How do I get my boyfriend to finish from oral sex?

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Im going to get a little personal but I have never been able to make my boyfriend cum from oral sex. He was the first guy I have ever done anything with -even kissed, so I was new at everything! - but I tried my best. He has about a 7 inch penis, maybe 8 when he is extremely aroused. What I usually do is take about 4 or 5 inches in and go up and down and occasionally I will take in the full 7 or 8 inches. I can't "deep throat" for the entire time because I will gag and thats something I have been working on by sticking my toothbrush down my throat every morning and practicing my gag reflex. Also, I really enjoy giving him oral sex and I always give it my all but he only recently started making any noise at all and not once has he ever came from oral sex. I tried keeping my tongue curved the entire time which I heard is more pleasuruable than a straight tongue, I tried to not touch him with my teeth and only do a light grazing on rare occasions. I tried using a lot of spit, letting him push my head down. He has "throat fucked" me and I can do that for about a minute before it gets to be too much then I will push on his stomach to make him stop. Im trying my best because a lot of people saying that they can make their boyfriends cum from oral sex and I can't. Also its the same with sex. I mean he cums, usually multiple times a night. But it takes him forever to cum. I always wonder if he is enjoying it even though Im always wet and we dont use condoms it takes him almost 2 hours to cum most of the time. And then every time after he cums the first time takes maybe 30 to 45 minutes. I ask him if he enjoys it and his response is always "I wouldn't have came so much if I didn't 😁" with the grin and everything. But I can't help but feel like Im not doing it right. What can I do to improve or make him cum faster. I mean dont get me wrong Im not complaining I love taking our time but sometimes I just want to blow his mind.

skullwulf · Accepted Answer

Most all these replays are good ones! But I know that some guys when learning to masturbate either learn to cum by touching their shaft or massaging their prostate. That doesn't mean sticking their finger up their ass it just means they squeeze their ass cheeks or a thump their hand on their balls or push down at the base of their penis more than others. This means they are trained to get off with that kind of stimuli. And makes it harder to get off when they're not banging against something or sticking their finger up their ass. I would try bumping your hand at his base when you're giving him head or rubbing kind of roughly under his balls on that part of his shaft. Or massages his prostate it's not as weird as you would think. And coming in the morning can make it hard to get off at night. So maybe have him not cum for a day or two and then just go at he like never before. I also saw you said he only moans rarely. It is sexy for you to ask for the moaning tell him you want to know that he like it! You might get more than you bargained for LOL.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

It took as long for you to write this as a good BJ should last. 10 minutes.
There are 3 steps. Use both your mouth and hands.
*Start with an erotic massage to get him hard and flowing "precum". *Then, during the "work up". toward orgasm, bob and suck at the head of his penis while stroking in sync with one hand and massaging his balls with the other. Maintain a consistent rhythm and don't slow or pause.
*When he starts to buck and breathe hard, he wants to cum. Go "frantic", bobbing and sucking faster and stroking the shaft independently as fast as you can. When he starts to cum, stop bobbing but keep straight sucking and stroking until ejaculation ends. The whole event can take only 10 minutes if he's horny and extend to 15 or 20 if you extend the erotic massage. Seems simple enough but it always works for me A really excellent blow job is rare and wonderful and, in my opinion, makes a guy feel loved like nothing else.

MeganForreal · Accepted Answer

Is he on drugs, men who take drugs usually can't get off without extended fucking/stimulation

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

Read this articles.  Hope it Helps.

Tuned · Answer

Does he masturbate? It takes longer to cum a second time in a short timespan so maybe he masturbates beforehand, maybe even meant to do so in order to last longer and not be embarressed if he comes quickly lmao

Billy96 · Answer

Sound's like ur doing everything just fine.. its got to be him...
I agree could be a side effect from antidepressant.. i read it messes up the ejactulation process and delays it but I don't know im not a doctor ( i only play one on tv) jk.. good luck hope it can be fixed...

20yearsolder · Answer

Focus on working the head, you can stroke the shaft with your hand

Cuintan · Answer

Maybe it's his problem, not yours.

fsu19 · Answer

The only girl who couldn't make me finish kept using her teeth. It could be that he can't cum from that

0112358 · Answer

You’re doing much more than most women already. He just has a very slow trigger.

bowenw · Answer

He could be bashful about it and needs encouragement to go all the way in your mouth. Try saying things like you want him to shoot his load into your mouth, or you can't wait to taste his cum and how you want to swallow all of it. Holding the base of the shaft to keep the skin tight may also help. If you watch porn together, tell him while you're watching that you want to try swallowing like they do in the movies. If none of these ideas work, ask him to jerk off into your mouth so he can see that you really enjoy it, how good it tastes, and how badly want to swallow. Tell him several times what you want him to do during lovemaking so he's psyched-up and ready, and even beforehand such as when you're out on a date.

Booboo210 · Answer

Don't just suck his cock do the balls and his ass hole swallow the cum

Wollu · Answer

What are your hands doing?

vinnyAlo · Answer

I agree with most people here. It seem he is the problem not you.

malealpha00 · Answer

you need to have him f**k your throat for longer - if you choke its no big deal. if you keep stopping then you are not giving him enough time to cum. I usually grab hold of a chick's head with one of my hands on the front of her neck and keep throat f**king her until I cum - works everytime.

Hectorrr · Answer

Work the head of the Dick go in circle with your palm or thumb right over the hole she your tongue to circle around it and press in it kind. Use your hands to massage his balls and grab them. Lick up and down the shaft. And try gagging he might like it. Hope that works for you

benjaminashton · Answer

Is he addicted to drugs? How old is he and also you? Did his dick gets maximum erection while giving him bj? DO YOU TRY to suck dick as if you wanne milk his cum out?

dragon9669 · Answer

Perhaps he's jerking off before you get to him so his hormones aren't as active? What you've described would have my load in your mouth in no more than 10 minutes

Delroy1995 · Answer

It also take some a while to cum as well even longer than your boyfriend, with oral no girl has ever made me cum from oral, I personally don't think it's a big deal

Mikey805 · Answer

Sounds like you need to beat him off as you are sucking just keep stroking that cock as you suck it I’m in the same boat hard to cum but when she used her hand at the same time it helps

Mohamed_Hamdy · Answer

Oral sex is disgusting and can transmit many diseases take care

Anonymous · Answer

Play with his balls finger his ass

Anonymous · Answer

It's him, not you. Lots of guys including me can't climax from orally, at least not if I am being passive. It's still very pleasurable, so keep doing it. If you really want him to climax from oral sex, then learn to suppress your gag reflex so he can thrust into your mouth without causing him to gag. That will probably do the trick.

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