How to know if i’m cumming/orgasming?

Question

so whenever i finger myself or my boyfriend does it, it gets to a point where it’s really intense then sensitive. this is only done by clitoral stimulation. i have never been able to find my g spot. when he fingers me after it builds up then releases, he tries to keep going faster and it gets really uncomfortable because it’s so sensitive. he really wants to make me squirt so any tips on that? i just can’t tell if when this happens it’s me cumming. i feel like i get off way too fast for it to be considered an orgasm. also don’t get me wrong (the feeling is amazing) but when i hear all the hype about “you know when you ***” “it’s the best feeling in the world” part of me says “that’s it?” like that’s really the best feeling? do you think i’m cumming? some people say i need to keep going after this happens because it means i’m about to. but it’s so intense it starts feeling uncomfortable and sensitive, and it doesn’t feel good anymore.

Answer 1

simonqq | 826 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

The g-spot thing is somewhat of a hoax, some claims to have it others don't. Research has shown there is no such spot but whatever.

I'm not a female but orgasm for me is when you feel it's suddenly building up a lot then it releases almost like waves of pleasure. The feeling is indescribable and can't be compared to something else. Guys and girls both have different intensity in their orgasm and sometimes they are really strong and sometimes pretty weak. Girls have a much wider range of intensity than guys and have the capability to enjoy much more.

You should be able to just know when it hits that it's an orgasm. It feels good during sex but the orgasm is very different from that feeling. You usually become very sensitive after and need some time before you can have sex again. Some girls and guys can continue and girls can have multiple orgasms. Guys can too but not as much and it requires some practice. I used to be able to continue after orgasm and then cum again but I haven't done it in a long time and I lost the ability to do it.

I think you are orgasming it's a short sensation and you wish it would continue longer. But it definitely feels very good. But I think the build up is very important and everything else before the orgasm is very important that makes you enjoy much more and the orgasm then usually becomes stronger.

babykyyyy

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thank you so much :) very well put!
simonqq

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Hopefully you understood my last paragraph. I had just woken up and I see now it's barely readable.

What I meant is that an orgasm usually only last for 1-3 seconds. So it's very short but feels pretty good depending on the intensity.

To make sex more than just about the orgasm it's important to build everything up and make it hot. You can really make it feel better just by hyping it up in your brain and how you think. If that goes on for a longer time the orgasm can become much more intense and you will have enjoyed much more during everything as well and not just the orgasm.

Answer 2

babykyyyy

thank you so much :) very well put!

Answer 3

simonqq

Hopefully you understood my last paragraph. I had just woken up and I see now it's barely readable.

What I meant is that an orgasm usually only last for 1-3 seconds. So it's very short but feels pretty good depending on the intensity.

To make sex more than just about the orgasm it's important to build everything up and make it hot. You can really make it feel better just by hyping it up in your brain and how you think. If that goes on for a longer time the orgasm can become much more intense and you will have enjoyed much more during everything as well and not just the orgasm.

Answer 4

Dargil | 30.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

There's a big difference between "feels good" or "feels intense" and an orgasm. When you have one, your body takes over and you go along for the ride. For me, intercourse without an orgasm is wasted effort, but girls say they enjoy it even without reaching orgasm. So I tried out an idea. I bought one of these and had my best girl use it on me with plenty of lotion.
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without the handjob. It was very pleasurable and satisfying even though I would never cum from it and I understand why women like Intercourse even if they don't cum. You will know you are having an orgasm by the involuntary things that happen. Body spasms. Hot flashes. A feeling of euphoria and you will feel your vaginas and anus contract rhythmically. And yes is the best feeling there is.

Answer 5

Anonymous

Does your body shake and move and lift when this feeling happens? You'll definitely know if you're having an orgasm when you do. You feel it build a lot and then release (orgasm), kinda hard to explain. Much better than my description hahaha.

babykyyyy

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i definitely start moving and squirming but a lot of girls start having contractions and stuff and I've never experienced that
Opinion Owner

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I'm not sure how to explain the feeling of an orgasm, to me it's a feeling that builds up and so going faster (through masturbation, as I'm a virgin) helps it to release, and as it happens my body involuntarily responds. You might be orgasming, but it's hard to tell through text.

Answer 6

babykyyyy

i definitely start moving and squirming but a lot of girls start having contractions and stuff and I've never experienced that

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

I'm not sure how to explain the feeling of an orgasm, to me it's a feeling that builds up and so going faster (through masturbation, as I'm a virgin) helps it to release, and as it happens my body involuntarily responds. You might be orgasming, but it's hard to tell through text.

Answer 8

Anonymous

After an orgasm you will feel your vagina tightening & untightening over & over. When that feeling finishes you will be okay to go again.

Answer 9

Masselin

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I feel bad for you. I really wish I could explain to you in under 1000 words that female orgasm is in multiple areas, and the ultimate finish is to squirt. People don't know that every woman is capable, its just that some have different stimulates. Often times women are so scared of it they squirm away before squirting... or they assume that the strange feeling like they need to pee is just that and not pure ejaculate. there's a function in the body that prevents you from peeing when about to squirt, it just feels similar. Unless of course you've had to pee since long before, its highly unlikely that you will... here I go again

Masselin

+1 y
To squirt you have to stimulate multiple areas. The g spot is generally towards your front on the inside. About finger length in in most cases. Have him do a sort of come hither motion, hooking his fingers upwards and dragging his fingertips along the top. It's a weird analogy, but I often hear that the g-spot has tissue similar to the tip of a nose. Have him hunt until you feel something more/better than just movement. It's sad that you have not found it, I would be very glad to assist you in the exploration and discovery.
Masselin

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To squirt, you will have to probably feel like you've finished/nearly finished multiple times, building up ejaculate. What you are doing with your clit is called a clitoral orgasm, and it's the most common however most disappointing one I think I have seen. Try doing something else, hold your fingers in an upside down V on either side of the clit, running them up and down what are known as the clitoral legs. You can even squeeze the clit in the process if that feels good.
babykyyyy

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awesome!! thanks a bunch!! :)
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Masselin

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Who says guys can't know things about women ^-^ 19 and feeling proud that I can assist so many blossoming young adults growing into adulthood and discover their bodies.
Masselin

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My English broke. Good luck

Answer 10

Masselin

To squirt you have to stimulate multiple areas. The g spot is generally towards your front on the inside. About finger length in in most cases. Have him do a sort of come hither motion, hooking his fingers upwards and dragging his fingertips along the top. It's a weird analogy, but I often hear that the g-spot has tissue similar to the tip of a nose. Have him hunt until you feel something more/better than just movement. It's sad that you have not found it, I would be very glad to assist you in the exploration and discovery.

Answer 11

Masselin

To squirt, you will have to probably feel like you've finished/nearly finished multiple times, building up ejaculate. What you are doing with your clit is called a clitoral orgasm, and it's the most common however most disappointing one I think I have seen. Try doing something else, hold your fingers in an upside down V on either side of the clit, running them up and down what are known as the clitoral legs. You can even squeeze the clit in the process if that feels good.

Answer 12

babykyyyy

awesome!! thanks a bunch!! :)

Answer 13

Masselin

Who says guys can't know things about women ^-^ 19 and feeling proud that I can assist so many blossoming young adults growing into adulthood and discover their bodies.

Answer 14

Masselin

My English broke. Good luck

Answer 15

Rick_Woodlands | 793 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

It's normal for a clit to get sensitive or painful to touch after orgasm. Same with cocks.

I'd say you are cumming---just not having very satisfying orgasms for whatever reason. Maybe you're just rushing it. Slow down and make him slow down---and make him stop when it doesn't feel good any more.

What goes on in your head when you're having what you think is an orgasm? Most people lose their train of thought for at least a moment.

Answer 16

Intraluminal | 5.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

It sounds like you may have come. For GUYS more stimulation make an orgasm better
This is NOT true for girls where the stimulation should stay the same or diminish.

babykyyyy

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thank you this was very helpful:))

Answer 17

babykyyyy

thank you this was very helpful:))

Answer 18

symon1

Xper 2

You are on the right direction but sadly you are missing your last shot... take a deep breath and let your boyfriend to go fast with his finger till you cum... dont feel uncomfortable and sensitive at the last cumming phase 😂😂

Answer 19

Supermosh1990

Guru

As you stimulate your self through either masturbation or sex , some girls experience a sudden build up of pleasure and also a feeling of that your gonna pee.

Supermosh1990

+1 y
It will essentially build up until it bursts (the orgasm happens).
Supermosh1990

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www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...-has-had-an-orgasm.html (Hope this helps).

Answer 20

Supermosh1990

It will essentially build up until it bursts (the orgasm happens).

Answer 21

Supermosh1990

www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...-has-had-an-orgasm.html (Hope this helps).

Answer 22

Mrblueballs42

Xper 6

well it should be so intense you feel like you want to pee. You will shake a lot and have moist it varies.

Answer 23

Anonymous

Every time it starts to feel uncomfortable, keep going for a little bit longer. Increase this time every time you masturbate and eventually you will orgasm.

Answer 24

Decentguy

Master

A mail man will come at your door, when you will cum, and he will hand you a mail, in which it will be written "DAYYYYUUUUUUUUUUMMMMM !!! CONGRATULATIONS MISS, YOU JUST HAD A ORGASM, "

Answer 25

eviansim

Xper 2

Just a tight contracting feeling. Intense and heated.

Answer 26

rockrewls | 3.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

You've had a clitoral orgasm if your clit is extremely sensitive after the intense feeling.

Answer 27

-maroonberet-

Xper 5

Your boyfrend hurt you, instead of make relaxing.

Answer 28

maddyrocks

Xper 1

Every girls have same

Answer 29

Anonymous

Well you would feel like you need to pee.

Answer 30

dimiari | 69 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Message me please

babykyyyy

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my app doesn’t let me pm because i don’t have enough points or whatever

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babykyyyy

my app doesn’t let me pm because i don’t have enough points or whatever

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