Girl with a Foot Fetish, Boyfriend Doesn't Meet my Needs?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend & I, although we've never had sex before (LDR), have been discussing our sexual fantasies/fetishes/likes & dislikes. So, interestingly enough, I remember in the beginning of our relationship he used to tell me he would never try any "butt stuff". But since he's seen my ass, he fell in love with it & he said I completely changed his mind & he would really like to try rimming, fingering me, & trying anal, which I'm all up for. However, I told him I have a foot fetish. I would get off if he were to kiss, lick, & suck on my toes. It's one of my biggest fantasies, and I don't know why. But I just find it very sexy; foot worship that is. But unfortunately for me, my boyfriend absolutely HATES feet. He thinks all feet are disgusting & dirty. And he says he can't see himself doing that. I've even tried discussing with him that I could take care of my feet, have them pedicured, & he could carry me from the shower to the bed so they don't get dirty, but he still thinks they're dirty. I asked him how is it logical that he's willing to lick my asshole, where shit comes out of, and not suck on my clean toes? And he said "haha you got me. I don't know." But he still doesn't wanna try it. Our convo ended on me telling him, "well, I hope that you can change your mind about it, like you did with trying butt stuff". And he said "Maybe, who knows." But he doesn't sound convinced lol. So my question is: is there a better way I can bring this up to him? Do you have any suggestions on making this sex act more appealing? (Be aware that I already talked to him about pouring chocolate on my toes or covering then in whip cream, but he still doesn't seem too fond of it). Do you think I can change his mind or is this just something I need to accept? P. S. He asked me if I was willing to suck on his toes and I said "hell yes!" He thought it was gross lol. I also had brought up giving him a footjob but he doesn't seem turned on by it, just thinks it's funny.

[phatmcpat]

I'm sure there's workarounds here. Maybe let him watch your feet in the shower? Position yourself in a manner that turns him on during a for job if it does it for you too. Play and figure out what works for the both of you. Good luck.

[Asker]

Will try this out, thanks! :)

[SmoMan71]

Huh… don’t see that very often. The other way around is way more common.

[Asker]

Haha I know right? I find it funny that it's super common in men yet my boyfriend is in the opposite spectrum, while I am the one that enjoys it 😂 I know it's not so common in girls at all

[SmoMan71]

I guess what you have to ask yourself now is how big of a deal is it for you. Is it something you need in order to have an enjoyable sex life? It is is a minor thing that you happen to like doing from time to time?

[Asker]

Hmm. I wouldn't know because I haven't tried it. But just the thought of it gets me racy. I'd definitely like to incorporate it into my sex life. It's not something I need to get off, but it would definitely be a major factor.

[SmoMan71]

Well the only other thing I could suggest is to try to find another partner who is more interested in it. but that kind of depends on how open you are to a non-monogamous relationship and how attached you are to this guy.

[Asker]

Haha no I wouldn't leave my man for something like this, or anything sexual. I just wanted to see if there was a way he could get into it. If not, then I guess I could live with it, because I love this guy.

[SmoMan71]

Fair enough, and there is always porn.

[BlueDream]

He either likes feet or he doesn't. And he obviously doesn't like them, nothing you can really do to convince him but just wait and hope he comes around.

[Tristana92]

Dont get the foot phobia stuff. Foot fetishism is the best fetish out there. You seem like a dream girl for foot fetishists!

[Asker]

Haha thanks, do you have any tips on how I can make it a sexy act for my man?

[Tristana92]

Sadly enough i dont. Either you have a fetish or you dont. Or some dont care. If he's not willing then it's going to be hard. But painted nails and well taken care of feet seems like it would be a must for him. Wush i could give you something more useful :(

[Asker]

It's okay, thank you :) and yeah that wouldn't be a problem for me to take care of my feet haha, I'd like them to look as most appealing as possible for him :)

[Tristana92]

Im guessing he's not a submissive then. Sure, it might just be that he doesn't like feet. But worshipping someones feet is considered submissive even though it doesn't have to be. It might go against his masculinity aswell. I dont know him, so it's hard to know what the problem is. Good luck anyways.

[Asker]

Ahhh, I never thought of it that way :0 But yeah he's not that submissive, he loves dom role xD Although I thought that door worship could be a dominating thing :0 it's just that to him, all feet smell and are sweaty and because we walk on them they're the dirtiest part of our body and none of that makes sense to me because it's not true lol

[Asker]

Oh yeah and he doesn't want me near his feet either which makes me sad because I wanna kiss and lick em

[Tristana92]

Foot worship can be a dom thing. But most people dont know that for some reason. Maybe because it's usually submissive. A combination of not liking feet ans liking the dom role. I don't see how he will do it tbh. There are a lot of foot fetishists out there if it doesn't work out for you :) I understand what it's like when your partner dont share similar kinks.

[Asker]

Right? I thought a dominant man would be into getting me off with foot worship and making me get on the edge! But I dunno, my partner might change his mind lol. He used to think buttholes were nasty but he's seen my ass and said I'd be the first person he'd ever try ass stuff with me because of how horny I get him. So same might go with feet in the future hopefully. If not, I'm not gunna break it off for something like that haha, but it'd be a bonus if he did that to me 🙈

[Mikey805]

I would love to suck your toes unfortunately there are guys that don’t like feet crazy I know I see a woman in heels and her toes are painted I just have to look and say wow I would love to suck and sniff her feet

[talktotaimoor]

Show him some foot fetish porn! Porns always help to make up a persons mind! The lesbian stuff getting more and more now a days is just cuz of the pornos and i hope this type of foot fetish porn will help u!

[talktotaimoor]

And i love to suck on my gfs feet! But unfortunately she's not into this stuff too! She occasionally lets me enjoy her feet!

[StompingFun]

Usually it's the other way around. I absolutely love clean, pretty girl feet. But I've never met a girl who likes guy feet. Mine are well groomed and never stink.

[mik3lov3]

I don't know what his deal and or how to go about it. But I have to say I would love to have a girl like you. That would just be my fantasy to fine a girl that loves doing that. Sorry that doesn't answer your question. Just had to say

[StevieGuitar]

If you're dating someone with a fetish, even though it's not your thing, it seems to me that part of the turn on is seeing the other person excited.

My girlfriend had lots of fetishes, which I didn't have, but in sharing them, we developed a closeness and it also meant that she would indulge my interests (a foot fetish!).

I'm surprised that your boyfriend has a problem with your fetish, many would like to date a woman who was open about her sexuality, and as I said sharing such is a marker of closeness. Conversely if a partner completely vetos a fetish, it means that there is a lack of give and take in the relationship which may cause problems later on. I would be unhappy with a partner with whom I did what they liked, but refused to reciprocate.

Have you asked him why he finds feet so gross? I haven't come across that opinion, even in women who weren't fetishists. Never heard that from a guy-mostly they love all parts of a woman, asshole and feet included!

Just my take from experience.

[Jeralme]

I myself have a foot fetish and I love to lick women's feet and fuck their feet..! Anyways, what I thought of is this, if a woman likes the way a man's tongue on/in their pussy, on their neck or on their nipples and areolas and tits, a woman would like the way a man's tongue feels on the bottom of their feet! If you look up a foot reflexology chart, studies show that there are a multitude of nerve endings on the bottom and sides of people's feet..! There are certain pressure points on stimulating sexual arousal in a person, simply by massaging ones feet..! Look up, "How to arouse somebody by a foot massage" on the internet, and you will see, that everything I am saying is in fact very true..! Do some research with him, and show him how good it feels when you do it to him.. But at the same token, there are people who just don't like their feet being touched or are appalled by the thought of feet in general.. I wish you the best, because I am kind of in the same boat as yourself.. I am looking for a woman who will let me lick and massage and fuck her feet..! Best of luck to you..! ☺️❤️

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's much you can do I think you're either in to feet or you're not. I have a huge foot fetish but I've always liked to feet

[Asker]

Haha what do you find so attractive about feet? For me I love the structure of it, the taboo behind it, how they're attached to legs, and I love their veins.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure what it is I like about them I just but not all feet got to look a certain way I think some Feet can be gross. But to me the right pair of feet is more sexy an a bigger turn on then boobs or pussy