Sister-in-law keeps flirting?

[Anonymous]

So me and my wife have been married almost a year now. We're both 21 and we started dating at 16 years old. My wife's sister is 19 years old. I've always got on with my wife's sister as she is a nice person, but about a month ago, she started flirting with me whenever my wife wasn't around. She started off with subtle comments like "ooh you must lift heavy weights at the gym" whilst giving my arm a quick stroke. Then she started flirting more with comments about me being good looking and my wife being a very lucky girl. She laughs a lot at my jokes and recently I told a few shitty jokes on purpose just to see her reaction and she still laughed like I was some world class comedian. She even asks me whether I think she looks good in her outfits and then starts shifting her body in sexy poses and stretches her legs and feet and things like that. 2 days ago was the strongest hint yet that she's flirting with me. So me, my wife, her sister and my brother were hanging out and eventually my brother went home so it was just the 3 of us. My sister-in-law was staying over. We put on a movie and eventually my wife dosed off in my arms whilst cuddling and she started saying how much she wants a boyfriend in her life to cuddle with. Then about 10 minutes into the convo my wife woke up and went to bed as she was tired. Her sister then became much more open and once again mentioned wanting a boyfriens in her life. I felt as though she was trying to make a move on me as she kept rubbing her feet on me and she also kept asking me whether I like her painted toenails. I was worried this was getting too bad and said that I was tired and I offered to sleep on the couch so she could sleep in the bed with my wife as we were living in a 1 bedroom apartment... I love my wife to pieces and would never even consider cheating on her. I just feel her sister is trying to make a move on me and I don't know what to do about it...

[Turtleluv]

Damn you're in a tough spot. You can't tell your wife. You also can't tell the sister to stop. Both will probably get you in trouble with both of them. All I can say is stop being alone with her. If you're wife goes to bed, go with her. If your wife leaves the room go with her or go to the bathroom. If you get left home alone with the sister go shopping.

If you can set her up with someone that's an option too. However, I've never had any luck doing that for people and it makes friendships awkward.

[NancySk9m]

Ok you don't want drama so don't tell your wife, although it'd be nice, she might not believe you and there'll be a loot of drama, so what you can do is to avoid her sister, everyday, when she talks to you give her small answers and when she cuddles you, say you're uncomfortable. This way you'll not look like a rude person, she may get the hints you're not into her.

[Asker]

I've told her once before that it's not really appropriate for her to be rubbing her feet on me and she simply replied with "it's only inappropriate if we make it inappropriate" I didn't know what to say so I just changed the subject...

[NancySk9m]

Just tell her she's invading your space and next time if she still says that, tell her honestly that you don't want her, that you love your wife and at least she has to have some kind of respect towards her sister right? It's really annoying tbh that she's behaving like that.

[maliyahlovee]

Don’t sugar coat it with her, tell her honestly that you don’t want her and would never cheat on your wife. Not saying this is true but your wife could be apart of the plan but if she isn’t tell your sister-in-law how you feel and that she needs to back off.

[Asker]

I don't think my wife has asked her sister to "test my loyalty" or whatever. I feel like if she was to test me, she would've done that before we got married.

[maliyahlovee]

Very true but in that case just tell your sister-in-law the truth to make her stop.

[maliyahlovee]

Or tell your wife what her sister keeps doing

[Drooogie4]

Either she's trying to make a move, or she just is like that with every guy. Either way, it's wrong and she needs to back off.

[GL_Rein]

Tell ya wife. Start out with suggesting you're uncomfortable around her. Dont be accusing try "maybe im just paranoid but it seems" Even if she dismisses it, she will know to look out for it, not leave you two alone together, or confront her.

[kaskas19]

I would talk to your wife about it. Or tell her sister to back off.

[Asker]

I really don't want to cause trouble between them. They are really close and I don't want to ruin their friendship.

[Kiels01]

Your loving it!!

[Asker]

Not really, she's a nice girl and everything, but I'm seriously worried this will wreck my marriage...

[Kiels01]

She's probably just messing with your mind, if you are worried then you need to talk to her n warn her if it happens again you'll be talking to your wife about her behaviour