Anal or vaginal?

Question

I always have had guys want to do anal. Vaginal sex feels better for me. I’ve only had anal with one guy, but after we broke up I didn’t have a sexual partner until now. He wants to try anal, and we’ve tried, but it honestly just hurts too much. 
But why do guys ask for anal? Does it pleasure males more? Does it depend on the guy? Is it a turn off for us to just straight up say no?

normalice · Accepted Answer

Having had it feel nice in the past, you are probably aware that it takes a certain state of mind for a girl to like anal. Guys who want anal are capable of drawing an immense amount of satisfaction from coaxing a girl into that state of mind. Or from finding a girl who can get herself into that state of mind all on her own.

Of course, guys don't know what it takes to get a girl into that state of mind. But we do know that there is no point to anal sex besides just for the thrill of it. Thus, if we get a girl off through anal sex, we take that as having possessed so much sexual appeal that she disregarded her social inhibitions in order to pursue undignified sexual thrill. It probably doesn't really work like this, but we imagine it does, and that's enough to stroke the ego thoroughly.

gobsmacked3 · Accepted Answer

Most young boys are so influenced by porn.  i have little interest in anal  Vaginal is where it is at

Rachel6677 · Accepted Answer

it's more taboo though not as much now, it's different, naughty, the girl is more vulnerable and the guy in more control, more girls say no to it so massive turn on for guys into it if you say yes, influence of porn

MayBlythe · Accepted Answer

I like vaginal more but if asked by my boyfriend every once in a while, I won't say no as I enjoy it to an extent

itsasecret83 · Accepted Answer

Vaginal. If you aren't down for anal, and he can't respect that then move on.

EpicDweeb · Answer

I've never experienced it so I can't really say tbh.

radrio · Answer

Some guys ask for anal for zero chance of pregnancy. I don't like doing anal unless my girlfriend and I are both shitfaced drunk because my dick is too big for her anally and she hates the pain.

lest125 · Answer

first anal pain implies he's idiot who has no idea what he is doing, and if not that your anus has no pleasure sensor there. i can't speak for all guys let alone hetrosexual guys (which confuses me when most are homophobic) it could be fact its considered taboo/dirty. i never done anal have tried (but inexperience at the time) with a male. plob please them for a short while till your anus loosens up permanently loose i would say its not a turn off. only benefit i could see from anal is able to cum inside without pregnancy scare

NJ_Casanova · Answer

It's Porn and his peers talking about it so much. A guy that never did it before will be interested as to what all the talk is about.

I've never gotten to try anal... probably never will, I'm also happy with PIV anyway.

Buckzor · Answer

Honestly no idea, doesn't entice me whatsoever. Guess I can't say till i've tried it though. Not sure what's wrong with a vagina, but guess I can't say till I thy that either...

memyers13 · Answer

If you don't like it, and it's not your thing you don't have to do it. He would like it if you did but he's got to show love and respect to both you and your butthole.