I wouldn't tell him that you're a virgin just yet (that could make him more eager to have sex with you), but you can make it clear that you want to take things slowly, which he will interpret as you being in no hurry to have sex. Rather than confronting him and asking him what his intentions are (because you may not get a truthful answer), you simply make him wait and tell him that you need to get to know him better before having sex with him, should the subject come up.
You can expect that any guy you meet on Tinder, even if he is open to a relationship or explicity wants one, expects to have sex with you. You have the right idea when it comes to losing your virginity to a boyfriend, not some casual hookup and not doing something you don't feel comfortable doing.1 0 0 0That’s also a good idea, only issue is that I don’t know how patient he is. I mean I can definetly draw things out - I was with an 18 yr old guy for almost 2 years and I made him wait. Poor guy waited for nothing
OK, that was way too long, and, as you realize now, very unfair to him. I guess the question then is, how long until you are comfortable having sex with this new guy?
Yeah it definetly wasn’t fair. Something pretty traumatic happened to me when I was younger - nothing too serious happened- but now I feel like im ready to- but probably not with a guy who’s just looking for a casual hook up!
I admire your strong mindset on what you want and don't want.
I'm going to be real. People on Tinder are either broken, weird, crazy, single parents, bored or horny. 1% are actually looking for something serious and are a catch. He does expect sex. It's not bad but once you've had sex, it comes easier than your first time. You should be straightforward with him. There is nothing wrong with that. Better to say it now than being put into a real life position where you feel pressured into losing your virginity to him out of just sheer awkwardness.
I honestly hope he is a nice guy and understands and take it how you want it to be like. Best of luck! I wish for everything you wish for!1 0 0 0This was nice & helpful thank you!
I'm glad. Sorry if I was being negative. The world is as it is, can't change that. I do hope he's a good one!
No I agree! I mean he says he’s on tinder bc he doesn’t get to meet many girls but at the same time he also says he goes out almost every night.. so we'll see!
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0 8You shouldn't be afraid to express your feelings. This is something extremely important to you, so by all means tell him. Hopefully he respects you. I can't say what his intentions truly are. All I can say is that I think it would be beneficial to tell him. Give him a chance to make it special, so at least if things don't work out, you can say that your first time went well. Which is more then what most of us get to say. Also, try not to feel ashamed about how you met him. This is 2018, times are different. There's no need to feel embarrassed, own it.
1 0 0 0This is so lovely ! Thank you you’re right !
If he is a player that won't matter as he will agree to it to get sex u stating what u want like that won't change what someone's intentions are
2 0 0 0Exactly what I’m afraid of, he’s being really nice now but my problem is figuring him out to see whether he geniunaly likes me. I just don’t know him well enough though
If ya don't know him well enough get to know him there us no test or thing you can do to see if he feels for you how u want only you can be the judge of that
That’s true ! Only problem is that indon’t think there’s much time to get to know him considering we’ve had 3 dates
You should be straight forward and say want you want yes. Your virginity is your business only! So that's completely optional if you tell him that or not. To ask him what he's looking for, I've been asked that on the first date, so yes absolutely ask and it's not too soon AT ALL! Try not to over think this. Breathe! lol And sex after how many dates? This totally depends on the people and relationship. They are all different and you can't place a specific number to it. It can be the first date (I have before) or several dates. It's when you are both comfortable and ready for it.
1 0 0 0A lot of people also make assumptions of the people that are on Tinder and you can't do that because they are everyday people. No different than someone you might meet on the street. The ONLY way to know their intentions is to ask them! And hopefully they are honest with you. But that's a risk we ALL take with everyone, no matter how you meet them.
This is very true! I mean you could meet someone at a bar & they could still turn out to be nasty in the end. You never know, fingers crossed he’s not a total a-hole :’)
Lmao! You met him on Tinder and hope its true love? you're only fooling yourself cause i guarantee he expects sex and i can almost guarantee he'll be gone shortly thereafter. In case you didn't know, Tinder is a well known 'hook-up' site. Thats all it is. Can more happen? Sure! The likelihood of finding true love on a site where 98% of the members KNOW its just a hook-up site, may 1-2%? Just set the bar low, wxpect gim to leave after he gets it and anyrhing after that will be considered a bonus!!
0 1 0 0I don’t expect anything at all. All i want is that we're both on the same page in terms of expectations- like if his intentions are purely sexual only id like to know that before I sleep with him so I can at least know what I’m getting into & take that into consideration
I feel as if even though tinder is known as a hook up site, it’s still normal to want to be on the same page with someone
Honesty is best. Just remember even if your honest there's no guarantee he will be. Wait as long as you feel comfortable as you only get one go to lose it
1 0 0 0it depends how big and important it is to u for me the least the better and yes u should obviously tell him u r a virgin
0 0 0 0Sex after Marriage
0 0 0 0But what if you married someone who was bad at sex?
@Eenieakane ahahah yeah exactly. If you’re not sexually compatible then that would suck. I’m all about sharing that with someone who you think you’ll be with long term but you gotta know before you get married lol
That's just ridiculous you get married first and you both teach each other. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard fornicating before sex and the excuses is i need to know first if they're good or not. So if they're not good then what do you do cut them out of your life forever? That's just stupid that's a sorry excuse just so you can fornicate with anyone at any given time of your life
Like 5 dates and yes you should tell him
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