I voted d, because maybe forgiving isn't the right word.
I think most men simply won't get into a relationship with a promiscuous (or "formerly promiscuous" -do not believe this term guys) woman.
So there is nothing to forgive.
There are some guys who get into relationships with such women and then get angry and/or leave her.
Now, here "unforgiving" is more apt.
I think thats stupid tough, when guys do that. But here is where the speaker makes sense.
Men dont like their woman having been with another man.
In a perfect world, every man would rather have had a wife that had never been touched that way by another man.
Thats the truth. Men claim their women as theirs, but the woman has to be worthy of being claimed. You can't claim a girl as yours when she had been everyone's girl.
Smart men know, and understand this and dont get into relationships with such women. Men who act on their lust amd desire, will only realize their instinctual dislike for her promiscuity later down the road. This is bad for both the girl amd the guy.
And very rarey, there are men who are truly ok with it.
Maybe they lack this instinct. But if you think about it, the guys who lack this instinct are more likely to be low value guys, after all, high value guys go after high value women.
Guys that are okay with taking on leftovers from other guys dont seem like "top blokes" to me.
But your opinion may differ.
But dont expect the really cool, successful guys to be into you (for the long term) when you have had an extensive sexual past.
Just putting out the truth for the young girls out there who are being lied to and manipulated by the media, the liberal left, and horny guys that wanna get laid.
Most guys don't trust a woman with multiple partners, some men don't care but they usually have it back fire. What he is saying is utterly bull (in the idea that its the mans fault when the relationship falls apart). The fact is the more partners you have the more likely you are to cheat, divorce, be unhappy in relationships, be unhappy with sex, and be more likely to be depressed. While they where busy jumping from guy to guy they where not busy trying to learn how to maintain a long term relationship. It conditions you to go after and preffer short term relationships it causes the brain to create neural networks that trigger the reward center of the brain when you have those quick "flings" and it indulges impulse which in turn means your not learning to ignore those impulses (hence increased rates of cheating). So their is a reason for it.
This makes a lot of sense!
@sheflips Well this is what the statistics show, so I just went by that. Frankly I have no idea why women wouldn't hold men to the same standards.
I am a woman and I totally get it when men are unforgiving to their woman's sexual past.
If you (girl) is a low hanging fruit, men can easily get you. It is like you are a cheap cake giving a free taste and as a result, men of course would like to have a bite. But will they actually buy or pay for these cheap cakes after having a free taste? Hell NO!
If they have to select only one (someone to marry), they will of course find the highest premium cake that they can get.
As a woman, I totally understand it, I would be the same if I were born a man.
So lesson for ladies, dont be the cheap free taste cakes that men will just taste but won't pay for. Be the premium cake that men will treasure.
dammit now I'm hungry lol
@hammeronfire goodluck getting a cake!
Wow a woman who gets it
A lot of men can be unforgiving. I’ve seen it on here, where a guy will say his girlfriend has to be pious and has to have a low body count when he can have a high one. But there’s also men who just care about the present so long as she’s healthy and promises to keep him informed if that changes.
And honest. That "REPUTATION CREDIT". Is real. The past always catches up with you. - No matter who you pay -What's surgeries you do -Or change your name
@Jaybugg18 I dont get the part - No matter who you pay
@sheflips your past it comes, with "CONSEQUENTIAL DAMAGES" and when it finds you. You'll do anything to hide it. Trust me. -Ending up on the SOCIAL MEDIA INTERNET PLACE. Is bad. I'll be honest everyone has something "LURKING AROUND ON THE SOCIAL MEDIA INTERNET PLACE". It all depends on when it finds you?🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
I think that some are unforgiving and some are forgiving. Women can judge men by their past too and I am not into playboys.
I agree.
Thanks 😀
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No man forgives a "FEMALE". For past sexually encounters; because eventually the number she gives you at the, beginning is a "LIE". Dig, Investigate, And follow your Gut. If it smells sour it probably died a long time ago.
Well considering that throughout history and to this day some will still marry or date a prostitute or porn star, so clearly there are men out there who are "forgiving" about even such a sexual history as that.
Not many though.
I think it's problematic to imply that having a past is something that requires forgiveness, in the first place. People should hold their partners to the same standard that they hold themselves to, and leave it at that.
There's a big old double standard in modern day society that men are considered 'hot' if they have had multiple sexual partners but yet women are considered 'promiscuous' and generally they get portrayed in a negative way. This also seems to reflect in some case when it comes to relationships; men seem to like to be a woman's first and have that almost power, over her, and they're not so willing to accept that she too, may have had multiple partners before him. This stigma needs to end. We live in a day and age where sex is a norm and it's happening all the time from both male and females. Some men forgive, forget and grow up, others are living in the past where it's frowned upon.
But thats just kinda how it is. Guys can sleep with women due to our sexual desire and not really be changed of who we are (unless in certain cases with sex addiction, and other things mixed with it, i. e drugs and sex together have changed guys i have known) But females without exeption will always, always change their personalities for the worse when the body count goes up. This is why for most men, after a certain number any eoman is unmarryable. Because that girl is just gonna be a bad wife and worse mom. The femininity is gone. You guys may not understand this, but it is clear as day and night for us men. So, yeah it may be hypocritical, but its nature. Guys wanna f*ck with whoever while horny, but whwn it comes to settling down, we want the good girl. Its your choice to stay a good girl or to be seduced by the guys that wanna get laid. Women , unlike men are born with the highest value already. Sex is what makes you lose it. Your education, job, social position, doesn't matter
Well whilst all you're thinking about is who is your next night's victim - shall we say - realise that it's one less potential woman to settle down with all because you can't satiate your own needs. It is people like you who are making women less desirable as life partners because you just can't sort your own life out. Why haven't you settled down instead of sleeping with every woman you want to? How incredibly low and hypocritical. I'm ashamed but you are exactly what you hate and it's going to come back and bite you in the backside when there's no 'suitable' women left for you to breed with.
Double standard. I think that is about the millionth time I've heard that. Explain it for me? Unless you are bi and have sex with both genders than you have ONE standard. A woman is evaluated by men. That's one standard. Men seeking a woman is evaluated by women. He has one standard. Where does the double come in from? Men are considered "hot" if they have multiple partners? Women find that hot? Men aren't having sex with him nor seeking a relationship with him (they are seeking women), they don't get to have a standard for other guys. Only the women that men are seeking can set the standard for men. Only men that the women are seeking can set the standard for what type of partner they want. I set the standard for who I want for a wife... that's one standard. Only a woman can set the standard for what kind of husband she wants. That's one standard.
The problem is some people’s pasta arnt all sweet and dainty and can paint a picture you don’t like...
In a relationship it’s best to agree that you don’t need to no the past sexual lives about someone as it isn’t affecting the hear and now.
It’s not just men that can have an issue knowin about a girls past, some girls don’t like knowing about a mans past to.
But that is not to say if a person says “they don’t care” about their past only wants fun... because that is something I would say, that I don’t care about their past solely because I’m here now and not then and my own past is not roses x
I think most men are unforgiving especially if they are serious about you-so it is better to never tell them
I'm sorry, I seem to not remember when I ever asked this idiot to speak on my behalf.
Who died and made him the expert on all men in the world?
Anybody and their dog can get on YouTube, that doesn't make you an expert on anything.
Everybody's preferences are different. Some people won't forgive someone else's past actions (even if they had nothing to do with them personally) because they have some self righteous omnipotent attitude that they're somehow better than others and they never made bad decisions in their lives. Those are people you don't want in your life anyways, so fk em.
When it comes to a girl's sexual history, I couldn't care less what they did or how many people they have done it with, so long as they are clean of any STD's/STI's and their current sexual preferences match my own. Obviously there is more to a relationship than that, but in regards to the sexual aspect, that about covers it.
In this day and age of Tinder where people often sing take the time to form food solid foundations to relationships, it's only natural that both girls and guys would have had more sexual partners than previous generations. It is always a good thing to explore what you do and don't like in relationships and sexually, so being honest and open and communicating is more important.
Sing = don't Ducking autocorrect mixed with Swype keyboard 🙄
Fucking, Skype lol I know right.
Most men are bothered by their girlfriend's past when they consider that to be a serious relationship. A few men overcome that feeling and usually deny it. A few man don't actually care about that.
When you are really in love thinking about your SO sexual past hurts a lot. Some people can't understand that because they have never been in love.
Well, I wouldn't want a relationship with a (former) promiscuous guy either, so I think that thats more of a personal thing and not something that one can say about an entire gender.
"Forgiving" is the wrong word though - I would rather call that trust issues.
its probably a morale issue
Anyone who says that "all men are" . . . or "all women are" . . . is very prejudiced and simple minded.
we can't say anything with 100% accuracy regarding the behaviors or beliefs of all men or all women aside that people are different
Possibly the dumbest shit I've ever heard.
Depends on how honest she is about it upfront.
Depends.
My policy is: ideally the fewer the better
If you've had a lot of partners, I want to know why you had them?
I want sex to be meaningful, not just an activity. If my partner doesn't feel that way too it won't work. But if a prostitute who cleaned up wanted to date me I wouldn't scoff at her.
She cleaned up, who hasn't made crappy decisions when they were younger?
That being said, I don't recommend having too many sexual partners as a woman. Changes your brain chemistry. Not good for long term relationship formation
Also this video is hilarious if only because men are the overwhelming victims of emotional abuse.
All men are men, that's the only thing all men are. Oh, and human. There are men who seek out promiscuous women. They don't want to date them, though. And as others have said, you don't need forgiveness from someone in your present for something that happened before you met them. Yes, men are quick to label a promiscuous woman a slut, and they will not trust her around other men. But, plenty of men will not judge a woman for things she did a long time ago.
No statement that begins with "All something..." is a truism unless there's a secondary clause to it providing statistical as well as rational proof/evidence. It can safely be said that many don't care, while at the same time many do care and forgive and many, again, do not forgive.
It's a subjective matter. I have met people of all three kinds in my life, of both the gender. Education, experience, ethical stance, exposure and political opinion factors a lot in such matters.
I've never really cared, it could be an indicator of how she'll act in our relationship I guess, but I've never asked about it
Not all men, but it seems like there are a lot of men who have this really weird, perverse obsession with the fact that their girlfriend might have actually been sexually active before they met them. (As if their girlfriend's life wasn't REALLY supposed to start until they were lucky enough to meet them.)
My experience has been that they will laugh at you and patronize you if you *don't* have a lot of experience. The men who will shame you for having experience are the ones you wouldn't sleep with in the first place.
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