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How does anyone handle anal sex?

I am not almuch of a anal Gal but I would do it for the person I'm with if he or she wanted it but it hurts so bad so how do I handle the pain? lol
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  • It shouldn't be painful (unless the guy is huge, and then, maybe it's not the best idea) - but you can't go from 0 to 100 instantly.

    Unfortunately, too many guys think that what they see in porn - when the guy walks up and jams his cock into her ass - is how it works in real life. What they DON'T know is that the girl spent 30 minutes warming up with toys, slowly stretching until her bigger toy fit with little or no pain. It's a PROCESS, and it requires patience. Over time, the process goes more quickly if done regularly, but it's still a process.

    When girls have expressed interest in/willingness to try anal with me, it's often 2 or 3 sessions with just fingers or toys - no penis - to allow her the time to get used to what's going on. Even when she is ready for a penis, there's still warm-up with fingers/toys and lube. And different girls warm up at different rates - and there have even occasionally been times when a girl, even one who does it regularly, just isn't able to relax, and it's best to move on to something else that day.

    This is why it's important to do this with a partner that you've known a while, and with whom you've built up TRUST and COMMUNICATION - because if you don't have that, and can't trust him to be patient, pay attention, and listen to your feedback, it's not going to be the pleasant, pleasurable experience that it COULD be for you. If the guy is selfish, inexperienced, or just doesn't pay attention to things, then anal probably needs to be taken off the menu.

    Again, if the guy has a huge cock, there's probably not much you can do - but that's likely to be a problem with only about 5% of guys. For the rest, they just need to put in the work and effort to make it a good experience for you, and focus on YOUR pleasure rather than their own, until you tell them otherwise.

    I'll link to this also:

    What's the best way to do anal sex for the first time? ↗

Most Helpful Girls

  • I am a gay man and an exclusive bottom who just loves getting fucked in the ass. If done right, anal sex does not really hurt much, but can be a great source of pleasure for the person receiving it.

    The key to success is physical and mental preparation. The physical part requires a clean hole and a lot of lubrication... The mental part is about relaxing your body and your asshole. Once your hole relaxes, it can stretch beyond your wildest imagination to help take your man's cock into you...

    A butt-plug may also help. This has been one of my biggest helpers to stretch my hole in order to be able to accommodate guys with really thick cocks. To that end, I'd recommend starting with a small enough plug that you can wear at the beginning. But, it should still be thick enough so you can feel the walls of your asshole stretching a little. After wearing that for a few days, you can gradually move to the next larger size, and then increase the size of the plug to really thick ones that you could not have accommodated at the beginning. This way, I've been able to enjoy really humongous cocks in my ass. I sure hope you will, as well!..

    Finally, don’t worry if you have not really tried tried it and don’t fear it at all. There is a first time for everything. If you want, you can PM me and I’ll tell you about my first time getting fucked in the ass. I too had once believed I was a straight man until I got a cock in me. I loved it so much that I realized all the interest I thought I had towards girls vanished quickly. I’ve never had sex with any women afterwards, it’s all cock for me now.

    Please feel free to write back if you have any more questions. Good luck!..

  • You work up to it through the use of toys till you reach the equivalent to the size of the penis your partner has or your comfortable with. Or you can learn to relax and use lots of lube. And there are other many ways you have to find out what your willing to do.

  • It will get better, you need to relax (easier said than done I know) and trust your guy. If it doesn’t work try poppers.

    • What's poppers, the drug?

    • Yeah, I think you can get it legally though, at least in my country.

    • Is it possible to do it without the drugs, like lots of patience and baby oil :D

  • Have a read here. It might help:

    What to expect during anal sex? ↗

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  • Get a butt plug. If your soul is willing to participate in the activity. It will go deep enough for pleasure, hold you open and prepare you for future penetration.

  • The more you do it, the less it will hurt. It's like working out any other muscle.

  • Take it slow and use lots of lube.

  • Lots and lots of lube. Also start with a toy that's smaller or a couple fingers. Anal is something that you need to go slow with and make sure she is stretched out a little and has plenty of lubrication. If done right it can be very pleasurable

  • If they cared about you they'd not ask you to do it if you are in pain. They should at least lay off and let you heal up a bit before they ask again.

  • There are products that you can buy at a sex shop to help numb that area. You're welcome

  • If it hurts too much, you should ask him not to go full fledged. Your ass need some time to adapt to his dick. Maybe he should butt-plug you first so you get accomodated. Also lots of lubrication is required for narrow gals.

  • First, be relaxed. Have a lot of lube in hand, ass can't lube itself like vagina. Ask ur partner to take as slow as possible. Before that a lot of foreplay is required, u have to be set in the mood for it...

  • It will get better the more you do it. You just need to trust your partner 100%

  • Like anything else, it get's easier with practice.

  • Yeah, honestly as long as the guy uses lube and doesn't rush it, you should be fine.

  • Don't do it.

  • I think there are several keys to non-painful (and even pleasurable) anal. Relaxation is important. That's why anal needs to be approached slowly and maybe over several sessions. Start with something small like a finger or a small diameter dildo and work your way up to something the diameter of your man's penis. Also, showering and maybe an enema prior to anal activity will help you not worry about hygiene and let you relax. The next key is lube. There's no natural lube in the anus so you'll need to add some. Be generous with the lube. Lastly, you need to control the pace until you are comfortable. Don't let your guy get too aggressive until you are ready for it.

    Hope this helps.

  • I am not even sure why guys like it. I guess some woman love the pain like bdsm.

  • My friend James say use lots of KY jelly.

  • Oil and a lot of pleasure before with weed will be more easier

  • Use more luve & take it very slowly..

    • Lube

  • No clue. Never tried giving or receiving.

  • It's the wrong hole. That's why it hurts, it's supposed to hurt. That whole is to get rid of things not receive.

  • First try with your fingers and make your hole bigger. Then everything will be fine.

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