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How should I tell my wife, or should I never tell her?

My wife and I tell each other pretty much everything, even if it's uncomfortable and embarrassing, we both know the other person's sexual history as well as our deepest darkest fantasies (mine are darker than hers) with the exception of one thing. I've always been curious about experimenting with another guy, I'm mostly interested in giving another guy a blow job but I'm very open minded. I feel like she must be at least a little bit aware of my bi-curious tendencies because of other things I've suggested (pegging, having an mfm threesome, sharing/watching her with other guys, including cleaning up a cream pie) but I've never come out and told her. And I'm wondering if I ever should and if so, how should I do it?
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  • She’s your wife she’s strapped in for the long haul. I wouldn’t be able to look at my husband the same because I’d think he’s gay but that’s just me. Your wife seems more open minded than me so go for it. Suck a dick fam. Check that off your bucket list with the consent of your girl.

    • Hopefully she feels the same way, I'd love the chance to experience being with another guy either privately with her consent or in a threesome with her and I and another bi guy

  • Hmm. Check this book out and see if it might help. It talks about how common it is and ways to incorporate things for both partners that can add to the experience. Maybe there will be something you can use in it to open discussions.
    www.amazon.com/.../

    How should I tell my wife, or should I never tell her?

  • Tell her maybe she is into it. If my boyfriend told me that I wouldn’t get mad , better for me we can do many more things in bed (;

    • That's what I hope ends up happening, adding excitement into the bedroom is always a good thing

Most Helpful Guys

  • I dont think u should. My Parents marriage was ruined by a similar event. But, hey every case its different. Have u asked her if she have a dark fantasy she's afraid to tell you? Maybe it will help. Or just blow to the sky and be open with her.

  • Ask her what is her opinion of bi-guys and bi-curious guys? Ask her what she thinks of guys kissing and giving each other oral pleasure? If she's turned on by the thought of it, I think you'll be just fine.

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  • If I was your wife, I’d want to watch.

  • Have a Talk Indirectly about this Here, dear, However, Something so Close, so Near... I Fear, could put a Monkey Wrench into things.
    Be sure First about Anything before you Spill the Jelly beans. xx

    • Welcome to Gag Town and Good Luck. xx

    • If that wasn't your intention then I apologise

    • I always welcome people to "Gag Town," dear, it is the Community of Gag. no offense. I am Master here, dear, I have been on Gag for over 4 years and best from the rest analyst here you can get with all of my serious intents. I rhyme my replies which helps put spice of life into every answer. Concentrate on my reply, it will help you. xxx

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  • That's something I'd want to know. Personally I wouldn't like it from my partner but she would probably be okay with it. Most women today are.

  • I think you should tell her how you feel. But first ask her what she thinks about those things. Like you were reading an article and it came up.

  • I say go ahead and tell her.
    And see wha she says.
    Some females are very opened about doing or trying those things.

  • Just do it.

  • Definitely tell her. People are sexual beings. The most irreparable damage to relationships is from lying and deceiving. No matter what my husband told me- if he told me up front and the truth- he is my man I am there for him ride or die. May not mean I agree with everything or that there’s not gonna be a moment of tension, but if he lies-that’s nearly impossible to come back from -the whole foundation is broken.

    • Ask her if she wants to swing?

    • Rj02011982 from a completely sexual standpoint I would absolutely love to get into swinging or wife sharing but my first priority is to keep my relationship healthy even if that means leaving some of my favorite fantasies unspoken

    • She may want to do it too

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  • If you've already talked about things like this I suppose after all you are married

  • Well you already tell her everything. I doubt this will phase her.

  • Tell her

  • She is your wife so yes you should tell her, she either will be ok with it or not, either way, you should honest and let her decide. I think the saddest thing in a marriage is not being able to tell each other anything and everything.

  • Let her know straightforward. It might kill her but she deserves to know

  • You must tell her

  • If I were you I would tell her but telling her might be good and might be bad but if you tell her and it's good it could be the best thing you've ever done

  • You should she is your wife. When you’re married you guys should learn and discover things about each other sexually. I love pegging so you guys should tell each other your fetished and fantasies and see where that leads to

  • You should :) my boyfriend actually is similar to what you like, and I don’t have a problem with it. He hasn’t tried it yet, but it wouldn’t bother me if he did. It’s okay to be honest. If she doesn’t like the idea, she’ll simply tell you

    • I just hope that she is as open minded as you are, I totally agree that my willingness to interact with either gender does open up a lot of exciting news possibilities in bed, and if I'm lucky my wife will see it the same way.

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    • When my boyfriend told me, I was just happy he didn’t want to have sex other girls 😂 Just try, she may be totally fine, and if she doesn’t like the idea, then she should just tell you and then move on from it

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  • Personally if my partner told me this I couldn't get past it. I would leave the relationship.

  • It should've been something that you should have said to her before you married her. What if it turns her off? She's screwed cause she married you.

  • You should have told her you’re at least bisexual right when you got together..

    • Honestly it's not something that I have always felt, it's just a very rare desire or fantasy to experiment with another man or preferably have a guy join us for a no boundaries threesome and share that experience with her in a safe and comfortable setting

    • It doesn’t seem rare considering the other things you’ve suggested. I think you have a serious case of denial. I just hope your wife is okay with it, so her life isn’t ruined.

    • I honestly only think about this type of thing probably less than once a month, and it's never been a strong enough urge that I want to act on it, just something that I think about in my... "Alone time"

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