Have you ever had sex on the first date?

[coachTanthony]

If you are against sleeping with someone on the first date, let us know why below!

[NeallyNeal]

Okay let's stop all the name calling in regards to someone's preference to sleep with another on the first date or not. To be completely transparent... i have never had sex with someone on the first date. When you just want sex from someone... there is no need to go out on a date with the purpose of tricking someone to think you want more than just sex. All grown mature adults can easily communicate that meetup intend. If its dinner before or after the sex... so be it. We are all humans and have lives.. each persons lives and ability to put in the time required for a deeper connnection over time leading to sex is varies. Some folks want to see if they are sexually compatible before putting any serious commitment or time in right away. To each its own. And yes men are whores as well if the opportunity allows it. Both sexes are sexual beings... blame evolution and how we are programmed to insure our DNA survives. Be it in a quicky or committed exclusive relation. Just keeping it real folks. "LET HE WITH NO SIN CAST THE FIRST ROCK".. 💯

[nightdrot]

Outstanding answer. Parts I might quibble with... probably calling men "whores.. if opportunity allows" is not exactly consistent with stopping the name calling. However, overall, this was bang on the money. We can transcend our evolutionary natures. In fact, we are the only creatures on the planet who can and do. (If you raise a baby wolf to be the best wolf it can be, it will still be a wolf. If you raise a baby to be the best human it can be, it may write poetry or cure cancer.) However, the sexual instinct is one of our most deepest impulses and while we need to observe certain social conventions, there is certainly nothing wrong if two human beings feel the inclination to share each other's bodies in a sexual way, that is not exactly an assault against nature. You nailed it!!

[NeallyNeal]

Ty nightdtot!😎👍🏽

[Canuck37]

Unless it's a date with your best friend of the past ten years, no one could possibly know a person after the first date. Given that, you have no idea what you're getting into by sleeping with them. They could have all sorts of STDs; they could be a total mis-match for you; sex could turn them into a super clingy person. There's simply no reason to sleep with someone on the first date. Once you know someone, then you can judge more accurately whether you ought to sleep with them. If it's going to work out, it'll work out in time; if it's not going to work out, there's no value in adding someone to your "people I slept with" list.

[Wonderer89]

Yes, and I married him four years later 🤷🏻‍♀️
While it’s not something I’d advocate or recommend to someone who asked, i think it just depends on the people involved. For some it’s a huge deal and there is no respect or connection there except as a means to bump uglies. Others have a more casual approach to sex, a quick connection or are ok building something more from what started as a physical encounter if it works out that way

[SmartGirl92]

I don’t see anything wrong with it. If the chemistry is there & such, what’s stopping you? I mean, yeah, it’s practicing safe sex to wait till you know them on a more personal level. Protect yourself if they happen to have an std or if they’re just a douchebag. Other than that, it’s nobody’s business how you conduct yourself on any dates.

[Moonchild714]

Yes I have, if the chemistry is there I'll go with it. Never regret it. And those guys on here who are saying only with hoes/sluts, what are you? I call you guys Moes, Man-Whores, and LIARS because you're LYING about your own VALUES!!!

[mad_brat]

Well said! If there are hoes out there then there definitely also man hoes out there who demanded them.👍

[Moonchild714]

Thank you, I mean really their saying they do when with a Hoe , so I figure that shows there values 😉

[liTeWave]

Hahahaha !!! It so shows that you are 46 and have some solid life experience! Yeeeeeessssss, it's not your job to walk around on tip toes just in case a judgmental twat judges you. If somebody calls you a slut, the problem is THEM not you. I'm happy to read you have a sense of that. How I wish other woman understood that too. From the perspective of a man who does not judge female sexuality, it's so tiring to deal with women who are controlling and dishonest because they are so scared of being judged and so ashamed of their sexuality. The world needs more women like you :)

[Moonchild714]

Thank you it is definitely something that came with life experience as you said. I use to worry about what others thought of me, but now I know it is none of my business what anyone thinks about me. I can only control my own thoughts and feelings of myself and and that is the one that matters most!!!

[liTeWave]

I hear you!! And I've been through it too :) It's tough to explain this to some of the kids on here, though! I don't want to do that because he'll think this or that about me... Hahaha

[XRabbitHeartX]

No
Why?
I believe that sex is something special that should be shared between 2 people who love each other deeply and are in a committed relationship.

[th3c0unt]

Same principles as me.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@th3c0unt <3

[th3c0unt]

I respect your intellectual deductions... a lot. Where have women like you gone!! Very few on the net anyway :/

[OpenWine]

@th3c0unt there are enough women like that irl but it's not like all of them would be into you so lot's of searching till you get one that wants you

[th3c0unt]

^I gave up searching a long time ago. I came across a lot of super actresses. The whole act of being decent and principled turned out to be one big facade, an act, for them just to get me. I don't do bullshitters

[nightdrot]

Never have, and now that I have been with my girlfriend - and we have children - for over a decade I am not on the dating circuit. However, assuming two consenting adults who know what they want, I see nothing wrong with it.

As I say, I never did, but I certainly - under the right circumstances and all other things being equal - would have gladly done it.

[Mandycandy42]

I have, wasn't something that I intended but chemistry was there, one thing led to another and next thing I knew we were at my place. Not something I like, or recommend and generally would avoid it

[witherwing]

I have. I would never do it again.

[julie10123]

Why?

[wrex6543]

Same, learned my lession. That's for sure.

[witherwing]

While I ended up having a relationship with that person, the first time we had sex felt really meaningless and insignificant, because we didn't know each other. I don't want to have sex like that anymore.

[Doumdou]

Yes, I have. He was my boyfriend for five years after that. I don't regret and it was great.
I'm newly single and don't know if it will happen again though. I'll just see.

[mikan8]

well, if it's just lust and I don't think I'll see him again, then maybe. if I'm looking at having a relationship with him, then of course not.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

I have once... But in my defence we had been chatting nearly non stop online for WEEKS, so we probably knew eachother A LOT better than most people do on their third date.

[stifler1979]

Why the need to defend yourself?

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

@stifler1979 Fair. I guess because in some ways I am quite conservative about such things.

[Mr___A]

Yes twice ^^
And it was twice à great moment.
Never have regrets. What you've donne is done, and must have been done with total involve in it. ^^
I find sex is a great way to connect with somebody, and discover each other.
I don't understand at all why it receive such à special treatment... What's wrong with sex?

[SummerLH20]

Yes I have and I’m still with him 2 years later so it went well 👌🏻

[vishna]

I have not.

[MissMonstaz]

I've never had actual sex on a first date but I've been fingered on a first date though and gave a handjob. I'm not against it, but honestly, if I had sex on a first date, it would feel more like a hookup that an actual date so I'd rather not lol

[katiesmuff]

My husband would be a great example of a guy I screwed on a first date.

[Redawnx]

Lots of times. Some women I knew for awhile first, some I literally met that day on some dating site. One of them happened to be my first ever girlfriends best friend she had a crush on me so I invited her over and what happened happened, I have a promiscuous nature tho so.

[LittleSally]

No... I never saw a point in that.

[Logorithim]

Not on an official first date, but I have several times when invited to stay at a woman's place for a long weekend (when they lived with their parents) when meeting her for the first time after initially meeting.

[OlderAndWiser]

I had sex on a first date with several women when I was a young man but only once in the past 30 years. Now, I want a happy long term relationship and starting with sex on a first date rarely leads to a LTR.

[linaashxx]

Would? Could? Should? Nope not for me.

[motormouth31]

Yes I certainly have but I married the guy in the end so doesn't make me slutty 💋

[KimmyWhimmy]

unless u had a lot of sex partners before u married him

[Mevrick]

Same is a case with me.. I met a girl n we fucked later we got married to each other

[SmartGirl92]

It’s not really slutty either way. But congrats on your marriage.

[devilman666]

Not really against it, it's just not likely to happen. I'm demisexual, it's a part of the asexual spectrum and is defined by a lack of sexual attraction to other people unless you have a deep romantic connection with the person first, then sexual attraction comes afterwards.

[Muhfucah]

I have. It wasn't much of a date but an intentional hook up. Like I met a guy online just cause I wanted consistent dick that could learn how I like to get fucked

[lmw123]

Not my cup of tea 🍵