Would you give your partner a “hall pass”?

So I’m in an open relationship with my boyfriend. He’s in Thailand at the moment lol I trust him to tell me and be safe no matter who he sleeps with. Anyway when he was there he met a woman, who was upset at a bar, because she’d given her husband a hall pass to fulfil a fantasy... she was letting him have sex with a prostitute even tho she didn’t want it... Would you ever do this for your partner? If so would you actually be okay with it?
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  • I wouldn't let my wife do things I'm not okay with. However, as it turns out, I would in fact be okay with her sleeping with other guys. In fact, I'm the type of guy who gets turned on by this thing. So, I've told my wife that she can sleep with other men as long as she tells me about it. She first thought I want to be in an open relationship but that's not exactly it. I'm fine with remaining monogamous... so the relationship would only be "half-open". Ironically, my wife doesn't want to do anything although she has my explicit encouragement and permission. Even when she admits that some other guys looks handsome, she would tell me something like "I could never imagine having sex with anyone else than you... the thought makes me feel weird." We were both virgins before we got to know each other.

  • It all depends on the person. If your in an open relationship or in a three-way or even in a 4-way with another couple, it all depends on your self confidence and how you perceive sex.

    Personally I would give a pass, I don't see sex as special or emotional and so if my other half really wanted to get off on a fantasy come true then I say go for it but use protection and don't forget me if I come around with a fantasy fulfilling itch... 😉 ...
    Oh and there couldn't be any rules against watching 😉.

    To be honest I think open relationships or at least a three way deal even if its different people you both pick together is healthier than banking all or nothing on a one-on-one relationship forever.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I could never resort myself in giving my partner a guilt free pass. Reason being is that I personally view sex as more than just a physical bond but also an emotional interaction and intimacy to be able to be vunrable with someone. Before I get into a serious relationship, morals and values of what I expect out of a relationship are laid out so that there are clear boundaries of what I'm okay and not okay with.

  • I’d agree but that’s on the degree that we both get that same freedom. And that what ever rules we make (to talk about it together/to never mention it) gets kept then it would be fine by me. However I would much prefer to bring someone into the relationship or a couple for us to all do together sexual fun rather then separate. X

  • Never ever. If he had some urges so bad to be with other women that he would actually ask for a hall pass then he doesn’t need a hall pass, then it is over between me and him and he can go be with whomever he wishes. But if he is with me he is with me like i am faithful and loyal to him i expect the same.

  • Hell no... I would never do this. You are crazy for agreeing to this. It sounds like you are going to end up with an std.

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  • I would totally be okay with it. I have ground rules like don't knock anyone up or bring home an STD, but other than that no worries,

    • that's exactly how i feel. i'm also fine is my SO has a boyfriend on the side

  • If I didn't want it then NO, we both have to be on the same page or else it'll only end poorly.

  • If it meant avoiding a messy divorce I would consider it.

  • I am not in an open relationship. I am dating and, when I make a commitment to date exclusively, sex then becomes a part of our relationship. It is a means of expressing affection and becoming closer to my partner; my partner and I share that attitude about the role of sex. So. . . why would I want her expressing affections and becoming closer to someone else?

    In other words. . . hell, no!

  • Hmmm I can say whatever I want now, but in that moment, I wouldn't know how I would be with it. An open relationship is different because you both agreed to it and on terms you are well aware of. That couple sounds like they are in a different situation and probably should have talked about it more between the two of them.

  • My partners and I are poly and pretty open. We're always honest with each other and seek consent both with each other and other people before pursuing anything. As such, I think your situation sounds fine, but the lady crying in the bar has some disconnect in their relationship. If she let him but didn't want him to, was she honest about her feelings and reasoning? Was her partner insistent or manipulative? Heck, if I was in Thailand I'd be interested to have sex with a Thai prostitute... But if either of my partners said they were uncomfortable, I wouldn't. They come first.

  • No, not at all. I wouldn't be able to get past it.

  • What for? We already have an open relationship.

  • Absolutely not. Not how I'd want my relationship

  • I would never give a "hall pass", nor would I want one. I don't share my woman, and she doesn't share me.

  • He's in Thailand? Lol he's probably fucking an 8 year old as we speak

  • I don't know because I'm in open relationships normally.

  • I wouldn't do what she did and I wouldn't do what you're doing. I'm selfish like that.

  • Hell. No. I’m too possessive for that shit

  • I don't think it should rely on a hall pass or not.. I think couples that want to be together and make sexual goals together... Fulfills them together with both of an equal agreement. My parents been married for 20+ years.. And when they opened the creativity they experienced things together... If you feel you need a hallpass then you are technically putting a timer on your relationship! And once it dings 0 ... It dies.

    I say that because that hall pass would be on your mind forever, always finding something to compare to, sometimes feeling just you alone wasn't good enough, I mean...

    If you are going to be in a relationship stop playing games and be real with eachother. Be fair be equal and if you decide on things do it together. Period.

  • Non non non. If he desires to fuck other girls, he belongs in the friendzone.

  • Well, I am in an open relationship as well, but if I wasn't I would give him a "hall pass".

  • Even the thought of another guy being inside a girl that I'd be sleeping with is nearly debilitating. No way in hell I'd allow that.

  • If you give a person a Hall Pass then who is to say that they'll just abuse that power and do it all the time outside of the constraints of the Hall Pass. What a dumb idea...

  • yes i would

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