My boyfriend follows half naked chicks in his social medias?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 1.5 years follows and adds half naked chicks on his social medias. Also follows chicks he knows that he used like (or still does). Last two night i noticed he followed this chick he used to talk about to me and i know for a fact that he likes her. He has told me she is perfect with a round booty bc she os a gymnast.. Yes he said those words. I asked him and he goes "yup". He then unfollowed her. I didn't ask why and he hasn't brought it up. Back to the naked chicks. He added a few on SC and a few on IG.. Noth the same chicks either. I know guys love naked chicks but i feel like this is too far. Im ashamed to admit that I feel very insecure that I don't even send him nudes and hide in the sheets when we have sex.. Lile I wrap myself in sheets. He doesn't hype me up when i send him nudes.. I get ❤❤❤ kisses emojis "thats my girl""my girl thicc".. One disappointing one to me was " pretty pussy, thanks for sharing" bit he saves them all. Not only am I insecure but i feel like he doesn't need my nudes. He follows a ton of half near naked chicks. Also I feel that's why he only cums when im in a doggy style position or when he jerks himself on me. Oral or positions where we are facing each other.. He doesn't at all. He tells me im great and he's satisfied with me, that im "beautiful" and "sexy". I feel like he thinks of those naked women... I don't know what to do.. Im ashamed that Im allowing this to affect me like this. I have cried as well

[Anonymous]

I have a boyfriend and I keep pictures of Ryan Gosling, James McAvoy, Tom Hardy, and Fassbinder's dick outline in my phone. Same thing? Lol I don't know. I just love looking at pretty men. Doesn't mean I don't love my guy.
Let's say, he does have a physical type and you're not really it. But he's with you, isn't he? So there's smthg about you that makes him wanna be with you.
We girls are kinda vain, we want the guy to think that we're the prettiest creature he has ever seen and no other girls prettier (not true because Amanda seyfried, Eva green, Ashley fucking Graham).
What I'm getting is that, maybe it's your personality that he's most attracted to and that makes you win over all the sexy chicks he could've slept with. So the more you are fixated on your looks and become really insecure about it, that's gonna hurt the relationship more than any temptation he's ever had on sexy girls, because then he'll start thinking, "hey she's just a lot of drama and not the cool girl I thought I loved, is it worth it?". So, just chill and don't give him more reasons to doubt that you are the amazing girl that he fell in love with. Better, be such an amazing girlfriend that if he ever leaves you to bang some bimbo naked chick, he's gonna cry in his bed months later because he's lost you.

[VaIiant]

That's kinda a form of unloyalty... especially that first one. Why would he be checking out another womans ass openly (not in public, but on social media) and complementing her on it?
One of my best friends was in a relationship like this. Oh boy, did I hate him. Long story short, he ended up cheating on her (funny, since she's a 10 and he was, at best, a 3). He was a terrible boyfriend, and after she broke up with him, he tried to come crawling back to her pathetically. Just saying, it looks like you guys are going down the wrong road. Especially if you don't trust him enough to the point where you went through his phone (I'm assuming thats how you found out about all this.) Not cool on your end by doing that. Seems like neither of you trust one another. And, be honest, can you see yourself married to someone who does this? Because the point of dating is marriage, and if you don't see yourself marrying him, then

[VaIiant]

then I highly recommend getting out of this toxic relationship.

[Asker]

We have access to each other's phone. We have nothing to hide i just think this was a thing i didn't like. I know guys like naked chicks, just that adding them on your social media is a bit far. Especially since i know he jerks of to them (it'd be different if it was porn). He told me about her (idk what was the topic.. We were in our car). Yes I can and so can he. This isn't something to break up over. Just something I need an insight or advice one

[VaIiant]

It’s the actions of a little boy, not a man. And in my opinion you should be dating a man.

[Asker]

Guess so

[Anonymous]

Well if it hurts you like this, and you've spoken with him, and things still haven't changed. They never will. On to the next!

[Asker]

Mostly likely I won't tell him. If I do, I hope he takes consideration of how im feeling

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't, the problem is your's alone. How can he know it bothers you, if you say nothing?

[kuffs]

He is probability using the pics only for material. But the commenting he might be doing to help someone out like i am hopefully doing right for you. Maybe confront him and explain your concerns. Maybe he doesn't realize that his spank bank is getting in the way of your relationship. Assure him that your ok with him having a spank bank (if you are) and let him know that you are concerned that they are taking more of his focus than you.

[Asker]

Thanks for the helpful reply. Truly :) that's really what im more concerned about :/ a spank bank lul well i don't care if he watches porn but adding naked chicks on every social media that he has, jerking off to them makes it look like he's obsessed with sex and naked chicks. Knowing that and how he doesn't care much that i don't send him nudes anymore or hype me up when i do kinda sucks. End up comparing myself to them T. T which I know I shouldn't

[kuffs]

I am glad i could help.

[kuffs]

Part of your reply to me got cut off on my app. I got all the way to you comparing yourself to them. I hope you talk to him and if he isn't willing to change for you then dump him. There is many other guys that would change for you.

[LordSnuggles]

You're why guys don't like dating.

[Asker]

Stop being so dramatic. Thanks

[kittycat119]

I mean he has every right to follow who he wants to on his stuff. You don't get say on what he does on his social media. I mean if you're this insecure break up with him because if you don't then you'll make the relationship toxic

[Asker]

That was terrible but thanks

[kittycat119]

How? He's your boyfriend not property. He's allowed to do as he pleases. If you don't like it you have the right to breakup with him. Simple as that

[Asker]

Bc you're stating the obvious and suggesting to break up. Im not the petty to break up over something like this... I know its his shit and he can do whatever... Just needed and advice/insight.

[kittycat119]

And I did. Either stop pushing your insecurities on him or break up. That's your insight

[Asker]

He doesn't even know about this or how im feeling... You might as well not have replied.

[kittycat119]

So you're using girl logic? U dislike it yet he doesn't know. So how the hell do u expect him to know it upsets you so he'll stop?

[Asker]

Wtf is girl logic? Came for advice which yours was very shitty and bitchy.. Not to see if I should tell him or not. "Idk what to do" should have been a clue of what I want or need. Which was an advice or insight

[kittycat119]

And again I gave u the most insight u need. Either some up and tell hi it bothers u so he can either fix it or not. Or get over it. That's realistically your opinions. I'm being real with u and not babying u like u want. Either tell him or get over it. That's it plain and simple

[Asker]

That's not what you said. You came of very bitchy.

[kittycat119]

Uh. I was pointing out u have no say n what he does. He's allowed to do as he pleases. It's his life. You're the one being insecure. That's not his fault, because u won't tell him. So how is he supposed to know? He's not. So unless u say something you're the one in fault

[Asker]

Uh. Thanks for the obvious.. Again. He knows certain things bothers me.. That's why he unfollowed the chick without being told to. All i said was "you followed bla bla" which he said "yup" and i said oh. Layer found out he unfollowed. The only reason i asked was bc I wanted to know if anyone felt or have gone through the same to five me insight on how they dealt with it. He doesn't know i feel this. No idea therefore this relationship won't become toxic whatsoever.

[kittycat119]

Yes it will. That's exactly why it will actually

[Asker]

But it won't.

[kittycat119]

Keep telling yourself that

[Asker]

You're a psychic, huh?

[kittycat119]

I'm not the one whining about something I won't even tell my boyfriend

[Asker]

Good for you. Here's a cookie

[kittycat119]

Wow mature I see

[Asker]

Thanks