my twin sister has accept to lend me her account, because I need advices. I am a man of 20 years old. I am crazy in love with a girl of the same age as me, with whom I go out for 2 years. she is beautiful, intelligent, sweet, and basically the perfect woman that any man would dream to marry. the only trouble is that she is attached to her Christian religion, unlike me who is an atheist. that's not the real problem, I respect her religion except that she wants to wait marriage, unlike me who had sex for the first time at 17, then one year before meeting her. i really love her and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. but my urges make me suffering every time I hold her in my arms. Every time I kiss her I just want to take her cloths off, and I sometimes have wet dreams about her, and I fap every day thinking about her. because of our studies I should wait more than two years to marry her. and I do not know how I'm going to take it that much, especially since A lot of girls try to flirt with me, and resisting the temptation is really difficult. I was about to cheat on her, in bar, i was drunk and i kissed another girl, i was about to have sex with her, but I stopped when i received a call from my girlfriend, because she wanted to tell me how much she loves me. I didn’t cheated on her yet but I am about to become crazy, I even begin to tell myself that it would not be really deceiving her, if I just have sex with another girl or a prostitute, while waiting for our marriage, because I see myself unable to cheat on her after that. if it's only sex, it's not really cheating, right? but my sister says that it’s cheating. I really need your help! I don’t want to leave her because I know I will regret it, in two year when I start missing her. she also refuses any sexual practice as a hand job. on one side I think it’s adorable and cute, which makes me even more in love with her but on another I suffer
Look, I know I can be wordy, so forgive the hypocrisy here, but I'm not reading your block of text. I'm just going to answer the question:
You are not single. You are in a relationship. The fact that it is, as of yet, sexless, is understandably difficult for you, but that is how it is. If you kiss, or have any form of sexual contact with, any other person? That is cheating. It is a violation of your relationship with her. Full stop. End of story. No excuses, no rationalization. It doesn't matter if it's a second girlfriend she doesn't know about, or a prostitute. Being monogamous means being with one person, and if you are committed to her, that means no touching anyone else.
If you can't deal with that? Leave her now, before you further violate her by deceiving her into losing her virginity to you, thinking she could love and trust you, when you were sleeping around behind her back, because your cock was more important than loyalty.
Dude it's really not worth It you know it's not and deep down you know for a fact it is cheating goin behind her back and fucking someone else is cheating! You know this if you really feel she's the one then why the hell would you throw that away over a quick shag also screw anything you've heard or read why do you have to wait more than 2 years? if you want to marry her then do it! get your shit together man you know what you almost did is wrong I would kill for a girl like that for God's sake do the right thing please she deserves it!
It’s definitely cheating. Cheating is doing anything sexual with another person while in a relationship. Cheating is also just having emotional and intimate connections with someone even if it’s not physical. That kiss you had with that girl was technically cheating. Tell your girlfriend that you love her very much but waiting until marriage is something that you don’t believe in. Let her know that it’s making you very sexually frustrated. Ask her if doing something with someone else is okay (considering she is Christian she will most definitely say no) and if she does say no, just try and masturbate enough to kill the urges
Anything physical with another girl is cheating. You care about her a lot but you still want to go and relieve yourself in any kind of way. It's good that you respect her decision, but maybe you should tell her your struggles. Say it in a reasonable way that won't make her too uncomfortable so she can understand your side of it. You shouldn't suffer alone, but you shouldn't drag in a fling to hurt your relationship. It will only make it worse and make you feel guilty.
If it's that bad you either need to talk to her or break up with her. You're 20 ideally when do you want to get married? i'm sure it's not soon so do you want to either A, cheat on her B. rush into marriage just to get laid or C, wait until you're ready to be married. What about taking a break *waiting for the thumbs down* but if you're on a break technically you're not cheating
Yeah sex is cheating so sorry but you’ll have to wait... I guess for a Christian waiting until marriage and resisting the urge only makes their relationship stronger. When you get married it’s something that will become more meaningful and you’ll cherish more?
So before i give my opinion i just want to say that this isn't what you want to hear, so prepare yourself.
To answer your question, Yes. It is cheating in its purest form. If you honestly respect her and her religion, you wouldn't have to consider having sex with another girl.
When i read the part "i was about to have sex with her, but I stopped when i received a call from my girlfriend, because she wanted to tell me how much she loves me." I literally felt bad for your girlfriend, because she had no idea what you were about to do, and oblivious of your actions she just continues loving you.
Don't have sex with another girl unless you break up with your current one. You should see your girlfriend as a queen (dont worship her tho), and yourself as her king. Queens deserve nothing but the best, and having sex with another girl, my friend, is the opposite of that.
You have a coin, buddy. It's sides are love and hate.
Both of you keep flipping that coin like the last thing you'll ever do... this isn't how you'll be happy.
Cheating on her won't make it better either... you just have to tell her how you feel, but in a nice and warm way... if she doesn't want to, then you gotta leave. Maybe she'll reconsider after some time apart, maybe not... but cheating is never an option.
Well if you're an atheist, I'm sure you wouldn't value waiting until marriage for sex like she would since she's a Christian. If you don't accept her rules, then break off the relationship. If you know those are her rules and you stay in the relationship, then not abiding by them, is cheating, whether you feel it's fair or not.
Develop self control? that is on you mate to find what helps you have the self control. Maybe don't go out where potential sources of you cheating would occur. Simple version you have a particular mind set at the moment. So change your mind set. You change how you think about things and you change how you react to them. not going to lie article was a bit bland but it has some useful points that might help. http://www.myrkothum.com/mindset/ good luck
Dude kissing, dating and having sex with other people while being in a relationship is cheating
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No, it's not cheating. It's your girl's job to keep your balls empty. If she refuses to do her job, you are free to find someone else who will. I recommend prostitutes.
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If you love her you'll wait, otherwise move on... And yes it would be cheating...
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