Girls, how would you react if your boyfriend asked you to have sex with someone else if he couldn't satisfy you?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone. As the title says I'm wondering how you would react if your boyfriend asked you to find other sexual partners if he isn't big/good enough for you.

The reason I ask this is because I am right now in a relationship with a girl and have been for 7 months. I really love her and I wish her to feel the same pleasure in life as she gives me by just being around me.
When we do have sex I have never really felt that she seems satisfied, she never says anything during or after and those times when I ask if it was good for her or if she came she just gives a quick yes, which doesn't feel like she's telling the truth.
I have tried to use toys and going down on her myself and even though I get a bit more reaction from her she usually tells me to stop because it starts to hurt after a while and again she doesn't really give any comments on how it was.

When it comes to sex for me I have barely any interest in it because I have a few medical and mental reasons that I don't feel any arousal anymore.
She knows about this but I'm afraid that because I don't have the drive or am the most endowed man out there I'm not able to sexually satisfy her.
So, because of all this I have been meaning to ask her to maybe go out and find other men to have sex with, someone who can give her the pleasure she deserves. It wouldn't hurt me at all because all I really care about is having her around, hanging out, going on dates and sleeping in the same bed together with her.

Maybe this is just me being overly worried about something or in a worse scenario she is about to break up with me, I don't know but just for the sake of making it simple, let's say a guy really wasn't able to satisfy you sexually, how would you react if he ask this question?

[djmzes]

Look dude
Communication is the key... I know it is tough to have that conversation but u need to have it.

Secondly women do not attain orgasm in sexual penetration but stimulation.

A woman is pleased by emotion and not physical.

So maybe your girlfriend is satisfied, but do not really show it in the way you can see it.
Maybe she is shy and not so showing off..

[witherwing]

I would feel like he is not even ready to try, if he pushed me to be with someone else. That would be the end of that relationship. Because this is a problem that can be fixed.

[Asker]

What would say that person had to try? I mean, I've been with her for 7 months and tried what I think is everything to give her pleasure and I regularly ask her what she wants me to do.

[witherwing]

If you don't have the goods, bring toys to the bedroom. If she's still not feeling it, the relationship is doomed anyway and there's no need for a "sex-substitute", just end it. You'll just get yourself hurt, if you make it an open relationship and she finds someone that is a better match for her and leaves you.

[Asker]

Ah, yeah that is what I was afraid of. As you say, it might just be better if I break it of with her now if she now admits that I am not able to give her pleasure. Only problem is that somewhere inside me I feel like I'd rather live with the risk of her finding someone better than to break it off completely. That is probably just my youthful love talk though and I'd regret it in the end. Thanks for your honest answer though. :)

[PinkMichae]

Do you initiate sex with her? Or does she initiate it with you?

[Asker]

It mostly just happens. Like, we can be lying in bed cuddling and I get the obvious physical response of getting an erection which just leads to one thing and then another. Apart from those times I would have to say it's mostly me because I can usually see/understand when she is horny so when I do I initiate by light touching and whatever and if she responds I continue. So I guess the answer is me, unless she willingly shows me when she's horny.

[PinkMichae]

Hmmm. It may not be you at all. She may not be able to relax for some reason. I would talk to her again. Tell her that it's important to you that you are pleasing her. Tell her when you are playing with her to let you know what feels good and what doesn't. Also I'd recommend a vibrating wand that you can use to stimulate her clit. Even if she is riding you, you can use it on her. Also try to just grab her sometime and make out with her. Be spontaneous. Make her feel like you have to have her. Also ask her to be open with any fantasies she has. I just don't think the answer would be to tell her to find another sex partner. She might not even want sex with someone she doesn't have feelings for. And you definitely don't want her developing feelings for someone else. With that said try to be more confident around her. Know what you have to offer.

[Krumpir]

What a freaking cuck! Ewww

[Asker]

Me? Am I a bad person just for wanting the one I love to feel pleasure? If I am unable to give her what she wants/needs, shouldn't I do everything to let her have it if it wouldn't hurt me?