Why can’t girls understand that men can have preferences when it comes to your sexual past?

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Enough with the downvotes. Enough with the endless “it’s in the past it shouldn’t matter”.

Its not up to you what matters or not. If a dude doesn’t wanna go near a slut or slut shame then that’s that. You made bad decisions, that is your fault. NO ONE HAS TO ACCEPT YOU BECAUSE OF IT.

Own up to it and find a dude who has been around just like you.

Some people find it disgusting and that’s what it truly is. Stop trying to change that mindset. It’s not “freedom” it’s just plain gross.

Make better choices in life and stop trying to justify your hoe behaviours by it was a “phase” or some sh*t like that.

taleswapper · Accepted Answer

Why can't some guys realize that not everyone is as small minded as dudes like that? No one cares what the little peckerheads want; they're just whiny little poseurs who think their opinion matters. REAL guys know better. They LIKE the sluts, because those are the girls that know how to please a man, unlike some dead-fish woman in her 40's who's been "saving herself" all this time. no one has to even listen to those guys.

When they own up to the fact that it's their own sense of inadequacy, and fear of being compared to REAL men, that drives this opinion, they're give it up, or find that 40 year old virgin. That's the "freedom" they really want; to find a girl with no experience, who won't see them in a bad light.

They (the shamers and the naysayers) are disgusting little perverts, and that's the truth. The idea of them EVER having sex is just plain gross.

Make better choices in life. don't be afraid of your sexuality, or how you compare. It's as gift, given to you by mother Nature, not something to be ashamed of. Your pervert ways are holding you back, and it always will.

PatrickJames · Accepted Answer

I'm on the line for this one, some people don't really care too much about peoples past which is cool... but there is also nothing wrong with some people they aren't ok with your past.

Ultimately it all comes down to how much of the persons past you can tolerate.

If the person was extremely hoeish then in the words of Simon Cowell "It's a no from me"

Quick story: I went to a friends birthday party where my friend was going to introduce us all to his girlfriend he was keeping secret... long story short, when she showed up the whole party became very awkward n tense, turns out half the guys at the party had already slept with her... felt real bad for my friend.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone has their own deficiencies. What kind of a sinless pure saint are you that you can judge a woman for her sexual past and feel like they are too bad for you?

How the hell can you call them gross for this one reason? I don't like promiscuous act either but it's too much that you would call someone gross because of it! Again, as if you never do a bad thing in life? Because I clearly see your arrogance in this post, which is honestly worse than being promiscuous.

And people who repent for what they did in past exist. People who do not make the same mistakes anymore exist and women who have grown to become more sophisticated exist. In that case you have zero excuse to tell her shit like that.

Learn to be humble. That arrogance is not going to take you anywhere.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If I slept with a ton of guys and my man now said he doesn't like that I'd understand suppose. I mean it's just common to want someone who hasn't been around the block a lot; regardless of gender. But I mean if he had fucked a bunch of people I'd tell him to miss me with that bullshit. One thing I won't allow is someone with a similar body count to say they don't mess with people with a high number. That's being a hypocrite. Other than that I have no problems and understand what you're saying. I don't think a high body count has to mean you're a hoe though lol. Promiscuous maybe, but hoe might be a little much in some situations. But I mean I'm not sure I can speak about it since my first and last is the love of my life right now.

9teen · Accepted Answer

I couldn't have said it better. Honestly, it annoys me so much looking at the irrational shit coming out of their mouths.
Not to mention, it's not insecurity, the preference is biologically related. A good wife/mother isn't a slut. Studies have shown that the divorce rate (cheating is the reason) amongst women who have been promiscuous in the past are the highest. It's because their bonding system got messed up because they've released a certain hormone, which causes a woman to bond, with different other guys.
It's biological and it can't be changed. Most guys wouldn't really respect a slut let alone wife them.
Note that slut means a promiscuous woman according to the dictionary.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well most women have the same preference when it comes to men. There is nothing wrong with having standards. I personally wouldn't want to date a guy who slept around with many girls, but it's not like I expect him to be a virgin saint either.

Account · Answer

I do not give a fuck, unless you are a hypocrite.

MlleCake · Answer

Why can't men understand that they don't define us?

UnaKaizen · Answer

you have to understand women dont care if you care. you keep yelling at women to care. if you care go ahead and care but stop demanding women take notice.
i dont care if a guy had a lot of sex and if he did and didn't want me if i had a lot of sex then i would not mind him being bothered i would not want him,

i dont reduce people to their private life decisions that harm no one and dont want a partner who has issues.

Izumiblu · Answer

I think the majority of people understand this.  On the other hand that doesn’t mean that women are going to be influenced by your selection criteria cuz quite frankly most guys aren’t very picky.

sign_language · Answer

I couldn’t agree more

Hurlyburly · Answer

I do agree with you. But if a guy who fucks with different women each weekend expects his future wife to be a virgin then thats just pure hypocrisy. I wouldn't want a manwhore for a partner either.

jack187625 · Answer

I get that some men might want less experienced women, that's fine and all up to them.

Doesn't mean they have the right to abuse women who don't fit in with there ideals. If so then why not bully the guy at work who doesn't go to the gym? Or the person you sit next to that one time on the bus, because there skin colour is different.

There is no reason to be condescending with the God complex you have when you do this. If anything, it just makes more mature people think you are a bit of a cunt...

PinkMichae · Answer

I have no problem if a guy prefers a women that's had less partners as I prefer men that have had more and are actually good in bed. That don't cum in 20 seconds. That know how to please a woman.

silverqueen · Answer

Yes but this behavior shouldn’t be condoned for men either. That’s all I’m saying. I’ll never take a slutty man seriously either 😂

_QueenOfTheDank_ · Answer

It's definitely your choice to judge someone due to their sexual past, and also not something to be ashamed about honestly.

Blonde401 · Answer

Lol so insecure.

SongBird3 · Answer

Yes, you dont have to accept a girls overly experienced past. But same goes for men, I wouldn’t wanna date a man hoe either

Patrickjv · Answer

Cool story. Why would you slutshame people (whatever that means.) One thing you should learn when you grow up is that the world doesn't give a fuck what you think and keeping your cunt mouth shut is not only mature, but commendable.

ashbail17 · Answer

I agree!

YingKim · Answer

I accept it 😦😮😯

anncohan · Answer

Virgin here. I would love to find a guy who didn't sleep around much, since it shows we have the same view on sex.
having said that, if a guy slept around but doesn't want a girl who did the same, that double standard, and i don't think it's fair.

CT_CD · Answer

Agree 100%. A lot of women on this site love to call a guy "insecure " if he doesn't accept a womans slutty past. The past matters. Most guys don't want to date a slut. Most men think less of women who sleep around.

Miss2468 · Answer

Men don't like knowing or hearing about other men, they want to think their girl is just for them...
Keep stories of your past lovers to yourself, believe me even if he says he doesn't judge you, he really does.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree but inly when it comes to people J would date.
I would never date a promiscues girls but I also wouldn't care if a girl that I wasn't interested in dating was promiscues. Thats their life and choices and personally I don't give a shit what strangers do

Anonymous · Answer

ok that may be YOUR preference, so date girls that haven’t been around a lot.
but DON’T call a girl a slut if she’s been with many people. that’s her decision. it’s funny how guys want their girls all to themselves pure and untouched but expect her to know everything lmao.
also, believe it or not but girls like sex too. just bc you like sex and can have a lot doesn’t mean a girl can.
if you don’t want a girl that’s been around, don’t date one, simple as that.

Why can’t girls understand that men can have preferences when it comes to your sexual past?

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