If a girl gets pregnant from a one night stand (assume they used a condom) then should the guy pay child support?

[Anonymous]

(I chose a condom as the form of contraception so that there was no chance of the woman lying about birth control in order to get pregnant. Assume that the condom had not been tampered with and it did not break, but somehow she still got pregnant).

So one night stand with a stranger. Woman gets pregnant despite using protection. He's the only possible father and she's willing to take a paternity test. She decides to keep the baby because she is against abortion and she doesn't feel she can go through with adoption. Her income isn't very high, though, and her family isn't willing to help her with the child. She feels bad "trapping" the guy over a simple mistake, but she doesn't think she has any other options. Should she pursue child support from the father, or would that be unfair? And what matters more: the father's right to choose what to do with his money, or the child's need to be provided for?

[SirRexington]

I was gonna say have an abortion but then I read that it wasn't an option. Talk to the guy and see what he's willing to do to help if anything at all.

However, he has no obligation to her whatsoever and should not be forced to pay child support. If she can't take care of it then legally it can be taken away, though I'm not a fan of this unless she is actually abusing or neglecting the child. Money should not be a reason for the child k be taken away and money shouldn't be an issue in the first place.

[InfoBot]

The risk of pregnancy comes with having sexual intercourse. If you don't want any risk then don't fuck. If you do fuck and pregnancy happens then you have to deal with it. The father would be obliged to pay child support and rightly so. Nobody raped him, he chose to have sex.

[fauchelevent]

If he wants to be involved with the child, I think so. If he doesn't want to and he makes that clear, then I don't believe he should have to, then she should make an informed decision on whether she can afford to raise a child alone.

[Rainlovella]

Yes he should if he was willing to have sex then it's always a risk both of you take. Need more advice feel free to contact me on my profile.

[SarahVanRensburg]

@theuglymonk yes I think if the man did pay child support then he would have shared custody of the kid. It’s his as well after all.

[TheUglyMonk]

For or against abortion?

[SarahVanRensburg]

Against obviously

[TheUglyMonk]

Then there is zero reason for you and your little friend to even try and start an argument with me if this whole time you're simply rephrasing my argument.

[SarahVanRensburg]

That person isn’t a friend and I even made it clear I’m against abortion so not sure what your issue is

[TheUglyMonk]

" I think they are inhumane and should be illegal and if I had a child I'd happily pay for him whilst living with his mother" I don't think I could've been personally more clear about my stance and mentioned several times that my stance is irrelevant to my statement.

[SarahVanRensburg]

Ok we get it

[TheUglyMonk]

Alright then I guess we have nothing else to discuss. Have a good day.

[alice55]

Yes because it's his baby. Accident happen but you have to face the consequence of it.

[laurieluvsit]

Yes, a boy is responsible for his mistakes.

[LisaLisa89]

Yes. If he is the father then he needs to share the responsibility.

[Jimmy_Russell]

The child ultimately IS the priority.
He knew the failure rate with condoms and still chose to go deep inside and let loose his load.

It's time to grow up.

[markscott]

Any time you have sex, there is a chance of pregnancy. The child is the innocent party, and needs to be cared for. Both parents need to contribute to the care of the child.

[_QueenOfTheDank_]

If he's the biological father... he really has no other choice unless the mother thinks otherwise.

[SarahVanRensburg]

I know my mom had to go to court to get my dad to pay for child support and which they made my dad pay since yes he is the biological father.

[_QueenOfTheDank_]

Ugh.

[Wraithguy]

Don't be a hoe and you won't need to worry about it as much. Find you a good guy and fuck the shit out of him.

[tzdc21]

Honestly, she should just have an abortion. I know in this instance she doesn't believe in that stuff, but she would be putting the child in a HORRIBLE position in the first place. And if she does decide to hunt down the guy for child support, you don't know how long that will take. The child could be born and the dad still couldn't be found possibly. Or what if (god forbid) the dad dies from an accident? Now she can't use anybody in this instance for the child support option. I realize it would be a hard thing to do, but if she doesn't have a supportive family and she absolutely cannot to adoption, to make life simpler for her and the child, abortion is the best option. Just my perspective.

[WalterRadio]

Legally, she can do that. And even if she doesn't, the child can hire a lawyer at some point if she knows who the father is and collect.

The father SHOULD have the right to choose in order for there to be equality. But the law does not say that in most countries.

[reptocarl]

Of course he should

[jackmaxim]

Nope you skipped the morning after pill and kept the kid damn no give the kid up if you can't take care of it your body your fault

[LegateLanius]

If she can decide to abort or not to abort, then he should be able to decide whether or not to have financial responsibility. Deciding not to have financial responsibility should be permanent just like an abortion and he should never be able to be part of the child's life.

[Waffles731]

Yes, Child Support is not about the parents, in fact the mother or father shouldn't use a single cent of it on themselves, its for the child only

[TheUglyMonk]

Nope. The mother has a way out (Abortion) and the father should be given the way out as well.
She has other options like getting a job and stop being a leach.

[SarahVanRensburg]

You’d want the mother to kill her child? Yes it probably wouldn’t be a good way to get pregnant but if she decided to keep the baby, you should pay because that’s your kid. Imagine your parents just decided to not give a fuck about you and not pay for your things? She isn’t a leach, she’s wanting you to pay for a kid that you helped create and that you should take responsibilities for your actions and look after your kid

[SarahVanRensburg]

When having sex with someone you know there could be a consequence to it. So why try back out of it like a wuss. Take responsibilities but then again you’re 18 and probably don’t really know what responsibility is.

[TheUglyMonk]

@SarahVanRensburg My stance on this issue is irrelevant to my statement. I don't believe in abortions, I think they are inhumane and should be illegal and if I had a child I'd happily pay for him whilst living with his mother. If a woman have a way out (murder) then so should a man (definitely not murder). Why is one allowed while the other isn't especially if the latter isn't a crime?

[TheUglyMonk]

@SarahVanRensburg I think we have a shitty child support system and too many single mothers abuse it, I believe the whole system needs to be reformed.

[SarahVanRensburg]

If one person jumps of a bridge does that mean you’re going to? At lease the the better person in the situation

[Asker]

Er, in this scenario she has a job; just not a very high paying one. She can't afford full-time daycare but can't afford to cut back her work hours either. So what is she supposed to do?

[TheUglyMonk]

@SarahVanRensburg As I said, if this ever happens to me I'll do my best to take care of my child but that's irrelevant. Child support should be the money spent 100% on the child and you should use your own money to do everything else, as we know that's not the case in most scenarios. Just like most social security systems it gets abused and needs to be reformed.

[TheUglyMonk]

@Asker Work something out with him or take it to court. Keep in mind that child support gives him right to shared custody.

[Honestlove12]

ABORTION IS JUST LIKE MURDERING SOMEONE. YOUR KILLING AN UNBORN BABY THAT HASN'T EVEN LIVED YET! THE GUY SHOULD BE MADE TO PAY UP BECAUSE HE CHOSE TO HAVE SEX WITH HER. CONDOMS AND CONTRACEPTIVE MED'S DON'T AWAYS PROPERLY WORK.

[TheUglyMonk]

@Honestlove12 Classic example of a retard who doesn't read.

[Honestlove12]

FOR ONE DO NOT CALL ME RETARDED BECAUSE I AM NOT. AND SECOND OF ALL YOU ARE THE ONE THAT MADE THE COMMENT ABOUT ABORTION SO NATURALLY I WOULD DEFEND NOT ONLY THE BABY BUT THE FEMALE THAT GOT PREGNANT FROM SOME PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO WOULD WANT TO KILL IT RATHER THAN CARE FOR IT. ALSO I DON'T CARE ABOUT THE OTHER COMMENTS THAT YOU PUT!

[SarahVanRensburg]

@Honestylove12 so true

[TheUglyMonk]

@Honestlove12 Further proofing my point, anyways have a good day and hopfully the damage done to your brain isn't permanent.

[Honestlove12]

GROW UP AND ACT YOUR AGE!

[TheUglyMonk]

@Honestlove12 Okay so stating that I am against abortion and believe it's murder and I believe it shouldn't be an option is me telling her to kill the baby? Who knew.

[monkeynutts]

That's why you should not have one night stands.

[Good_Behavior]

Yes.

[thevoid90]

We all know condomes arnt 100% but that is the risk the we take so it will occasionally happens and the offspring from that will be both of yours decision and yes if he is the biological father he should help suupport the kid

[SarahVanRensburg]

Well thank you lord someone had their head screwed on properly! I can’t stand people who don’t take responsibility and don’t even want to take care of their kid.

[CT_CD]

He shouldn't be forced to pay child support

[CT_CD]

It's funny how people will say the man should accept responsibility and "he knew the risk before having sex" but those same people are probably fine with women having abortions. Why shouldn't she have to accept responsibility and give birth and raise the baby? If a women makes a mistake an she can choose if she want to opt out of the legal and financial responsibilities that come with parenthood—by aborting a fetus—and therefore, so should men. Men should be able to get financial abortions

[SarahVanRensburg]

Not for me, I don’t think abortions are right. I’d never get one and it wouldn’t even be a choice. Even if I know the man didn’t want to pay child support, I’d keep the baby. I will never be a murderer. So if the guy who helped me create the baby inside of me doesn’t want to pay for child support, it shows what kind of man he is.

[CT_CD]

@SarahVanRensburg I love you

[SarahVanRensburg]

Um okay haha

[ungleamad]

Ask someone professional

[masterkamasutra]

one nights are not for make baby, if it happen abort it.

[Nice222]

The child needs to be cared for and he made the choice of having sex with her. So yeah he definitely should pay child support.