friends with benefits keeps saying "I love you" during sex?

When he first said it I thought it was a heat of the moment type of deal but now he says it every time and it confuses me. Why does he say it? Also, we don't see each other much anymore but he knows he doesn't have to lie about liking me to keep me around.
0 0

Most Helpful Guys

  • Y'all aren't friends with benefits to him. That's not how he sees the relationship.

    Or the sex is great and loves the sex itself, but probably you too to a certain extent for granting him access to your body. Talk to him about it and see what he says.

  • He might not mean it.

    It might just be a turn-on for him to say it during sex.

    Just like some women like to call a guy "Daddy" during sex.

    • It must be a new one because we've been seeing each other for almost 10 years 😅

    • Maybe he's trying to spice things up. Or maybe he really loves you. Or maybe he's imagining that he's f***ing someone else, and he's saying it to HER. Has his behavior toward you changed besides that?

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sex is one those times when a rush of words can come out because of the intensity of feelings being felt at the time. If he's never said it outside of sex, then I would ask him why he does say it during.

  • Invariable in a friends with benefits situation, at least one person catches feelings. In this instance, it appears to be him. What do you want to do about that?

  • I had a friends with benefits and trust me it’s all about communication and being completely honest with eachother so talk to him about it.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

4 27
  • Is he saying it every time during sex? Or every time you guys are around each other?

  • He says it because he means it.

  • During sex means nothing. He loves how you make his body feel, I've had waaay too many hookups get serious because I let those three words slip during the snogathon.
    Get worried when he starts doing random stuff to show his love rather than keep your freakshow on the down low.

  • He has a crush on you.

  • It sounds like he caught deep feelings for you.

  • It's either in the best of the moment or he loves you. Just ask him.

  • I got myself in very deep shit doing that, really I was saying because every human needs love even if they can't have a relationship and no the girl has feelings and I feel dumb

    • Now*

  • It's just the moment. Nothing more. If during the act guys call it bitch or girl calling him you dog than it doesn't mean they actually means it.

  • His balls might love you and getting off has made him lose all self-control. Sex is like kryptonite to some people.

  • I've said it and had it said to but it was meaningless.

  • Im not sure about him but with me i can't have sex with someone I can't have a emotional connection with so maybe he feels a good emotional connection with you

  • Because he loves you.

  • maybe it just turns him on or he doesn't know what else to say. i mean it can be an expression of it feeling good to him.

  • Ask him

  • He really loves u. just a question. how does friends with benefits work. does anyone initiate or u just tell u want to have sex

  • In the moment there is a lot of love and connection. Best thing is to talk about it

  • The only positive way I can think of it is if its just a fantasy thing.
    Like he like the idea of banging a girl he loves.

    Or he's in love. "Head for the hills lads"

  • He could just be caught in the moment and is subconsciously referring to loving the situation

  • Maybe he loves you, isn't that the most obvious and probably likely reason

  • It sounds like he loves the sex and expresses it by saying he loves you. On the other hand, he may really love you. You should talk to him about it.

  • Show More (11)