My girlfriend want to wait marriage. Is having sex with another girl considered cheating?

my twin sister has accept to lend me her account, because I need advices. I am a man of 20 years old. I am crazy in love with a girl of the same age as me, with whom I go out for 2 years. she is beautiful, intelligent, sweet, and basically the perfect woman that any man would dream to marry. the only trouble is that she is attached to her Christian religion, unlike me who is an atheist. that's not the real problem, I respect her religion except that she wants to wait marriage, unlike me who had sex for the first time at 17, then one year before meeting her. i really love her and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. but my urges make me suffering every time I hold her in my arms. Every time I kiss her I just want to take her cloths off, and I sometimes have wet dreams about her, and I fap every day thinking about her. because of our studies I should wait more than two years to marry her. and I do not know how I'm going to take it that much, especially since A lot of girls try to flirt with me, and resisting the temptation is really difficult. I was about to cheat on her, in bar, i was drunk and i kissed another girl, i was about to have sex with her, but I stopped when i received a call from my girlfriend, because she wanted to tell me how much she loves me. I didn’t cheated on her yet but I am about to become crazy, I even begin to tell myself that it would not be really deceiving her, if I just have sex with another girl or a prostitute, while waiting for our marriage, because I see myself unable to cheat on her after that. if it's only sex, it's not really cheating, right? but my sister says that it’s cheating. I really need your help! I don’t want to leave her because I know I will regret it, in two year when I start missing her. she also refuses any sexual practice as a hand job. on one side I think it’s adorable and cute, which makes me even more in love with her but on another I suffer
My girlfriend want to wait marriage. Is having sex with another girl considered cheating?
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  • Look, I know I can be wordy, so forgive the hypocrisy here, but I'm not reading your block of text. I'm just going to answer the question:

    You are not single. You are in a relationship. The fact that it is, as of yet, sexless, is understandably difficult for you, but that is how it is. If you kiss, or have any form of sexual contact with, any other person?
    That is cheating. It is a violation of your relationship with her.
    Full stop. End of story. No excuses, no rationalization. It doesn't matter if it's a second girlfriend she doesn't know about, or a prostitute. Being monogamous means being with one person, and if you are committed to her, that means no touching anyone else.

    If you can't deal with that? Leave her now, before you further violate her by deceiving her into losing her virginity to you, thinking she could love and trust you, when you were sleeping around behind her back, because your cock was more important than loyalty.

  • Dude it's really not worth It you know it's not and deep down you know for a fact it is cheating goin behind her back and fucking someone else is cheating! You know this if you really feel she's the one then why the hell would you throw that away over a quick shag also screw anything you've heard or read why do you have to wait more than 2 years? if you want to marry her then do it! get your shit together man you know what you almost did is wrong I would kill for a girl like that for God's sake do the right thing please she deserves it!

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  • It’s definitely cheating. Cheating is doing anything sexual with another person while in a relationship. Cheating is also just having emotional and intimate connections with someone even if it’s not physical. That kiss you had with that girl was technically cheating. Tell your girlfriend that you love her very much but waiting until marriage is something that you don’t believe in. Let her know that it’s making you very sexually frustrated. Ask her if doing something with someone else is okay (considering she is Christian she will most definitely say no) and if she does say no, just try and masturbate enough to kill the urges

  • Anything physical with another girl is cheating. You care about her a lot but you still want to go and relieve yourself in any kind of way. It's good that you respect her decision, but maybe you should tell her your struggles. Say it in a reasonable way that won't make her too uncomfortable so she can understand your side of it. You shouldn't suffer alone, but you shouldn't drag in a fling to hurt your relationship. It will only make it worse and make you feel guilty.

  • If it's that bad you either need to talk to her or break up with her. You're 20 ideally when do you want to get married? i'm sure it's not soon so do you want to either A, cheat on her B. rush into marriage just to get laid or C, wait until you're ready to be married. What about taking a break *waiting for the thumbs down* but if you're on a break technically you're not cheating

    • I know that I want to get married young and be a young dad, maybe in two years when we will be graduated.

    • Can you live like this for another 2 years? really? only you can make the decision here

  • Yeah sex is cheating so sorry but you’ll have to wait... I guess for a Christian waiting until marriage and resisting the urge only makes their relationship stronger. When you get married it’s something that will become more meaningful and you’ll cherish more?

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  • You have a coin, buddy. It's sides are love and hate.

    Both of you keep flipping that coin like the last thing you'll ever do... this isn't how you'll be happy.

    Cheating on her won't make it better either... you just have to tell her how you feel, but in a nice and warm way... if she doesn't want to, then you gotta leave. Maybe she'll reconsider after some time apart, maybe not... but cheating is never an option.

  • That’s definitely cheating. You can either negotiate with her to have sex with other people while you wait. Propose to her now. Or wait. Having sex with someone else because your partner isn’t having sex with you is cheating.

  • Of course it is cheating and if you "can't" control yourself then you just need to learn self control it is not that hard to not think about sex.

    • How can I do it? Please!

    • Develop self control? that is on you mate to find what helps you have the self control. Maybe don't go out where potential sources of you cheating would occur. Simple version you have a particular mind set at the moment. So change your mind set. You change how you think about things and you change how you react to them. not going to lie article was a bit bland but it has some useful points that might help. http://www.myrkothum.com/mindset/ good luck

  • Uh... yeah it's cheating.

  • Unless she give you permission to sleep with another girl it's cheating

  • Yes?

    • Why don't you just marry her then if you can't wait...

  • Huh?

  • Yes... duh!

  • Well if you're an atheist, I'm sure you wouldn't value waiting until marriage for sex like she would since she's a Christian. If you don't accept her rules, then break off the relationship. If you know those are her rules and you stay in the relationship, then not abiding by them, is cheating, whether you feel it's fair or not.

  • Yeah... be loyal... I try to... make others feel the importance of loyalty but I know I will fail...😔😔

  • Are you kidding.

  • Dude you write like a girl. Grow a pair and get back to me

  • Dude kissing, dating and having sex with other people while being in a relationship is cheating

  • Yes.

  • If you really love her, you should wait for the marriage. It is even unacceptable that you think about having sex or something with another women.

  • Yes. Sex with anyone is still sex. Stop looking for loopholes.

  • If you have sex, intercourse, with someone, it is cheating. Other sexual acts are just a form of fondling and petting.

  • Cheating it is

  • If you love her you'll wait, otherwise move on...
    And yes it would be cheating...

  • yes it is since your dating someone

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