Boyfriend has a very strange fetish? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

So for a long time I felt something was a bit... unique about my boyfriend. We've been dating for approximately 2 years and by the fourth month he was already exhibiting a few weird signs. For example, he has always been a butt guy and would rub and play with my backside all the time. I don't mind that but it gets weirder. Every relationship has the "accidental fart slip up" moment and his reaction was very strange. Basically we were sitting on the couch watching a movie and as I went to change positions, a tiny fart slipped out and after we finished laughing he was like "That was sexy, babe. You're sexy." When I asked him what he meant because I personally think farts are embarrassing and gross, he admitted that he has a fart fetish. I find that very very strange. I could tell he was shy about admitting it and he's like "Don't judge me for it. We all have our little quirks right?" Well I think that incident sparked something in him because now during sex he'll ask me to fart for him and I just won't. I feel very self-conscious about bodily functions and besides that one time he has never witnessed a single thing! It has gotten to the point where he won't stop nagging me to do it. I thought I could overlook this quirk but I'm considering breaking up because it's not something I signed up for when we started dating. Guys, what do I do?

[areyaready4this]

I see where you're coming from and even though we all have our quirks (I know I do), this one is a bit odd. Nonetheless, you really need to ask yourself a few questions:

-Do you truly love him?
-How long do you want this relationship to last?
-Would you be willing to compromise in any shape, form, or fashion?
-What are your quirks and how quick will he be to embellish yours if you won't compromise on his.
-Have you sat down, in a neutral environment, to legitimately discuss this?

Relationships are all about compromise (which Im sure you already know), you give some and he takes some. He gives some and you take some. Im NOT saying that you HAVE to do it for him at all but, you'll need to address those questions sooner or later if you truly want this relationship to last.

Best of luck!

[Asker]

You raised some legitimate questions and here are my answers lol 1) Do you truly love him? -Very much so. He is the one person I can go to for anything and he always has my back. I can't picture myself being with anyone else ❤️ 2) How long do you want this relationship to last? -I picture us getting married within the next 2 to 3 years but then this came up so I'm feeling a little less certain 3) Would you be willing to compromise in any shape, form, or fashion? -We generally have a healthy relationship (emotionally and sexually) so I don't know why he's asking me this. He seemed satisfied in the bedroom before this was ever brought up so I don't know where this is coming from? I guess my answer is no for this one 4) What are your quirks and how quick will he be to embellish yours if you won't compromise on his -I don't have unusual quirks but he always tries to make me happy so I guess I'm a bit of a jerk for judging his :(

[AustinMan]

You will ultimately decide that farts are part of everyday life and give him one once in awhile or you'll stay up tight and break up with him. I guess it depends on the balance of all the other factors.

[Asker]

Our relationship means a lot to me but I don't get why my embarrassment would turn him on? I mean it's one thing if it happens on accident (like it did once before) but not purposely going out of my way to do it. Aside from this our relationship is close to perfect

[AustinMan]

I'm not sure it's your embarrassment that he gets off on but something about it happening in and of itself. Don't ask me to explain it. I just know how kinks and fetishes work in general. I'm guessing with him being such a booty man, he'd probably love to give you a bare bottom spanking, too.

[Asker]

I think embarrassment is a part of it because he prefers it to happen on accident when the girl didn't mean for it to happen. Or maybe that it's taboo for girls to do that whereas it's more acceptable for guys? Your guess is as good as mine lol. You're right that he enjoys spanking and that I don't mind as much as his other confession

[AustinMan]

Doesn't sound like the whole submissive thing speaks to you.

[Asker]

I don't get what you're getting at?

[AustinMan]

Just that. A lot of women are submissive sexually and get turned on by what turns their Dom on or just from the power exchange. It seems you're not part of that number. I'm not criticizing, just commenting. We all have to do what makes us happy though sometimes what makes our other happy is more important.

[Anonymous]

If it makes you that uncomfortable then he should definitely not be trying to coerce you to do it. Talk to him about that, if he doesn't stop or if you just can't deal, dump his ass.

[boggboss]

Your boyfriend's a freak ahahahahahahahahah that's hilarious

[Finchie40]

Yea that is a weird fetish and I would be freaked out as well if i was with a girl that wanted me to fart on her. That is a nasty fetish that would make me want the leave the relationship as well. ewwww just thinking about it is gross , if it accidentally happened during sex I could understand that we r human and we all fart but to request it during that's fowl next he will ask you to shit on him , Get out that relationship lol

[Asker]

I'm weirded out to say the least but when I asked him why he likes it, he said it's because it's such a taboo for girls to fart in front of anyone & he likes being the exception to the rule. He prefers it to happen on accident because of how embarrassed the girl looks and he finds it cute. I find it bizarre and a little unsettling...

[Finchie40]

When a girl farts it doesn't really bother me , it's a natural thing that can occur but I wouldn't want my girl farting on me to turn me on I know everyone has a somewhat weird fetish but that one is beyond lol my little fetish is girls feet in sexy shoes which is pretty common but farting not so much lol

[Asker]

I wish my boyfriend had a foot/shoe fetish instead lol :) I wouldn't mind that and would even have some fun with it because I keep my feet pretty lol

[Finchie40]

My kind of girl lol

[howlyz]

so do you have any fetishes maybe and would you share that with us just to make a comparison to your boyfriends fetish?

[Asker]

Nope lol :) I don't have any fetishes that are out of the ordinary lol. Just that I enjoy a good massage every once in a while

[howlyz]

my thoughts on this would be, maybe try to find a compromise between reasoning your boyfriend and indulging him, like somewhere in the middle (if you find it that is is worth it to keep him, maybe he got a little bit carried away in the heat oh the moment (s) think of it as if this is the worst thing that you would need to deal with about him you know, like, you know all is relative, so maybe there is worst things out there with some other guys (I don't know), just a thought

[FakeName123]

This is probably a joke, so I just gonna leave this here:

https://i.imgur.com/cFBg26P.gif

[MelaninDoll]

I would have laughed my ass off!! ole dude is a keeper.

[ChandelierBoing]

He's a man of culture

[zsavagef]

First it's farting next it's shitting

[Asker]

So beyond gross lol I have no idea why he likes it and I'm not the one to satisfy his needs aha

[Avvar]

Tell him that you don't want to do It. If he loves you he will respect your wish.

[Anonymous]

Just be happy that you have someone who can tolerate your odors. But, yes, it's pretty freakin weird of him lol