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Anyone else find submissive men a turn off?

It's a huge turn off for me when the man is submissive and wants to call you mistress, insulting and whipping turns him on and some want you to insert your fingers in their anus and want you to pee on them and wipes your shit with their tongue. this fetish grosses me out. Men are dominant naturally, what make some guys act like this? I know that perineum in men is erogenous zone , not the anus why they want to insert your fingers in their anus? Are they gay
Anyone else submissive men turn them off??
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  • Okay, first. Slow hell down. You jumped into like 4 different kinks there, balled them up and plus prostate is the extra part for men with anal, not the perenium.

    Im a straight switch, I can be dominant or submissive. There are different levels of submission. Not all those things are together. Degration, pain, watersports, anal and toilet play were all balled together and as a sub I only have interest in anal. I feel like this is an extremely biased question to try and make submissive men sound like a terrible thing, and it's not true and no, I'm not gay. There are submissive straight men.

  • First of all, not all submissive men wants to call you mistress, some of us just prefer dominant girls.
    Not all of us are turned on by insults and whipping, some of us are turned on by wrestling and being overpowered by girls.
    Pissing and shitting is disgusting, only sick people like that kind of crap.
    Only latent gay people like finger to ass play and strap-on, but normal submissive men don't like it. We just prefer girl on top positions (not just one, there are many, we like variety).
    Nope, men are not "dominant by nature", it's a social construct of patriarchal society.

    • You voted for hillary huh? figures

    • @Giannis_Th I'm not from America so no...

    • I can consent what u mentioned, it's fun from time to another. I was talking about my experience with a submissive guy sorry for misunderstanding i'm new in the world of fetishes

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  • I'm a Dom. And you're facts are all sorts of jacked. You just crossed like four or five different Kinks. Some guys like it because it feels good. I have a lot of straight Subs who like anal. And I don't the the peeing in them and shit but to each their own. The anus is very pleasurable to both sexes. The muscles around the ring of the anus are always clenched, therefore relaxing them by stretching can be pleasurable. No they don't have to be gay.

    • If you have more questions feel free to pm me :)

    • Finally someone else explains it like I did. Now that a woman and a man have said it this way it will get through to people.

    • Hopefully. Most people don't understand BDSM at all. I see these kind of questions all the time. But replies like ours don't hold value because they're one sided.

  • I’ve never had an experience like the one you portrayed but def I prefer men to be dominant, sometimes I like to be dominant... the thing is that we always find a balance and he understands when I want to be the one dictating and he knows when to stop me and become dominant himself. But is not so fun when women are the only ones bringing the creativity and doing most of the work... just not my type of thing and guy.

  • Yes, most of them are gay or bisexual.
    I like masculine men as well Ms A
    We have some things in common:)

    • Chances are the macho masculine man you picture is either bi, gay, switch or sub. I'm straight, and I'm a switch, I don't do any of the things this post mentions and it's an insulting post to begin with. I'm masculine, straight and a switch.

    • Apperently in todays world, asking a question with a bit of a personal touch is insulting. I find your way of thinking to be much more insulting, to think that a truly alpha male doesn't exist because you aren't one is quite absurd.

    • The original post is insulting. I explainesd why in my comment. If you want to try and prove your point, do it there. I don't want to spam this commenter with our debate

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  • It can be because of many things. Childhood traumas, overprotective parents, etc.

    Or it can be because that man is in a dominant social position and feels the need to balance things somehow.

    Or maybe he is plain submissive by nature.

    Either way, submission is not a bad thing most of the time. Unless he's willing to do things that are totally against his beliefs, in which case it becomes a pathological condition.

    Psychotherapy is useful to discover the roots of the "problem". People change only if they are willing to do so, otherwise is a waste of time.

    In short, no, it is not biological, it's social, an experience based on certain key moments in the early past or current situation.

    Again, in a sexual context, even in a couple relationship context, I don't see the issue. If it is consensual and feels good for both partners, what's the problem?

    Personally speaking Switcheroo is always better option.

  • I agree. Don't like submissive men.

  • No they are not gay or they would be with a man not a woman. That said why they do it is completely different. In all probability they are weak or they can't handle the responsibilities they have so they fantasize being dominated so they can be more passive. That's just a guess however, I don't really know why any one would want that but its definitely something I find rather unsettling.

  • Well, it’s just like men who like dominant women, there are women who enjoy being the dominant force every now and then. I think naturally men are more dominant and women are more submissive but sometimes the roles are reversed for variety.

  • In my experience, something north of 95% of women find sissies a complete and utter turn off.

    Which is good for the majority of us men who AREN'T submissive.

    • Sure is

    • There is a huge difference between a submissive and a sissy. Take that into your percentage then try again

    • What's the difference

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  • Ew submissive men
    Lol
    Make me dryyyy

    • The comment right next to yours says they don't like them, it's an opinion. Yours is judgmental. Just FYI.

    • Lol yeah you sound like a sub

    • "FYI"

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  • Gay as fuck. Soy boi cuck syndrome. It's viewed as a form of retardation in some places

    • This would be funny if you weren't serious about it and you kept it to yourself. But right now it's insulting and ridiculous.

    • Those places are usually the kind to look down on you for not following their religious views. So I'm not sure what your point is other than to try and be insulting and edgy.

  • they're cool

  • For many men, it's all just in the play that excites us. It doesn't mean there are always feminine qualities at work.

  • submissive men are a huge huge turn off.
    I like them very dominant 😊

  • Yes. Huge turn off.

  • Inserting fingers in the anus properly stimulated the prostate and can induce orgasm if done properly. Fetishes are only appreciated by someone with another fetish. But, when you deviate from gender norms it gets weird. I expect men and women to act a certain way. Men to be dominant man whores and women to be submissive good girls. When those lines get blurred things seem weird to be. But, a finger in the ass done properly by a woman who knows what she is doing (no long fingernails please) is pleasurable. Especially during oral. The prostate is homologous to the woman's G-sport.

    • I've had fetishes turn me off and I'm certain some of mine have done the same. Not into rough sex (Hair pulling, choking, etc) Went along with it to make them happy but wasn't into it.

  • Most of them are bisexual the submissive kind or just gays who like to be dominated by people in general. Iam a dominant man and totally grossed out by them and if they ever crossed my path I'd proberly tell me to man up or just throw hands.

    • You would just randomly attack people? Because of their sexual preferences? I'm a switch man and I only like women, the people who gross me out are ones like you who have masculinity so fragile that this can shatter it.

  • No that is because of bullying and having a do, minating mother or absent father. Maybe it has a sister... who knows right?

  • To each their own

  • I am a very submissive guy, I realized I liked being dominated and humiliated while in public school when I thought I didn’t have a chance with any of the hot or popular girls. Turns out a lot of them found me attractive but my fetish had already started and it’s stuck with me to this day at 31. Not many girls find it attractive of me like to be dominated or humiliated tho, some girls thought I was gay for it.

  • Yup!

    I want a masculine dominant man as nature wants them! I'm straight so👀🤷🏼‍♀️

  • Im very surprised at comments by some of the women. Shows a huge lack of understanding and sex ed beyond penetration sex.

    People can have all sorts of fetishes. Some of the most powerful men , like a mistress dominating them in the bedroom, limited only to the bedroom. Outside the bedroom they are as "alpha" as possible.

    There is a difference between heterosexual anal play and homosexuality. Surprised in this day and age Women making such sweeping ignorant statements.

    If you try to discover your own sexuality you may find you might have some fetish, perhaps weird in your own interpretation.

    To have knowledge of it and say it does nothing for you is ok. To not know about the topic, and labelling is being an ignoramus.

    Havig said this the guy in question here has a range of extreme fetishes , I have not seen anyone have all of these fetishes combined , making it too much for almost anyone.

    • Also quick note re fingers in the anus. You can massage the prostate via the anus, the prostate apparently is like a hotspot for all men. I have no experience with it, but its a well known fact in the medical field. I've also heard it being compared to the G - Spot. Google it, likes of cosmo have written about it.

  • I'm certainly not like that at all, it's disgusting especially the pee and shit part like WTF...

  • Most people have no idea about submission.

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