Do you prefer hard sex or gentle sex?

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nightdrot · Accepted Answer

It depends on the mood.

There is no doubt. There are times when I want to hold my girlfriend, look into her eyes, tell her I love her. When I feel myself inside my girlfriend; when I feel her naked skin next to mine; when I see the look of pleasure and love on her face and we share a kiss, I feel more connected to her, more in love, more devoted to her than I ever believe I could to any other person. In those moments she is everything to me.

Then there are times when I need to be an animal. When I expect that she will submit her body to me and that she is there to service me. I cum all over her - face, tits, hair. She has told me she likes it and even compared it to an animal marking his territory. (Honestly, I hadn't thought of it that way before.) She has told me she likes it because it makes her feel possessed and safe under my control. (Her words.)

It is missionary me on top or her sucking my d*** when we are romantic. When hard, it is me mounting her from behind, f***ing her doggy style, humping her, or anal or me going down on her.

Sometimes she is the dominant - not often, but sometimes the role reversal is a turn on. Then she will keep me naked and on all fours, milking me like a cow. Tying me up.

Suffice to say, I could go on. The bottom line is that my girlfriend and I are open and adventurous. For us sex is a blend of the love we deeply share and our most base animal instincts. To make love and to breed.

You really can't pick one over the other, since they are both part of who we are.

Interesting little sidenote, though, a couple of studies by the Kinsey Institute and Victoria University in Australia found that men are more likely to prefer romantic sex to hard sex than women. Who knew? Throws the stereotype into the heap, and of course the stats are tendencies, not metaphysical absolutes.

All I can say is that for my girlfriend and I - and we have been together for 12 years, living together for ten, and have three children together, the first two being unplanned but happy little surprises - we just don't prefer both. We need both. We are both lovers and primal animals. Not one or the other.

markscott · Accepted Answer

Depends on the mood of each of us. If we're in a mellow mood, then slow - at least until we get to the wanting to fuck hard.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Got to mix it up to make it great. Soft romantic sex is by far my favorite, but there are times I love it when my pussy gets pounded good and hard.

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

Fuck the shit out of me. Slow and gentle is like watching someone trying to cum in slow-motion.

Tammy94 · Accepted Answer

I prefer gentle. It makes me feel loved as well as spiritually connected to my boyfriend.

Neyila · Accepted Answer

depends on who it is. if it's christian grey, fuck me hard daddy! ;))))))

michelle3685 · Answer

Hard with a guy, more sensuous with a woman.

ShoeGirl24 · Answer

Gentle sex when your really enjoying each other. Hard and passionate if your excited

mooky06 · Answer

Both is cool with me

PrincessPie · Answer

I prefer Hard.

EmmaMary · Answer

Variety is the spice of life.

cherryphi82 · Answer

Gentle

ten_tonne · Answer

Start of soft and build my way up. If the girl starts to look like its too much then cool it off a bit. Every session is different so depends on the feeling and mood at the time

Sandie75 · Answer

I would be in the middle, not too hard and not too gentle. Sportive sex I like

Milandoingthings · Answer

Starting up slow, then increase the pace. So it will be both :-)

hieco · Answer

I think it's important to have both in your life.

tampaxgirl · Answer

Both. Be gentle at 1st and them fuck me hard.

jrallen175 · Answer

Don't waste your time @Sandie75. He's a fictitious character in the fifty shades series that gives people the wrong idea what bdsm is. I mean, it starts off well enough I suppose, until he rapes her.