Have you ever had a threesome where the sex was better with the other person rather than your partner?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I are a freaky couple. We've been dating for a year now, and we love to try new sexual adventures. We've had sex in very public places, we've had sex at a swinger's club while being watched my hundreds of people, we've had while in the same room as our parents (while they were sleeping)... we've done a lot. Lol. We recently decided to try a threesome.

First, we did a threesome with me, her and her female friend and it was fun. Then, the following week, we did another threesome with me, her and another guy we found on Tinder (we made sure he was clean before we invited him in).

The threesome was pretty nice. She paid more attention to me than him and the guy and I paid a lot of attention to her. We went for a while, but I eventually tapped out before the other guy, so I went to clean up. When I was finishing showering, they were still having sex. He eventually came after about 10 more minutes, she came and then he left.

Over the past few days, my girlfriend has been saying that was one of the best sexual experiences she has ever had, and she keeps saying the sex was absolutely amazing and she can't get over it. After the threesome, my girlfriend and I still have sex, but I can't help to wonder if she is talking about the threesome was the best sex she ever had OR if having sex with him was the best experience she ever had.

So... have you ever had a threesome where the person you invited in was better at you than sex? How did that affect your relationship?

[samhradh_leannan]

It could go either way, honestly. But no matter how you look at it, it was his presence in the situation that created the experience she's referring to. It's possible that she simply found it very exciting to try sex with a new partner. Or maybe she really enjoyed something that this particular guy was doing to her. This is the risk of threesomes.

I would suggest talking to her about how you feel. Let her know that the way she's talking about the experience makes you feel concerned. Ask her what it was about the threesome that made it so incredible for her- and if there were particular moves the other guy was doing that she really loved, maybe she can tell you what they were so that YOU can try them on her next time. Above all, communicate openly and honestly about how you feel, or this issue will eat away at your relationship.

[Asker]

Thanks I talked to her. She said the threesome experience was great, but she did admit that having sex with that guy was better. Lol. She said that his penis was bigger than mine and the way that it felt inside of her made the experience better. She said it felt like it filled her entire vagina.

[samhradh_leannan]

Maybe you can experiment with different positions or something, or maybe she can try some kegels during sex. Both those things can help achieve a tighter fit.

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend so much and he’s good at penetrative sex but his lesbian friend we had a threesome with (it was mostly me &her and me &him, they basically only kissed and groped a bit) she ate my pussy way better than he did, she made me cum three times and she said I was the best she ever tasted. My boyfriend is okay at oral, but his friend was amazing. She needs to teach him how to do it.

[Asker]

If his friend was a guy and was better at eating you out than your boyfriend, do you think that would have changed your relationship?

[Opinion Owner]

No because I wouldn’t tell him that I think he was better. I didn’t tell him that his friend was better at it than him, I just said I’d be open to doing it again. His friend is fine with doing it again.

[Ogopogo]

OP, this is the kind of girl you're want to have in your life, not one who thanks you for your GGG by rating your dick.

[nothingtosee]

OK, that was hot! I think you should arrange for her to come over and teach him how to eat pussy better! The idea of being a student to her and having her teach me and show me how to do it over and over and over again would be really hot! Can you imagine? You being eaten out several times in one night? Her using you as a teacher's aid and your boyfriend having to practice, practice practice? Also, I think it would be hot if she put on a strap on and taught him how to pleasure you better with a cock! Again, you being nothing more than a teacher's aid. So hot!

[Ramadi]

The key is open discussion you need to communicate your concerns and ask your questions. And if it was better or what ever your concerns may be discuss whay made it so good and try to use that information to your advantage the best you can. But also in my personal opinion sex does not equal love great sex does not equal love she is with you for more than just sex

[Ro-Tempest]

Yeah, she is talking about the sex with the other guy but only because she is YOUR girlfriend. Otherwise she would not like it as much. Just like when you where doing it in your parents room, your doing something that is 'wrong'. So when she did it with him, you (her boyfriend) where there. Some people find that very pleasurable.

[pepperhicks]

Yes, this happened most recently with a girlfriend who chose a friend to bring to our apartment. I paid more attention to the friend. It do not know that the sex was better, it was just different. The woman was not even as attractive as my girlfriend. By the end, my girlfriend just sat and watched while I finished with the friend. My girlfriend never mentioned it again, but she also knows that I have no way to communicate with the friend. (Frankly, I do not even remember her name.) I think she just kind of rolled with it because it was clear that she is first and that she controls access to the friend.

Maybe your girl is mentioning it to say that she wants it to happen again? Do you know if your girlfriend is talking about a threesome with that specific guy again, or just someone else on Tindr? That part of leaving them together after you finished it kind of tough to navigate. One thing I learned about threesomes is the whole thing is about the three of you together. Even if you are sitting there, you are still part of the situation even though you are not touching anyone. When it becomes two people doing their thing alone, it becomes a different thing and it is easy for feelings to get hurt.

I admit that I am selfish, I would not agree to MMF even though my partners have arranged MFF for me in the past.

[mitchd171]

Never had one, but you should let her have another round with him!:)

[JennieF]

Yeah before I was married.

[sbj78]

Never had a threesome. But she's referring to the sex with him.

[Anonymous]

I think she is referring to the experience.

[Anonymous]

The first time me and my girlfriend had a threesome she admitted that the other guy was way better than me

[Asker]

Did that change the dynamic of your relationship?