing?
mrmax91

+1 y
Rj02011982 from a completely sexual standpoint I would absolutely love to get into swinging or wife sharing but my first priority is to keep my relationship healthy even if that means leaving some of my favorite fantasies unspoken
Rj02011982

+1 y
She may want to do it too
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mrmax91

+1 y
I guess I could casually mention it and see how she reacts
Rj02011982

+1 y
It’s so much better than lying and keeping secrets.
mrmax91

+1 y
Not to mention, even a 1 in 1,000 chance of getting to experiment in the wife sharing lifestyle is enough to make me extremely excited

Answer 9

Rj02011982

Ask her if she wants to swing?

Answer 10

mrmax91

Rj02011982 from a completely sexual standpoint I would absolutely love to get into swinging or wife sharing but my first priority is to keep my relationship healthy even if that means leaving some of my favorite fantasies unspoken

Answer 11

Rj02011982

She may want to do it too

Answer 12

mrmax91

I guess I could casually mention it and see how she reacts

Answer 13

Rj02011982

It’s so much better than lying and keeping secrets.

Answer 14

mrmax91

Not to mention, even a 1 in 1,000 chance of getting to experiment in the wife sharing lifestyle is enough to make me extremely excited

Answer 15

Luna1875

Xper 5

I say go ahead and tell her.
And see wha she says.
Some females are very opened about doing or trying those things.

Answer 16

Anonymous

You should she is your wife. When you’re married you guys should learn and discover things about each other sexually. I love pegging so you guys should tell each other your fetished and fantasies and see where that leads to

Answer 17

Anonymous

You should :) my boyfriend actually is similar to what you like, and I don’t have a problem with it. He hasn’t tried it yet, but it wouldn’t bother me if he did. It’s okay to be honest. If she doesn’t like the idea, she’ll simply tell you

mrmax91

+1 y
I just hope that she is as open minded as you are, I totally agree that my willingness to interact with either gender does open up a lot of exciting news possibilities in bed, and if I'm lucky my wife will see it the same way.
mrmax91

+1 y
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Opinion Owner

+1 y
When my boyfriend told me, I was just happy he didn’t want to have sex other girls 😂
Just try, she may be totally fine, and if she doesn’t like the idea, then she should just tell you and then move on from it
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mrmax91

+1 y
From a guys perspective having your significant other come out to you as being bi-sexual seems like the best news you'll ever get if it opens up the possibility of having a fmf threesome, but I'm not naive enough to expect her to have the same reaction I would and I wouldn't even be surprised if she wasn't the slightest bit interested in the notion of a threesome with me and another guy
Opinion Owner

+1 y
I guess all you can do is ask, and accept the answer :)
Even though my boyfriend would like to have a mfm threesome, I’m not interested and I told him that. But I wouldn’t mind if he decided to do something with a guy

Answer 18

mrmax91

I just hope that she is as open minded as you are, I totally agree that my willingness to interact with either gender does open up a lot of exciting news possibilities in bed, and if I'm lucky my wife will see it the same way.

Answer 19

mrmax91

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Answer 20

Opinion Owner

When my boyfriend told me, I was just happy he didn’t want to have sex other girls 😂
Just try, she may be totally fine, and if she doesn’t like the idea, then she should just tell you and then move on from it

Answer 21

mrmax91

From a guys perspective having your significant other come out to you as being bi-sexual seems like the best news you'll ever get if it opens up the possibility of having a fmf threesome, but I'm not naive enough to expect her to have the same reaction I would and I wouldn't even be surprised if she wasn't the slightest bit interested in the notion of a threesome with me and another guy

Answer 22

Opinion Owner

I guess all you can do is ask, and accept the answer :)
Even though my boyfriend would like to have a mfm threesome, I’m not interested and I told him that. But I wouldn’t mind if he decided to do something with a guy

Answer 23

bulltaker | 101 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 4

She is your wife so yes you should tell her, she either will be ok with it or not, either way, you should honest and let her decide. I think the saddest thing in a marriage is not being able to tell each other anything and everything.

Answer 24

Bliss-taylor | 564 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

That's something I'd want to know. Personally I wouldn't like it from my partner but she would probably be okay with it. Most women today are.

Answer 25

Tadgelle

Xper 2

I think you should tell her how you feel. But first ask her what she thinks about those things. Like you were reading an article and it came up.

Answer 26

lillz10 | 377 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

If you've already talked about things like this I suppose after all you are married

Answer 27

Paris13 | 5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Have a Talk Indirectly about this Here, dear, However, Something so Close, so Near... I Fear, could put a Monkey Wrench into things.
Be sure First about Anything before you Spill the Jelly beans. xx

Paris13

+1 y
Welcome to Gag Town and Good Luck. xx
mrmax91

+1 y
If that wasn't your intention then I apologise
Paris13

+1 y
I always welcome people to "Gag Town," dear, it is the Community of Gag. no offense. I am Master here, dear, I have been on Gag for over 4 years and best from the rest analyst here you can get with all of my serious intents.
I rhyme my replies which helps put spice of life into every answer.
Concentrate on my reply, it will help you. xxx
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Paris13

+1 y
I have over 1000 followers so what does this tell you? xx
mrmax91

+1 y
I totally missed the acronym lol, again, my apologies
mrmax91

+1 y
So back to your original opinion, you think bringing it up casually to see how she reacts is the best way to handle it?
Flower-petal

+1 y
She's the shit 😘😘😘
Paris13

+1 y
In an indirect way, yes, get her feel on the deal. xx
Paris13

+1 y
@Flower-petal lol I agree. xx
Flower-petal

+1 y
Hahahaha 😘😘😘
Paris13

+1 y
@Flower-petal lol!!! You great!!! xxoo
Flower-petal

+1 y
LOL I love you punkin 😘😘😘
Paris13

+1 y
@Flower-petal ohhhh, love you too, xxoo

Answer 28

Paris13

Welcome to Gag Town and Good Luck. xx

Answer 29

mrmax91

If that wasn't your intention then I apologise

Answer 30

Paris13

I always welcome people to "Gag Town," dear, it is the Community of Gag. no offense. I am Master here, dear, I have been on Gag for over 4 years and best from the rest analyst here you can get with all of my serious intents.
I rhyme my replies which helps put spice of life into every answer.
Concentrate on my reply, it will help you. xxx

Answer 31

Paris13

I have over 1000 followers so what does this tell you? xx

Answer 32

mrmax91

I totally missed the acronym lol, again, my apologies

Answer 33

mrmax91

So back to your original opinion, you think bringing it up casually to see how she reacts is the best way to handle it?

Answer 34

Flower-petal

She's the shit 😘😘😘

Answer 35

Paris13

In an indirect way, yes, get her feel on the deal. xx

Answer 36

Paris13

@Flower-petal lol I agree. xx

Answer 37

Flower-petal

Hahahaha 😘😘😘

Answer 38

Paris13

@Flower-petal lol!!! You great!!! xxoo

Answer 39

Flower-petal

LOL I love you punkin 😘😘😘

Answer 40

Paris13

@Flower-petal ohhhh, love you too, xxoo

Answer 41

bipolarmilly

Xper 4

If I were you I would tell her but telling her might be good and might be bad but if you tell her and it's good it could be the best thing you've ever done

Answer 42

TacosRAwesome | 3.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Well you already tell her everything. I doubt this will phase her.

Answer 43

Ibrahim4life

Xper 1

Let her know straightforward. It might kill her but she deserves to know

Answer 44

Anonymous

It should've been something that you should have said to her before you married her. What if it turns her off? She's screwed cause she married you.

Answer 45

Anonymous

You should have told her you’re at least bisexual right when you got together..

mrmax91

+1 y
Honestly it's not something that I have always felt, it's just a very rare desire or fantasy to experiment with another man or preferably have a guy join us for a no boundaries threesome and share that experience with her in a safe and comfortable setting
Opinion Owner

+1 y
It doesn’t seem rare considering the other things you’ve suggested. I think you have a serious case of denial. I just hope your wife is okay with it, so her life isn’t ruined.
mrmax91

+1 y
I honestly only think about this type of thing probably less than once a month, and it's never been a strong enough urge that I want to act on it, just something that I think about in my... "Alone time"

Answer 46

mrmax91

Honestly it's not something that I have always felt, it's just a very rare desire or fantasy to experiment with another man or preferably have a guy join us for a no boundaries threesome and share that experience with her in a safe and comfortable setting

Answer 47

Opinion Owner

It doesn’t seem rare considering the other things you’ve suggested. I think you have a serious case of denial. I just hope your wife is okay with it, so her life isn’t ruined.

Answer 48

mrmax91

I honestly only think about this type of thing probably less than once a month, and it's never been a strong enough urge that I want to act on it, just something that I think about in my... "Alone time"

Answer 49

ChelseaGlow

Xper 4

If I was your wife, I’d want to watch.

Answer 50

Anonymous

Personally if my partner told me this I couldn't get past it. I would leave the relationship.

Answer 51

Po-ta-to

Xper 3

Just do it.

Answer 52

LegateLanius

Master

Tell her

Answer 53

Batuthekhan | 812 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

You must tell her

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