Is 2 weeks too soon to have sex with a guy?

Question

Been dating a guy 2 weeks, have had several dates, one dinner date, just drink dates. 4 in total. He’s invited to his home for a takeaway. I’ve only been seeing him for 2 weeks.
I do fancy him and I’d like to see if we are a sexual match, however I don’t want to put him off me if I sleep with him to quickly.
Does this really matter to guys, especially as we get older. Being over 40, I don’t want to waste time but don’t want to look too easy either..

HereIbe · Accepted Answer

What is your goal? Let me guess, you don't have a clue. I will bet you don't have a single frackalackin' clue what your goal is with this guy, you're just piddling and diddling around. My advice:

Step back and step away from the bottle of Man until you decide definitely what your goal is. Once you have done so, then plan all actions around that goal.

Is your goal marriage? Then make it about that, up front and from the beginning--that doesn't mean demand a proposal at first meeting, make it plain that marriage is what you are looking for. It will scare off the flies.

Is your goal just having some laughs? Okay, make that plain, too, but don't be upset when a guy believes you and doesn't like it if you pull a bait-and-switch on him and get "serious".

Is your goal that you don't have a clue but can't handle not dating someone? Okay, silly and messed up, but it's a goal. Again, be honest and up-front about it.

Right now, though, your question reveals that you are without a goal, without a direction, and without a rudder. You are basically set up to have lots of misery.

Metaanio · Accepted Answer

Look, there is no such thing as 'sleeping too early', if he will have sex with you but leaves after sex, he wasn't ever after anything else than sex.

If he likes you, and your personality and looks, he wants to have sex with you, but he can wait because he believes you are worth it.

So do as you like, but if he dumbs you after sex, he wasn't really into you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In my experience, and I’ve had several sex partners, sex usually happens after 3-5 dates. I think your time frame here is not unusual. I say go for it. I think the odds are high he is thinking the same thing you are right now.

HUNTRESS800X · Accepted Answer

Yes, that's way too soon! I was in a relationship with a boy for nearly two months (didn't have sex with him) and it crashed and burned for reasons not involving sex. Now he avoids me like the plague.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

seculars trouble their minds with all those false needs and insecurities. for us its only after marriage. simple as that.

acooke-13 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't give it a time scale, just whenever you're ready I suppose!

ShyGuy30 · Answer

If it happens, it happens but don’t go into that date with the mindset of “I have to sleep with him tonight”

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Make sure you are both on the same page first.

CanaDude37 · Answer

Sex should never make or break the relationship. If you think he is only after sex, male him wait. If he sticks around, he wants more than just a quick snog.

chezburgr · Answer

If you both feel that's it's right, then there's no reason to wait longer.

GuysConfuseMeMan · Answer

Have sex with him whenever you want as long as he wants it too.

Bananaman177 · Answer

You want to just have the sex first and then keep your fingers crossed and hope you don't fall out of love with him later. No wonder you're still actively dating in your 40's.

Prof_Don · Answer

If the vibe is there, i say go for it! :)

Wollu · Answer

The earlier the better. From my perspective as a guy.

ou7erspace · Answer

Wouldn't you have a better idea of what you want at age 40 and not have to go on four dates then not know what you want at age 20 and have to go on four dates I would think the older you get the quicker it would take. In my mind 2 days but I'm a guy